WHAT LIFE COULD LOOK & FEEL LIKE

All the operating instructions you need for functioning simply & well as a human being on planet Earth

Photo of human being on planet earth from Greg Rakozy on Unsplash

Today I wrote some simple love-drenched words to someone I adore who was upset with themself about … something. A life thing. That’s all we ever get upset with ourselves about. Normal life things on planet Earth that we act are just terrible things from Goddess knows where in this confounding Universe.

After sending the message, the thought occurred to me this was my message to everyone. Everyone on the planet, but I’ll just start with my mailing list.

Please err on the side of NO [NO, ZERO, ABSOLUTELY NOT ONE IOTA OF] FEELING BAD ABOUT YOURSELF.
Do a pendulum swing away from any idea that you’re doing it wrong, away from any reason to be disappointed in yourself.
Follow your knowing, not other people's expectations or desires or beliefs.
And you don't have to get it right. You can course-correct as you go.

That’s the message. Can you feel it? Those are whole-life instructions right there. Can you imagine WASTING NO TIME ON BEATING YOURSELF UP or worrying about what others think or feel about YOU (YOUR LIFE, YOUR CHOICES, YOUR EXPERIMENTS, YOUR MISTAKES)?

Then what?

You’d be available to notice you feel bad when something’s off and you could care about not feeling bad and head toward feeling good. You might actually just come close to your heart, soothe yourself, take care of your body and nervous system, then open your mind to what other perspective or action is possible. You might notice INSTANTLY that the opposite of beating yourself up is called for.

So life could look like this:

You could just make your best choice in the moment without overthinking it and you could have access to quick access to course-correction.

And course-correction wouldn’t be about righting a wrong. It would just be about tweaking your direction.

Here you are, a human being in motion, giving it your best shot here & now to move toward the next thing that feels likely to be your right next thing, and then … you notice something feels off. So then you head roughly in the right direction—whatever feels a bit more right.

That’s it. Nothing to find fault with. No need to bury your head in your hands (or under the covers or in the sand). No need to go over what on earth you were thinking when you pointed yourself to where you find yourself now.

YOU’RE JUST A HUMAN BEING on planet Earth.

Will you please let yourself just be a human being? Here are 4 simple facts that could help with that.

1. You were never supposed to get it right on planet Earth. (No one does that here.)
2. Getting it right is not a thing. (Actually doesn’t exist in Earth reality.)
3. You were never meant NOT to disappoint or frustrate anyone. (That’s the stuff of desert islands and other planets.)
4. You were never meant to know the right direction and head straight that way as the crow flies. (That’s what crows do. And they make a lot of crazy noise doing it.)

This bit is important:
You were never even meant to sit around hating on yourself because you’re noticing now that you missed some cues and maybe are way farther down the path (or rabbit hole) that feels off that you would ever hope to be.

There’s one thing to do when you find yourself in the above scenario. And, craziest thing (put it to crow music): It’s the same thing  to do if you hadn’t found yourself in that sorry place!

Just be a human being in motion here & now heading roughly in the right direction.

That’s what people do at rock-bottom. It’s what they do when things are a bit messy. It’s what they do when things are just kind of normal. It’s what they do when things are humming along.

Move. ROUGHLY in the right direction. Not even trying to get anything right. You’ll keep getting operating instructions as you go. You’ll course-correct as you go.

And would you please have fun while you’re doing that? THAT, my friends, is very possible and desirable here in a human life on planet Earth. You’re supposed to have fun and feel the joy and notice the magic and laugh your fool head off. You can even scream like a crow. And this sense of fun and connection to joy makes you better company for the other journeyers here. And for yourself. And for other animals and sentient beings of all kinds (like trees and … I include rocks). Please have fun.

Love & blessings, Jaya