What is personal-growth coaching?
Coaching allows you to work in a focused way to clear out what you don’t want in your life and to move consciously toward what you do want. It allows you to create your life while being accountable to someone who’s a staunch supporter, who’s persistently on your side, and who holds up mirrors for you to see what you may not see in yourself—and often, especially in the case of your best qualities, what you may not fully own. Coaching helps you to step into your power and live into your full potential.
How does coaching differ from therapy?
In coaching, we don’t go back into your history to understand why you operate as you do. We look at how you’re operating and how you might operate more effectively to have the life you want. Coaches tend to work with specific, focused issues in a goal-oriented way, with assignments and action points to move you along. The process therefore lasts for a much shorter duration, as opposed to the open-ended, ongoing, years-running therapeutic approach. Finally, coaching doesn’t address deep trauma or any sort of “emotional surgery,” though emotions and your “stuff” will inevitably come up.
In my coaching, I do work a lot with mindset and managing thoughts and feelings that keep you from moving toward your vision or creating the life you want. I often use The Work of Byron Katie, a powerful system of self-inquiry that allows people to get an often unprecedented level of clarity and insight into their own thinking and feeling patterns. My clients consistently express amazement at how quickly and deeply and concretely they experience change. I also support my clients to type themselves on the Enneagram, a beautiful, ancient, and complex 9-point personality typology system. When you're clear about your type, it's supremely helpful to look through that lens at your tendencies and growth points (including charting the growth journey you've already moved through and integrated into your being).
Finally, the coach-client relationship is different. Clients have access to me between sessions, with at least one e-mail exchange built into our work together after each meeting (your takeaways and my responses to those). We also use e-mail and phone check-ins as needed, helping clients to stay in a fruitful process and keeping me connected to that process.
Client comments regarding check-ins between sessions:
"These were very beneficial for me because they helped me out of some of my panicked, circular thinking."
— Brooklyn client
"I can remember one check-in in particular. I was sitting in my car outside the climbing gym and it was raining. I had just been a part of my first team brainstorming session at my new internship, and was feeling insecure about what I was bringing to the table. I was particularly focused on the moment when I saw myself as compared to the other intern, and you pointed out the significance of going from the See-er to the Seen. It was so useful because we were able to catch the moment in real time, not waiting until the next session to deal with it."
Much More than Sessions!
When you commit to a coaching process with me, you're not just signing up for regular one-on-one sessions with me. You're engaging with a whole program to bring what we do in session into your day-to-day life—in how you think, how you operate, and specific actions you're taking to implement what we talk about and to bring about the changes you wish to make.
You can expect the following:
Client comment on takeaways
"I appreciate your insistence on this part of the coaching. It makes it all the more valuable, and is quite different from the therapeutic model of coming for a weekly 'spew' and then going away until the next week! I feel that I am doing myself a big service by undertaking this coaching with you, and I'm grateful you are around to offer it!"
— Ithaca client (at beginning of 6-month process following a 4-session run)