How to Prevent or Allow
Living in Everyday Magic


You cannot live in everyday magic if
  • you hate mundane tasks and think and talk about what  a pain they are
  • you practice the fundamentalist religion of efficiency
  • you allow yourself to be thrown off by things like poor customer service or pathetic world affairs—or you find yourself thrown off by such things and get stuck there, either by cultivating the feelings, reviewing the gory details, or judging yourself for feeling stuck or thrown off
  • you live by a script written out as to-do lists
  • you're always focused on what's undone or what wasn't done well enough
  • you go to bed reviewing what's wrong, bad, scary, troublesome, undone, not done well enough (then wake up reviewing ...)
  • you're making your personal-growth process a fix-it project, especially one with little kindness or gentleness (please read my book Scooch! if this is you!)
  • you're constantly evaluating and assessing and predicting
  • you're letting fear make your small and large decisions for you
  • you make little of crazy-amazing things that happen (even small samples of such) and feel a bit weird or foolish for noticing them at all

You get to live in and cultivate everyday magic when
  • you allow yourself to be struck with awe and wonder by the smallest things (bubble, flower, freckle)
  • you allow yourself to feel and think anything without judging it (and you still don't have to believe your own thoughts)
  • you dabble even intermittently with beginner's mind ("This is all brand new," "I've never seen you before, Familiar One," "I don't fully know all the things I think I know")
  • you play with new ways to love and test what unconditional love might mean as an ongoing project (what does it mean right now to drop conditions for loving you?)
  • you have great boundaries and don't fear, worry, or believe that your boundaries harm others (or keep walking yourself out of such fears)
  • you're willing to go against tendency
  • you cultivate a great relationship with your guidance system, prioritizing what comes up from inside over directives and opinions that come from the outside (and adopt outer suggestions only when and because they resonate with that inner thing that knows the difference between words that come in like a purifying gong sound or a lovely breeze versus those that hit like a sharp slap or an alarming siren)
  • you NOTICE and enjoy and appreciate magical things like synchronicity; crazy-amazing timing; repeating numbers, titles, images, words, people; signs and symbols that permeate your world, including in dreams, things watched or heard or overheard, encountered out and about, or online, or anywhere; and so on
  • you go to bed thinking about things you love, reviewing good moments in the day, considering what's done and done well enough, appreciating all that supports your beautiful life
  • you admire and adore the people you live with and encounter
  • you love yourself
  • you love yourself
  • you fucking love yourself, even now, even at your worst, even weak, even covered in snot, even when you hear yourself use that tone you most hate, even when you catch yourself in self-loathing; you just keep learning how to come back to self-love, a place from which, I swear to goddess, ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE

You're beautiful, and the magic abounds.
Love & blessings, Jaya
​Scooch!: Edging into a Friendly Universe
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Introductory program in Ithaca
​June 6, 2017!
The image above says it all. I hope to see you on Tuesday, June 6 at TCPL for my interactive talk on living in everyday magic, with lots of Q-and-A.
Everyday Magic
retreat for women, July 7-9
The group of women accrued to date is already a beautiful cast of characters. You will love reveling in the magic with them. Just a few spots left! Questions? Ask me! jaya@jayathetrustcoach.com or 607.339.9714
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