play with your power to create, enjoy your dance with consciousness Image of sewing supplies, including a button drawer, on mint-green mesh fabric from Curated Lifestyle on Unsplash. GAME = FUN GAME = EASE GAME = LOW STAKES GAME = A WONDERFUL WAY TO LEARN & PRACTICE SOMETHING NEW GAME = GETTING OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY GAME = NOT TAKING IT TOO SERIOUSLY GAME = Since this is no big deal, I’m going to see how well I can do, have fun doing it, and not worry about results. (Aka, detachment from outcomes already in place.) I’m going to tell you here about a game I made up to play with clients that has served us all very well. Think of it as a manifestation game. Or think of it as a way to play with everyday magic. Or simply see it as an opportunity to feel more alive and generate more easy fun as you move through each new day. You may know I’m a proponent of grand experiments. This is a small one! It costs next to nothing (a simple intention & some awareness) and can yield high results. Kind of like buying a scratch-off lottery ticket and winning the jackpot—except it’s more fun than scraping gray gummy stuff off a card with the edge of a quarter. The button game allows you to gather bits of data every day that confirm your relationship with a responsive Universe—you’re in dialogue with Source energy and not the only one talking. Maybe you already cultivate and love being in a dance with consciousness. Or perhaps you want to increase your ongoing awareness of your connection to your Inner Being and ALL THAT IS (along with the delicious fun & sense of belonging that goes with that). If you have any interest whatsoever in knowing & harnessing your power to create your reality or living in conscious contact with all that is alive and sparkles, I highly encourage you to run this gentle experiment.  Image of castle in the mist from Tim Rebkavets on Unsplash. The basis of the button game is an intriguing quote from Abraham-Hicks: It’s as easy to manifest a castle as a button. Maybe you beg to differ. Buttons are a dime a dozen. You may be wearing several right now. So you have little or no resistance to buttons—no aversion, outrage, annoyance, or even much of an opinion! You’re not worried about not having enough buttons or being unworthy of buttons. You’re not concerned about anyone seeing you as an entitled jerk or a fraud if you have too many or insufficient buttons. You don’t think you need more resources than you have access to in order to fill up on all the buttons you could want. They’re just buttons! Conversely, you might have all kinds of resistance to castles. Just reverse everything above, and there it is: lots of reasons to keep castles way out of reach from the realm of possibility you typically reside in. So how do you play the button game? If you’re curious about this idea that it could be as easy to manifest a castle as a button, then at least show yourself that you’re a rock star at manifesting buttons. Establish with a playful daily practice—a GAME— that you can manifest a button just because you’re carrying that intention and constantly seeing it fulfilled. You’ll find your solid footing on the button end of the scale and, from there, you can scooch all the way to castles. Note that you’re not GENERATING buttons. You’re inviting life to send buttons your way, then your job is to notice that life is doing just that. Look, there’s a button! Damn, another button! Add to your job description to appreciate the button, admire the button, enjoy the button, and more than all of that, appreciate that you’ve set up a game to play with the Universe (the Force, Source energy, God, whatever you like) AND IT HAS JOINED YOU IN IT. Which can equally happen if you play a castle game. If you go for the things you want in life (the job, the relationship, the creative expression) and you actually believe that your intention plus noticing how life is playing with you can bring it on. … But start with buttons.  Image of person buttoning up a nicely crumpled linen golden shirt from Hrant Khachatryan on Unsplash.
To play the button game, declare a low-stakes (button-sized) thing you’d like to see every day that you have no resistance to and ultimately no need for. You’re going to manifest this thing daily just because you’re intending and inviting that. It will in no way affect your life, never mind your well-being, if you turn out to be a total loser at this game. (You won’t, though.) Clients I’ve played this game with (especially in my manifestation groups) have declared these sorts of things as buttons:
Note that button-sized is quite a subjective concept. If you have a big story about feeling disconnected and no one else ever reaching out to you first, then setting other people reaching out first or initiating things as your button won’t work at all. It’s got too much charge. Go for something easy that will rev up no resistance FOR YOU. When you’ve got buttons down, you can go for something bigger on your way to castles. Perhaps you’re already up for a heftier project. Find your just-right level of engagement, and tweak it if it’s not feeling fun and easy. This game works best when it activates your joy, delight, awe, wonder … A word about forms (and more of what the button game can teach you) Let your daily button surprise you. It can take many forms, and some may be so unexpected, you could miss them altogether. Some buttons already obviously leave room for unspecified form—for example, heart-shaped things could come as flowers, leaves, rocks, puddles, clouds; jewelry, dots on I’s, a mark on a dog’s fur; a dollop of mashed potatoes, a pile of laundry on the floor. But any button can come to you in various forms and venues. Here are just a few:
My client whose button was yellow birds had it delivered one day in audio form when someone else had the TV on. Their focus on their own task was interrupted by a classic cartoon voice—Tweetie Bird musing out loud about spotting a cat. (Does everyone know what color Tweetie Bird is?) When I was playing with unexpected bird sightings, I had so much fun with that. The red cardinal poking in and out of a bush in different spots. The sparrow in the coffee shop’s outdoor space taking a sip of water from the edge of the dog dish provided. The hawk suddenly twisting at the tree line as if deciding on the fly to perch here now (with a brilliant flash of sun on its fiery tail feathers). I recently launched a new round with TWEAKS as my button—that is, representations of little adjustments needed (as opposed to major revamps). I hadn’t thought of my new button once on day one, until my last client told me they were bringing a topic that just needed a tweak. I got a fun little jolt and felt a little secret smile form inside me. (I love that aspect of the button game.) In every realm of life, the Universe can always bring in what you want in any number of forms. Super-specific instructions about your desires are not needed (and indeed, could get in the way of forms coming in that you haven’t yet dreamed up—certainly not that specifically)! The button game will give you a visceral knowing of this truth as you engage with it daily, and better, feel surprised and delighted by the plenitude and sheer brilliance of the forms your intention takes when manifest. As in all of life, you don’t need, in the button game, to determine the how. You don’t need to figure out, declare, or orchestrate the specifics of what comes to you. Staying with the general essence of what you want and knowing that it’s on the way is the bulk of what’s needed. Watch for it, and fully enjoy and appreciate it when you notice it’s here. Trust your own capacity to recognize what you’re after, and maybe find a time daily to remember and savor your button—or look for it retroactively if you missed it in the moment. What you playfully train yourself to do in the button game, you can do with everything you want in life. And that could even be castles! Love & blessings, Jaya Did you notice this post has an audio version? See button just under the title.
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 Photo of a person sitting with cat and holding a mug from Andrej Lišakov on Unsplash. FINE HAS A BAD RAP. Twelve-step folks use FINE as an acronym for fucked-up, insecure, neurotic, and emotional. It’s common for anyone to plug in FINE for meh, or not much going on, nothing to say, business as usual. By and large, people believe they don’t want to feel FINE. They typically want to feel something more pronounced or more ideal. They want to feel something essential to how they love moving through life. Little SIDE TRIP FOR ENNEAGRAM LOVERS with how each type may want to feel (skip down to Who wants fine? above pic to skip it):
Note that he bullets above follow the essence qualities & preferences of 8, 9, 1 … and count sequentially from there to land at 7. As taught by Russ Hudson, I always begin with the three body types, hence 8 as the starting point.) So … who wants FINE?  Photo of a person raking a lawn with German Shepherd dog looking on from Kübra Arslaner on Unsplash. You do, I promise. Hear me out, if you will. I’ll make it worth your while. Consider FINE to be synonymous with content. Just a baseline contentment that asks nothing of life, for right now, beyond what’s actually happening. Equate FINE with satisfied. This works. It’s enough. It’s good enough. It’ll do for now. In FINE, you’re in acceptance of what is. You’re not finding fault, you’re not squirming in your seat, you’re not resisting what is. You’re letting things be without giving up on what else you might want. You’re certainly not getting out the microscope to magnify some kind of discontent or pointing out the what’s not-quite-right to others. Treat FINE like needs met. Okay. All right. And here’s a little trick I played: Embedded in how I wrote the above is an example right off the bat of what I most want to invite you to do with fine—because this is the latest invitation from Abraham-Hicks in their amazing teachings on aligned living. Did you notice the lingering, the repetition? Don’t just say it’s fine, you’re fine, things are fine. SUSTAIN IT. Remember finding the feeling place? Find the feeling place of FINE and stay with it. Get a solid, strong, embodied sense of FINE. Believe it. Hold it. Know it. Intend it. Look for it. Speak it. Think it. Review it. Bring it to that visceral knowing, right into your bones. For real: be FINE. When you sustain that, guess what happens??? What happens from FINE is a lingering sense of a baseline well-being that feels pretty damn good. It’s reliable and real. You’re really fine—no bullshit. As you SUSTAIN feeling FINE (loving me some repetition, as sustaining it is key), you can’t get stuck there! You truly cannot. You don’t sustain it forever, only long enough for it to take you to what you like even better. And hey—as long as it takes. Stay with it!  Photo of a person in a wheelchair paused in a courtyard with someone ahead they’re smiling at and someone behind them holding the chair, from Getty Images on Unsplash. Remember, everything in the Universe gains momentum. It works both ways: build momentum from everything that annoys, upsets, and distresses you, or build momentum from feeling pretty good. Whatever you focus on will take you to the next level, up or down. From FINE, or content, satisfied, and accepting, you could soon have easy access to optimistic, confident, sure. You could start feeling playful then bump into some (not so) serious fun, amusement, hilarity. You could shift into delight, head-shaking appreciation, pure awe. Those joy spikes could grab you anytime. You know that strong connection to what matters, to the magic, the flow? That sense of being guided and in purposeful motion? Suddenly you’re inspired and taking inspired actions without overthinking things or needing to be sure of any outcome. You’re just catching the wave or riding the current right toward what you most want! You know that feeling when life keeps taking you effortlessly round the next bend? I want you to know it and know that you know it. And let yourself get there from establishing a strong foundation of FINE. Wait, why not just start with feeling fantastic? Let’s just follow our bliss and rev up the passion, no? Um, no. For the simple reason that you don’t always have access to the highest and best. You may be nowhere in the vicinity, as Abraham says. You might fool yourself into thinking you should have access, and then get down on yourself, then plummet quickly from dissatisfaction to depression or even ongoing blah-malaise. So don’t even aspire to that. Aspire to fine. You may have no access to higher emotions because of a (habitual and culturally sanctioned) way of focusing on what’s wrong, what bothers you, what isn’t up to par, what you haven’t gotten done yet, how you’re not healthier, more fit, or further along in your career. It becomes NORMAL for all kinds of NOT FINE things to take up your field of vision, your time, your energy. It’s not just your FOCUS, but also your life force. Then you generate all kinds of unhappiness & unnecessary suffering from there, and you start to think that’s what life is, then all you see is more evidence of that. Momentum. (Aka, Law of Attraction.) YOU HAVE EASY ACCESS TO FINE. You can walk yourself to fine and hang out there. Seriously, it’s okay. Be okay. Just be fine. You won’t get stuck there. Fine is your gateway to all those larger feelings and ways of being that you live for. Call it in, give it your focus, and sustain it. I invite you to a grand experiment: collect the data of all that flows in from FINE. Love & blessings, Jaya Try SEGMENT INTENDING from Abraham-Hicks to point yourself toward FINE bit by bit all day long. Did you notice this post has an audio version? See button just under the title. FROM TWISTED FEAR TO FEELING THE VIBEStrange things to experiment with, here in the midwest. So it turns out even how you get through a violent storm is all about focus. And your power to focus is something you can consciously control, whether you use (develop, hone) that power or not. Click on button just above (below subtitle) to skip reading and hear the 11-min audio version.  Photo of a tornado and dark, ominous sky with a field in the foreground from Nikolas Noonan on Unsplash. I have always been afraid of tornadoes. You don’t need a big story for that to be true. Violent wind conglomerates that can twist a house off its foundation and give it a new address—that’ll do right there. My dad did have a childhood tale of trying to race a twister home and getting plucked off his bike and deposited unceremoniously (also unscathed) in the cotton field up the road a ways. So I was predictably feeling fear the other night when a tornado watch had been declared till midnight. Watch means the conditions are right, so pay attention for the screaming sirens that mean the actual demented winds have been sighted—then head for the basement post-haste. I’d made the trip downstairs the week before with my 89-year-old mother, so I could still access the felt sense of that particular warning system—uncomfortably weird, eerie, relentless. (I could use the same words to describe the song of coyote packs, which I also occasionally hear from my bedroom, but I consider that sound divine.) I decided it would feel better not to go to bed for real, but to lie fully clothed on my made-up bed. Solid plan, if based in fearful vigilance: just lie on the edge of trembling for a few hours, ready to walk my unsteady housemate downstairs if need be.  Photo of blurred figure near a window with a blurred nighttime storm visible through textured glass from Emanuel Haas on Unsplash. I’m practiced at and now predicated to think in terms of feeling better. I also treasure the concept and experience of presence, so I make it a point to get back to body awareness as quick as I notice I’ve left it. In fear, I left. In noticing, I wondered right away what else I might do to feel better. The breath is always a great first thing to tune in to and bring in as a felt sense, and doing that brought me back to my senses. I could see and hear the lightning storm exploding in the darkness behind my blinds. I could feel the power of the storm, something charged in the air even here inside the house. From that conscious contact with body and breath, a better-feeling thought came in on its own: There’s something I like about this. That singular thought shifted everything, as I then chose to make it my predominant thought—my focus. I decided to bring the storm closer and let it make its impressions on me. I opened the blinds, then felt inspired to crack the window, and that felt okay. So I lay back on my bed, not quite relaxed, but curious. I was going to allow myself a fuller, more sensory experience of the storm and just let my fear be in the room too. Beyond my uncovered window, the lightning was so striking (okay, no pun initially intended, for real), with traveling craggy patterns and gorgeous, intermittent sheets of light. The cloud shapes staggered in and out of luminescent relief against the darkness. Here I was in a light show! I could also smell the storm-drenched air. It smelled good. The sound, uninterpreted, was magnificent. The more I felt into the storm and engaged with it in a sensory way, the more (and more quickly) my experience shifted. The noise went from scary and bomblike to interesting, intense, insistently alive. Everything felt vibrant. This was the crux of the feeling state that ended up eclipsing the fear I’d begun with: vitality, wide-awakeness, aliveness. In this now-moment, the storm was my connection to life. Lying within that perspective, allowing that to take over my focus, I didn’t even care about tornado or no tornado anymore. (And it never manifested.)  Photo of lightning in the night sky from Ahmed on Unsplash.
Culturally and thus individually, we’re predicated to focus on thinking rational thoughts and taking appropriate actions. In fact we think of focus as meaning focused thought, focus on a task. You don’t need to throw all that out (there’s a baby somewhere in that murky bathwater), but what if you played with more focusing of EMOTION? What if you first paid attention to and worked with and mastered your feeling states? Then from a place of feeling how you want to feel (perhaps something more easy, relaxed, clear, confident), you could think and act accordingly. This has been my grand experiment thanks to the teachings of Abraham-Hicks. It was amazing and surprising to bring it to the storm. I’ve never done such a thing before—just tried with more or less success to soothe my fear and tell myself calming things. My predominant emotion at the beginning of the storm was fear. Lying on the bed consciously seeking to drop down tense muscles and find some flow in the breath, I tuned in to a new possibility of focus. Storms may be scary but they’re also beautiful and fascinating in their electrical fervor. Immersing myself in that didn’t exactly take me to a relaxed, peaceful vibe, but I don’t need peace as a constant emotional setpoint. Do you? I don’t want anything as the only thing I ever feel! And feeling (not thinking about, not taking an action against) the power of the storm took me to awe, wonder, vibrancy—states that emotionally feel way better than fear. This is the power of presence. I left the dream of danger on the horizon (which was rushing my way in a screaming crescendo), I shifted to feeling solid in my body and connected to the breath. Through my senses, I became connected to the storm, no longer separate. The story of being snatched in the night evaporated because it gave way to actual experience and a chosen focus that brought a wanted feeling state. I think if I can do it with tornadoes, I can do it with anything. I think you can do it with anything, whatever the particulars of your amazing life, whatever your senses may bring in as you bring yourself to presence in any moment, in whatever circumstances, and scooch toward your best possible focus here and now. I’ve written about the importance of just feeling better, of prioritizing feeling good. I invite you to a strong intention to keep catching yourself feeling bad for any reason (and it’s so easy to justify feeling bad because … life), and vow to walk yourself, PRACTICE walking yourself in one way or another toward better, better, better … good. This comes straight from the teachings of Abraham-Hicks. The more I play with, learn, practice, and support others in the concepts and processes offered from Abraham, the more I like myself and my life. The more I hone the power of my focus. The more things around me look like more of what makes me feel good. I want this for everyone on the planet. This stuff can freak people out a bit, as we’re taught to be suspicious of too much well-being or feeling good. We’re suspicious of feelings, period. With and without helpers of whatever kind, I invite you to risk feeling good too much of the time and play with meeting yourself and your life head-on, whatever the current conditions. For the record, I love to combine these teachings with coaching processes. I’m very skilled at helping you look into your thinking, notice what you’re prioritizing, find how to create worthwhile experiments to test these principles for yourself in the lab that is your life. I strongly believe that you (anyone!) can find the power of generating more of the feeling states you want, and from there more of everything that makes your life something beautiful and fulfilling that must then be a blessing to the beings of this planet and the Earth herself. Love & blessings, Jaya Did you notice this post has an audio version? See button just under the title. DO NOT CLAIM IT AND GET STUCK WITH IT  Mere cat among meerkats meme. The domestic cat is in the forefront on the right, assuming the same standing pose that all the meerkats grouped here naturally hold. Have you ever noticed that when you label something you witness in yourself, while it can be helpful and perhaps validating, you can also give it more power? This is a THING and this name PROVES THAT IT’S A THING. Worse, you may now feel sort of helpless or at the mercy of this big bugaboo with this serious name. FRAUD SYNDROME (also called impostor syndrome) is a great example of this. Once you declare you have fraud syndrome (and keep talking about it and explaining it to people and to yourself), you stake down this sense of not being enough, not really fitting in here, not being valid in the role you’re playing or the task you’re fulfilling. What’s crazy (I mean, besides the fact that it’s simply not true) is that it’s likely you chose this playing field yourself! In other words, you want to be in it and you care about learning more here, perhaps even developing some level of mastery. What if you simply noticed thoughts moving through that you might put in the FRAUD SYNDROME bin? What if you wrote them down or said them aloud and looked at what you’re actually saying? You can actually dismantle wrong thinking instead of reinforcing it by announcing to the next person that you have this cursed fraud syndrome thing. What is it you’re saying?
That last statement is probably the only one that’s actually true. And it’s also not a problem and good to know. What if you noticed and let it be okay that these thoughts are in the mix? You don’t have to believe them, though. You might make little of them. You can in fact work gently to move along your ideas of fraudulence instead of making identity out of them. Fraud syndrome is so normal—which is why it’s been named and we’ve all heard of it. Everybody has it in some way or has felt it in some context. That doesn’t make it a useful or accurate or necessary label. It’s certainly not the best description of who you are and what you’re up to.  Photo of person in quasi-professional garb from Alla Kemelmakher on Unsplash. What follows from saying, in essence, I AM THAT? Only disempowered ways of being: you’ll tiptoe around hiding something, or puff up to compensate for something, or buck up to prove something. As a (not really but self-declared) fraud you’ll do SOMETHING wacky that serves no one, least of all you. Like any- and everything else you might feel about yourself (e.g., confident, self-conscious, powerful, wobbly, happy, sad), the sense of being a fraud comes & goes. It has different levels of potency at different times. It’s not a solid thing you're stuck with; it’s not even objectively measurable. In other words, it’s really, truly not worth the price of the label. Why would you set yourself up to live into or fight against such a thing? You can ease and SOOTHE and counter and CLEAR OUT the sense of being a fraud. You can notice you're in that mentality and pivot quickly! Here are three seriously simple things you can do toward that end. Thing 1. Ask yourself some judicious questions to get real with yourself:
Actual answering these questions will have more power than walking around arguing for limitations by giving them the bogus title of FRAUD SYNDROME. Thing 2. Be clear what it means to be a fraud and actually take in that you are not that! Tell yourself that nope, in fact you are not an impostor in any way, shape, or form. Yes to the questions in the above bullet points would be cause for considering yourself a fraud (um, and then you could correct that, not worry about it). Or check out and take in this definition of impostor from Merriam-Webster: “One that assumes false identity or title for the purpose of deception.” Not what you’re up to? Then you’re not a fraud. (If that is what you’re up to, either carry on or clean it up but there’s no label needed either way.)  Photo of person dressed as an elf from Fellipe Ditadi on Unsplash. Thing 3. Soften it. What’s truer than “I have fraud syndrome” or the thought underlying that, “I’m a fraud”? Restate it to yourself in softer, more accurate, more manageable terms:
Does it feel better to think in these terms? Are you in fact being more real with yourself (and therefore with others) when you look again, beyond the label of fraud syndrome and a blind acceptance (and regurgitation) of that label? You’re not a fraud. You’re on a valid journey of becoming. It's really about building muscles, gaining confidence over time as you try new things and move toward mastery all over again. I invite you to be willing to be in a growth process, to run experiments, and to play with trial-and-error knowing there will most certainly be errors along the way. Keep going if and because you love what you're up to! And gauge the improvement and evolution as you go, instead of constantly noticing what you haven’t yet attained. Finally, feel like a badass more often. YOU ARE BADASS. If you think not—well, you get to be if you decide that and live into it. Love & blessings, Jaya Did you notice this post has an audio version? See button just under the title. For those who love or want to try Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT, or tapping), here's a session I did on Fraud Syndrome (13:46). And here's another tapping session on Fraud Syndrome (15:09). Other typical power zappers (besides walking around thinking, speaking, and acting like you're a fraud) can be found here.  Photo of dog not even thinking about letting go from Barnabas Davoti on Unsplash. Pic is linked to a blog post on finding an easy way into alignment. Bottom line up front: If you’re surrendering from a place of alignment, it will not feel bad. It will not feel like giving up. Not on yourself, not on your dreams, not on your becoming—which means your evolution, your greater expression of all that you are, your getting more of what you want. It will not feel like defeat—and you will not feel like a loser or a failure. It will not feel like a wet blanket, a rained-on parade, a burst bubble. It won’t even feel like losing your agency. The right kind of surrender, in fact, feels GOOD. It feels like RELIEF, like relaxation. Like contracted muscles softening, opening, dropping down. It feels like the blessed end of unnecessary striving—most often, letting go of what you can’t possibly control, what was never yours to control in the first place. It feels like a welcome-home, like coming back to yourself, back to your business. Back to what’s actually yours to manage, to control, to choose.  Photo of person floating in natural waters from Lia Bekyan on Unsplash. Linked to the blog post FEEL BETTER. That’s why SURRENDER—the good kind—cannot be all-or-nothing. Be careful with questions like, Should I hold on (to this WHOLE THING) or surrender (this WHOLE THING)? In that great ball of wax, there are disparate bits to sort through: weighty bits that you could put down and lighter bits with your name on them that you could hold onto firmly with (at least some semblance of) competence and ease. In the aligned surrender, you still get to have choices. In fact, you’ll have some decisions to make. The decision-making gets way, way easier once you’re deciding from a place of sanity, not trying to manage the unmanageable. When you’re not arguing with reality (as Byron Katie puts it), not pushing against anything (as Abraham-Hicks repeatedly reminds us NOT to do to have the best life and greatest ease and fullest power to create), then you can stand solid, relaxed and aligned, on a firm foundation of seeing and accepting reality as it is. From that foundation, you’re free to manage what’s yours to manage, and you simply keep letting go of the rest. I chose the phrase keep letting go very intentionally. It’s important, even crucial.  Photo of horse’s neck and head with bridle from Tim Schmidbauer on Unsplash. Pic is linked to a blog post on Byron Katie’s 3 kinds of business. I so often see super-smart human beings thinking in terms of pulling some plug to be done with something once and for all. Usually, their language betrays that they thought that would (or should) happen, as they speak especially in terms of still—as in, I’m still trying to convince the doctors to listen to me. I typically have my coaching clients reframe that in a heartbeat in session. Just BRING IT TO NOW. Just be with your impulse to grab the reins of someone else’s horse again, and get really good at putting them back down as quickly as you catch yourself. Correct it in the moment, not in the whole of how you operate. Hey, you do get to have a plug pulled sometimes, maybe from a powerful healing process or ritual; maybe through an epiphany or stroke of insight; maybe from a peak experience or some hellacious unwanted event that floors you and rocks your world, leaving you forever altered. But most of the time, the undoing, the reprogramming, the unraveling and rewiring—all involves what you notice now, pause with now, accept right now because it’s here right now. In that conscious pause, you can find where to surrender and where to assert or simply choose. In the now-moment, you make your best choice within your control toward what you want and who you want to be, now and now and now. and now and now and …  Photo of person wearing CHOOSE LIFE tee-shirt from Steve Harris on Unsplash. Pic is linked to a blog post on EASY DECISIONS made from your best self & all 3 centers (body, heart, head). So love, please don’t surrender out of a sense that you’re screwed and have lost all capacity to choose. In every situation or relationship or moment, there are areas of letting go and areas of holding fast. Let yourself feel the RELIEF of what you appropriately stop trying to control and the POWER and SATISFACTION of making all kinds of choices where they’re yours to make. In fact, don’t abdicate the choices that are yours to make. In a moment when you come close to where you do have agency, tune in: What’s important to you here? What do you want? (Not, what do others around you want or even want for you?) This is your life. What you can’t control in it is not your business, so do surrender that. But that surrender will not be absolute; most absolute surrenders involve giving up and failing to locate your right agency. Locate your business here and now and find your power to choose, to act, to stay true to yourself. My dear one, be(come) someone who knows when and how to surrender and be(come) the one who chooses your life. Love & blessings, Jaya Did you notice this post has an audio version? See button just under the title. |
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