Photo of two bees on a yellow flower from Mario Beducci on Unsplash.
I’m dropping these for you to fine-tune your power to create what you want on your own. And if you’d like great and fun support in getting better at this I-CREATE-MY-REALITY thing, I’d love to pique your interest in the 5-week Manifestation & Magic coaching groups starting next Monday 2 pm ET & Tuesday 6 pm ET. (Yes, June 16 & 17.) And yep-yep-yep, I’m still taking one-on-one clients! (Sometimes people seem to think that if I’m doing groups, that’s all I’m up to.) Just write and ask for a 45-min free consultation. This writing contains one manifestation principle plus: 1) some thoughts to support your deeper understanding; 2) some ways to play with it and practice. Here’s nugget #3. TREAT & USE APPRECIATION AS YOUR GREATEST ALLY IN MANIFESTATION. WHAT THIS MEANS When you’re …
… YOU’RE OUT OF ALIGNMENT WITH YOUR INNER BEING. Other ways to say that: You’re out of alignment with …
Hey, you can even just call it being out of alignment, period, and drop any name for the pure-essence-can-do-creative-energy you’re out of alignment with! Is it already clear & obvious to you that you’re not going to step into your life at your most powerful level when you feel like it’s such a struggle and things are kind of stacked against you or you’re doing it all wrong or missing some crucial piece? Is it equally clear & obvious that when you’re out of alignment, you’re not at ease or feeling your power to generate more of what you want? What’s the quickest way to come into alignment? We’ve already looked at feeling good and loving your life on an ongoing basis, or prioritizing feeling better when you can’t feel good. That will keep you aligned and coming back to alignment as you simply care about and manage or take care of how you feel. Really make a project of it. The P-word again: Prioritize it. But is it also clear & obvious to you that APPRECIATION is the easiest access point to feeling good? To establishing an ongoing feel-good place inside you that you can keep coming back to as an easy touchstone or point of reference? Let’s look at the practice, or the practical application of APPRECIATION AS YOUR PORTAL TO ALIGNMENT. HOW TO WORK WITH THIS CONCEPT Cultivate appreciating anything you can feel good about having and benefiting from in your world, life, home, relationship, work, family, location, etc, etc, all day every day. Appreciate what you like about your bed and bedroom or sleeping space when you wake up. Appreciate your access to drinking water and the supplies and utensils to make or buy the hot beverage of your choice. Appreciate the weather, the yard, the street, the signs of nature all around, the breezes, the temperature, the green, the gray. Appreciate the clothes you have to wear. Appreciate each small thing your amazing body allows you to do. Appreciate good sensations and flavors and smells and movement. Appreciate your five senses, or however many you have access to at whatever level! Appreciate the food you’re eating. Choose it, take time to prepare it consciously, chew it, taste it, savor it. Appreciate the faces around you. Appreciate the energies around you. Appreciate the silence, appreciate the sounds. Appreciate your agency, all the minute and huge ways you have choice, your capacity to choose. Appreciate how you show up. Appreciate how others show up. Appreciate time and how it supports you and quit saying there’s not enough of it; quit treating it like it’s working against you. Appreciate your capacity to NOTICE that you’re functioning right now in a stressful, anxious, irritated, fretting [whatever] way, and your ability to reach for soothing tactics, movement, breathing, pausing, reframing, opting in, redirecting, delegating, asking for help … Appreciate how you grow, how you’ve grown, how you’re teachable, how amazing teachers, guides, wisdom has come to you. Appreciate that you do enough, you’ve done enough, this is all enough, for now. You are enough, always. Is it clear and obvious that I could keep going and so could you? All that we can appreciate in a life, an era, a season, a day, a moment, one single task, the one that’s ours to do right now—truly, it’s endless. Living in a bottomless pit—okay, maybe a well—okay, fountain, ocean … or how about infinite space of APPRECIATION! Living in ongoing boundless appreciation is not only possible but extremely advisable for feeling good and living in alignment. Bring that to you moment-to-moment everyday life! It can help to write it down, as in the Easy Existing Matches exercise. The more you appreciate everything as it is here and now, which also means:
That enjoy-the-journey bit is important, because each arrival, each manifestation, has a whole journey that goes with it and came before. Some are quick, some are long, some are harrowing, some involve lots of fun and adventure … in any case, there’s a journey. Enjoy the journey. (That could be a whole nugget in itself, but we’ll let it piggy-back here onto APPRECIATION AS KEY.) For those wondering why I’m not talking about GRATITUDE, it’s very deliberate. I was already not a fan when I learned from Abraham-Hicks the greater power of APPRECIATION over gratitude. If gratitude feels amazing to you, keep it! But for many of us, it has a tinge (sometimes unconscious) of you’d better be grateful, or you deserve nothing if you’re not grateful, or it’s all going to be snatched away from you if you’re not grateful. None of that is empowered or aligned. I’ve written about appreciation vs. gratitude in this post with a recipe for the gratitude-intolerant. I’ve written here about appreciation as an underappreciated tool for creating your life. ENJOY CULTIVATING APPRECIATION. It naturally feels good, it easily brings you into and supports you to spend more time in alignment. It gives you easy access to coming back to alignment when you’ve slipped away (and slip we will). It’s truly your best ally in the manifestation game—and the game of life. Stop here or read on or click on pic below to learn about 5-week coaching groups coming right up to support you to create and cultivate magic in your life. 
Illustration of Jaya avatar discussing FACTS from Bitmoji.
SUMMER MANIFESTATION & MAGIC COACHING GROUPS Click on the pic above or look at some of the facts laid out below. The first round starts next Monday and Tuesday (you’ll pick one, not both!). If you join me for this summer Manifestation & Magic, you will choose EITHER the Monday or Tuesday group and EITHER session one or two. So you have 4 options. Each group is CLOSED once we begin, and membership is capped at 11 participants (including me, but it’s more fun to say 11 than 10). We’ll meet 5 times weekly for 90 minutes each time. After the final meeting, I’ll do one-on-one debriefs with each participant in 20-30-min zoom meetings to support you to best integrate and carry forward what you’ve gained. The fee is $369 by check and $377 by Venmo or PayPal. My preference is payment up front, but if you’d like to pay in installments, please ask for that! Note that times given below are in Eastern Standard time.
Ask me questions or register by writing me at [email protected].
You can also register by simply making the payment, then write me! Or give me your preferred email address in a message with the payment, and I'll write you. Venmo: @jayathetrustcoach PayPal: paypal.me/jayathetrustcoach Love & blessings, Jaya
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I’m dropping these for you to fine-tune your power to create what you want on your own. And if you’d like great and fun support in getting better at this I-CREATE-MY-REALITY thing, I’d love to pique your interest in the Manifestation & Magic coaching groups starting next Monday & Tuesday. And yep-yep-yep, I’m still taking one-on-one clients! (Sometimes people seem to think that if I’m doing groups, that’s all I’m up to.) Just write and ask for a 45-min free consultation. This writing contains one manifestation principle plus: 1) some thoughts to support your deeper understanding; 2) some ways to play with it and practice. Here’s nugget #2. LOOK AWAY FROM CURRENT CONDITIONS. WHAT THIS MEANS Current conditions means just that: the things you perceive and can name that describe your reality at this moment in time. Most people love to gaze at and talk about current conditions—but especially focusing on the parts that aren’t wanted, that describe what’s wrong or what’s missing, or that fuel discontent! For example:
A typical argument for paying close attention to current conditions is that they tell the truth! This is the REALITY. We must be rational adults and look at that head on. Anyone who’s worked with or read me knows I’m a fan of reality. It’s great to be real about what is and not tell ourselves pretty or ugly little lies. HOWEVER, when we focus on what’s wrong, what’s missing, what’s not the way we want it, then that’s what we’re keeping in view & amplifying—and that’s what we become a match for. Most people have heard the Law of Attraction 101 statement (it’s probably a poster you can buy at a box store by now) WHAT YOU FOCUS ON EXPANDS (Too bad it’s not the seventies—would’ve been a velvety neon blue-light poster.) What you carry around as your predominant focus creates your internal climate, then that’s what you see all around you and call forth. Anyone who’s been focused on what BOTHERS them about their mate has seen those things get bigger and bigger, or has been mirrored by their partner being equally BOTHERED by them—or both! Apply that to anything in life. One way to see this differently is to think of what’s happening now, those current conditions, as the result of what you’ve been up to and what you’ve been thinking about and how you’ve been feeling. What’s here now really tells the story of what you’ve been focused on before. If you’ve felt stuck financially, you’ve been worried about money, you’ve given lots of attention to what you don’t have or what isn’t coming in … then you’re a match for the low number currently in your bank account. But your power is here and now, and what you’re thinking, feeling, and focusing on NOW can create a very different set of current conditions, perhaps sooner than you think. Feeling good, prosperous, capable of generating funds and good ideas for how to get more; appreciating how well your needs are met right now in the less-than-ideal current reality—all of that will make you a match to a different number in your bank account. So that’s why it’s (really & truly) okay, as a reasonable person doing your fair share of responsible adulting, to look away from current conditions. They describe what you’ve been up to before. They invite (maybe BEG) you to focus on what’s more to your liking NOW, so that you become a match to (and have inspired ideas that match) something much closer to your ideal vision. HOW TO WORK WITH THIS CONCEPT Once you opt in to the idea you don’t want to focus on current conditions—or are willing to launch a grand experiment focusing on the wanted that’s already here in your life and keeping your gaze on the vision of what you want—then it’s really just a matter of INTERRUPTING thoughts that bring you back to fixating on what is, as you get increasingly disgruntled or disgusted or distressed. Interrupting is an underrated tool. Interrupt early and often. Stop the thoughts that take you in the wrong direction. Quit talking about it. Interrupt it mid-sentence. If you can say it sweetly, just tell yourself, Oh, shut up, sweetheart. Then REFOCUS as quickly, clearly, and deliberately as you can on what you want and what’s already here that you appreciate. Speak (and think) the vision, not the current conditions. Speak the wanted, not the unwanted that seems to pervade your reality. Reviewing and telling your current conditions AGAIN will get you focused some more on what’s lacking—and make you a match for lack, for stuck, for wondering when what you want will ever come your way. If you can’t feel good or empowered about the problematic topic yet, just refocus anywhere, onto something-anything-whatever you can feel good about easily. Go play. Be in nature. Do a work task that’s easy or pleasurable, that makes you feel competent or kind of brilliant. Hang out with someone who wants to talk about something beautiful or inspiring or hilarious. Current conditions tell the story of yesterday’s focus. Your power is in your focus here and now, and placing that on what you want and what’s already here and working well for you. Stop here or read on or click on pic below to learn about 5-week coaching groups coming right up to support you to create and cultivate magic in your life. 
Illustration of Jaya avatar discussing FACTS from Bitmoji.
SUMMER MANIFESTATION & MAGIC COACHING GROUPS Click on the pic above or look at some of the facts laid out below. The first round starts next Monday and Tuesday (you’ll pick one, not both!). If you join me for this summer Manifestation & Magic, you will choose EITHER the Monday or Tuesday group and EITHER session one or two. So you have 4 options. Each group is CLOSED once we begin, and membership is capped at 11 participants (including me, but it’s more fun to say 11 than 10). We’ll meet 5 times weekly for 90 minutes each time. After the final meeting, I’ll do one-on-one debriefs with each participant in 20-30-min zoom meetings to support you to best integrate and carry forward what you’ve gained. The fee is $369 by check and $377 by Venmo or PayPal. My preference is payment up front, but if you’d like to pay in installments, please ask for that! Note that times given below are in Eastern Standard time.
Ask me questions or register by writing me at [email protected].
You can also register by simply making the payment, then write me! Or give me your preferred email address in a message with the payment, and I'll write you. Venmo: @jayathetrustcoach PayPal: paypal.me/jayathetrustcoach Love & blessings, Jaya 
Photo of two bees on a yellow flower from Mario Beducci on Unsplash.
This is the first of a few brief writings, each containing one nugget. I’m dropping these for you to fine-tune your power to create what you want on your own. And if you’d like great and fun support in getting better at this I-CREATE-MY-REALITY thing, I’d love to pique your interest in the Manifestation & Magic coaching groups starting next Monday & Tuesday.
And yep-yep-yep, I’m still taking one-on-one clients! (Sometimes people seem to think that if I’m doing groups, that’s all I’m up to.) Just write and ask for a 45-min free consultation. This writing contains one manifestation principle plus: 1) some thoughts to support your deeper understanding; 2) some ways to play with it, as no concept will do you any good unless you know how to put it into practice. Practice, by the way, is a great word. Keep playing with anything that seems promising to you until you get better and better at using it effectively and with ease. I want to begin with a pair of principles that really go hand-in-hand and work together as one. THE FEELING IS THE FIRST MANIFESTATION. A FEELING IS THE EASIEST THING TO MANIFEST. WHAT THIS MEANS Well, if you’ve ever fallen in love, you remember that before you ever know the details of what you and this other beautiful human being are going to do together; and before you know the details of all you later came to know about them (a body of knowledge you may still be adding to)--first of all, you felt all kinds of feelings. You felt feelings you wanted more of. You felt a pull, a curiosity, something that wouldn’t let you go. In short, you felt the love. Um, you may have experienced this with non-human sentient ones (wonders!) as well—the animal we take one look at while visiting the shelter, and we’re done for. I’m not going home without you. From another angle, think specifically of when you got an idea to look for a certain kind of job or explore a certain course of study or learn how to become an X [fill it in and get specific here, so that you’re learning from your own lived experience]. You might remember the first jolt of Whoa, what about this? Or the curiosity that stirred and kept growing as you looked into different possibilities. Or the excitement that grew as you talked about it with others or read things written about it. (Side note: You know that some kinds of talking to certain people dashes the dream while it’s unformed, so take care with that!) You know when you started wondering about buying a car or a house or a taking a trip, and as you looked into things and dreamed into different possibilities, you felt a momentum build to carry you in that direction. That momentum came from feelings. You could feel what it might feel like to live there or drive that or vacation there, and perhaps as this grew inside you, it seemed more and more DOABLE until perhaps it felt inevitable. The feeling comes before the manifestation. The feeling is in fact the first manifestation. Once you get the feeling going related to the thing you want, that fuels the going after it, the grabbing of ideas and opportunities that come to you to explore it. You know they come and you miss them, or ignore them, or talk yourself out of them; OR, they come and you go with them and grow the thing. The feeling make the difference. It allows you to take a risk when a part of you (or someone in your world) objects. The feeling is the magnet that brings it in. And the feeling is easier to get in place than the lover or the car or the advanced-degree program or whatever. Way easier. But most of us don’t give a lot of attention to cultivating that feeling—except when we’re falling in love, which is why I began there. The love buzz is so compelling that we let the feeling take us and we go with it. It’s possible to do that (in different ways, at different levels) with other things in life, with anything in life, as well. It’s not only possible--it’s a necessary component of manifestation. The feeling will fuel the journey from wanting to having, from dreaming to creating. HOW TO WORK WITH THIS CONCEPT You may trip yourself up (many people do) by mentally jumping too soon to the finish line. You don’t need to know now what it (whatever you’re after) will look like or how you’ll go about getting the right information or making the choices involved or how you’ll finance it or how long it’ll take you to get it nailed down. Don’t jump ahead. Stay out of not only the outcome but also the details of the journey. Do show up for the journey as it unfolds, now and now and now, with each thought, each bit of research, each conversation, each little or large trip to explore the site, etc, etc, etc. Most important: ENJOY THE JOURNEY. FEEL GOOD WHILE YOU’RE ON IT. HAVE FUN DOING IT. START FEELING NOW HOW YOU WANT TO FEEL WHEN YOU GET THERE. CULTIVATE NOW THE FEELING that goes with whatever you’re after. The easiest way to work with this is by going very general with the feeling you’re after. At the least-specific level, you want this thing because it will feel good to have it. You’ll feel better in some way. It will improve your life, your sense of purpose and fulfillment, the amount of fun you’re having, the joy of having an experience, developing a talent, offering a service, relating with a certain someone or population in a certain way. All of that feels good. Feels like you being you. Feels like life is good and worth living. So … the work is first and foremost to feel good now. Feel good in any realm of life. Feel good getting up, feel good first thing in the day, feel good going to work or wherever you’re going. Feel good with people, feel good with tasks, feel good in the world, feel good noticing what you notice, feel good moving in your body. Feel good, now, living where you live, doing what you do, relating with whoever’s around you, moving in your body as it looks and feels now, experiencing the nature in your vicinity. Notice that these things aren’t necessarily related to the thing you want or even in the same realm of life--you may even think you’re off-course or at least off-topic giving this your PRIMARY attention, but you’re not. (I’ve written before about how the universe doesn’t care about categories, and your feeling good here and now will spill into the good feeling of what you want to bring in.) As you carry on and live life and go about your business, yes, you’ll need to move toward the thing you want by exploring a possibility here and another there, taking one simple next step at a time to flesh out the dream, learn more about the various forms it could take, check out what seems most promising. But don’t just take steps to check steps off a list. Take steps to keep cultivating and growing the feeling. Take steps while paying attention to how you feel! Last way to apply this: In your process of exploration, when it feels good to explore, and you feel it as expansive (fun, interesting, exciting), KEEP GOING. When it feels bad (stressful, confusing, overwhelming, deflating, frustrating), MOVE AWAY FROM THE TOPIC. You’ll kill it for no good reason by staying fixated on the how when where and getting preoccupied and confused by what you don’t yet see. The not-yet-visible is probably something you couldn’t possibly see right now and won’t ever bring into view by keeping your blurry, squinty gaze on it as you feel worse and worse. Whatever you’re after, get the feeling in place first, and feel good in whatever step you take in that direction. Feel the feeling grow. Consciously expand it. Feel good in general all the time in all that you do (or in resting, playing, NOT doing). Manifest the feeling first. That’s the easiest way, and it really is a manifestation in itself. Stop here or read on to learn about 5-week coaching groups coming right up to support you to create and cultivate magic in your life. 
Illustration of Jaya avatar discussing FACTS from Bitmoji.
SUMMER MANIFESTATION & MAGIC COACHING GROUPS Click on the pic above or look at some of the facts laid out below. The first round starts next Monday and Tuesday (you’ll pick one, not both!). If you join me for this summer Manifestation & Magic, you will choose EITHER the Monday or Tuesday group and EITHER session one or two. So you have 4 options. Each group is CLOSED once we begin, and membership is capped at 11 participants (including me, but it’s more fun to say 11 than 10). We’ll meet 5 times weekly for 90 minutes each time. After the final meeting, I’ll do one-on-one debriefs with each participant in 20-30-min zoom meetings to support you to best integrate and carry forward what you’ve gained. The fee is $369 by check and $377 by Venmo or PayPal. My preference is payment up front, but if you’d like to pay in installments, please ask for that! Note that times given below are in Eastern Standard time.
Ask me questions or register by writing me at [email protected].
You can also register by simply making the payment, then write me! Or give me your preferred email address in a message with the payment, and I'll write you. Venmo: @jayathetrustcoach PayPal: paypal.me/jayathetrustcoach Love & blessings, Jaya 
Photo of two bees on a yellow flower from Mario Beducci on Unsplash.
It’s so much fun and sometimes pure delight to live in a symbolic Universe. The more you play with symbols, the more naturally you tune in to them in films, dreams, images, and truly any event or occurrence, from the sublime to the ridiculous. From looking up right when the star shoots across the sky just as you were appreciating how good you have it, to stepping in dog poop while you were hating on your life. So as we approach Summer Solstice here in the Northern Hemisphere (but we’ll happily share the symbolism with the rest of you), what’s the message? Let’s look at the clues …
The truth is, people really are more open to meeting their fun-loving, expansive selves and letting them out to play this time of year. I’m going to give you some good reminders for stuff to easily do on your own just below, and below that are facts about SUMMER MANIFESTATION & MAGIC closed coaching groups I’m running starting next week! (Round 2 starts in late July, but I’m taking right off here with those who are ready to go.) What immediately follows is for everyone. You may want to skip the M & M group-coaching stuff after that, or go straight there! So how about if we get in on the summer solstice symbolism (or invitation!) and lighten up? Seriously, aren’t you tired of what feels heavy and hard? Aren’t you sick of narrating problems? Are you done (or getting doner) with treating life like a constant puzzle to solve (that you suspect has missing pieces)? You can lighten up … by prioritizing feeling good and having tactics to just feel better when you notice the first hint (or any level) of feeling bad. It sounds simple because it is. If you respond way more often and way more quickly to the first hints of feeling bad, and redirect your focus effectively, you’ll be lighter, happier, and more joyful in your work & play much more of the time. The mood you’re in and the internal climate you cultivate determines A LOT about your external reality. You can lighten up … by rejecting every single you’re-wrong-you’re-bad-you’re-not-enough message that comes into your field or (most common) suggests itself in your own mind. STOP TOLERATING THESE. They’re not real, and they keep you down & heavy for no good reason, when you could feel buyant & light. Be a good parent to yourself and give yourself constant new messages of being more than enough. You can lighten up … by using the 3 kinds of business to keep putting down what’s not yours to manage—because you’ve noticed (you’ve noticed, right???) that you create misery for yourself and rub others the wrong way when you think it’s your job to keep in view all that others are doing wrong or managing badly and you try to convert them to your way of seeing and doing things? Your timetable and prioritization of their personal-growth or health agenda? Your beliefs about what matters and what doesn’t? (However fabulous these may be.) [PARENTHETICAL PRACTICAL SIDE TRIP: To work with the 3 kinds of business on a here-and-now level, ask yourself—when you feel any kind of bad: 1) Whose business am I in right now? (Find the answer. It will be someone else’s or the Universe’s if you feel bad, almost certainly.) 2) So what is my actual business here and now? (Or what is my business related to this topic?) Feel the relief and peace and integrity in not trying to manage and control what isn’t yours. (Yeah, that includes a lot going on in the political scene.) Then give you attention, focus, and action to what’s actually yours. Remember it’s always your business to soothe yourself and find your alignment.] You can lighten up … by doing processes early in the day and all day that are designed to make you feel good and clear and light, with your own chosen focus in view. AND THEN BEYOND THAT, STOP WORKING ON YOURSELF. STOP FIXING YOURSELF. You’re not broken. There’s nothing wrong with you. I did a series of 5 quick & easy processes for focus & alignment, all from Abraham-Hicks (find the first one here, then follow forward in time on my blog for the rest.) You can REALLY REALLY REALLY lighten up … by being in this present moment and not burdening it with a whole past and a bunch of collected facts toward a fixed identity (some of which casts you in a bad light); and not going into your head to review concepts that keep old beliefs and limitations in place. BRING IT TO NOW. Make choices about what’s here now. Give focus to what’s here now. Connect to your grounding, breathing, and five senses, which will always report to you what’s here and now. You can lighten up … by not striving to figure out what you can’t understand right now (not yet, not from your current vantage point). When you’re puzzling over something with a furrowed brow and you’re not having fun or feeling connected to the new understanding or next idea that’s on its way in, look away. Get off the topic! Even briefly. Do something else that helps you feel better in body, heart, and mind, then come back later when you feel clear, light, and aligned. 
Image of bioluminescent marine critter from Nikolay Kovalenko on Unsplash.
Our amazing planet is full of magical-seeming things that I just like to call the magic. Like phosphorescence that shows up in so many ways and contexts. I just saw my first fireflies of the season a couple of nights ago when I was looking for the moon. I also did find the moon (turns out the glowing insects are positioned slightly lower than the moon), which never fails to soothe and delight me, whichever face or phase she’s presenting.
Want to explore the magic and expand its presence in your day-to-day life? Want to play consciously with manifestation and get more confident with believing that and understanding how you create your own reality? Want to differentiate playing with the magic from magical thinking? [Parenthetical Hint about that last bit: A SENSE OF MAGIC held from a healthy perspective will make you feel solid in your joy, and light in your outlook on life. It will support you to use your selective attention to find what works in your life, what supports you, what fills you with awe and moves you to sweet tears or spontaneous secret smiles and outright laughter. MAGICAL THINKING, in contrast, feels flimsy (and can create false highs and crash landings) because you’re lying to yourself and making shit up—for example, trusting someone who’s untrustworthy in the name of love, or creating false if-then equations (If this door opens, then things will go just the way I want). We’ll notice and reframe potentially made-up things like “The Universe is telling me to …” and in general get real—not only to stay out of magical thinking, but to move into the actual power and magnificence available to us. You’re not being real where you keep identifying with and expect to play out your time-reinforced limitations.] SUMMER MANIFESTATION & MAGIC COACHING GROUPS If you’d like to join me and others in a 5-week coaching group on Manifestation & Magic, I’m running a few of these with different parameters from those of my usual coaching groups. These are briefer and therefore have a lower price point. (I’ll really be running four groups, two that span June & July, and two that span July & August.) THIS IS A COACHING GROUP, NOT A CLASS. You’ll learn things, sure, but we’ll be workshopping concepts and making them concrete and actionable, not just talking theory. What happens in the coaching group In the summer Manifestation & Magic groups, we’ll stir up some very good energy and and tactics to create more of what we want. We’ll meet resistance and perceived challenges that arise for group members with processes, clear conversations, and specific tasks to play with and practice between meetings. We’ll get practical and nitty-gritty and bring beautiful concepts into our lived experience, consciously moving the ways we trip ourselves up (mentally, emotionally, and through action or non-action) OUT OF THE WAY. A longer explanation of how I run coaching groups in general here. Between sessions, you’ll be able to connect with other group members IF YOU FEEL LIKE IT to egg each other on and share sparky tidbits as they happen in real time. See logistical info right under FACTS pic. 
Illustration of Jaya avatar discussing FACTS from Bitmoji.
If you join me for this summer Manifestation & Magic, you will choose EITHER the Monday or Tuesday group and EITHER session one or two. So you have 4 options.
Each group is CLOSED once we begin, and membership is capped at 11 participants (including me, but it’s more fun to say 11 than 10). We’ll meet 5 times weekly for 90 minutes each time. After the final meeting, I’ll do one-on-one debriefs with each participant in 20-30-min zoom meetings to support you to best integrate and carry forward what you’ve gained. The fee is $369 by check and $377 by Venmo or PayPal. My preference is payment up front, but if you’d like to pay in installments, please ask for that! Note that times given below are in Eastern Standard time.
Ask me questions or register by writing me at [email protected]. You can also register by simply making the payment, then write me! Or give me your preferred email address in a message with the payment, and I'll write you. Venmo: @jayathetrustcoach PayPal: paypal.me/jayathetrustcoach Love & blessings, Jaya  Image of sandy human hand with tiny & cute crab standing on fingers from Manikandan Parthiban on Unsplash. I’ve been wanting to write about FEELING BETTER but the message seems so cute and small, I was thinking you might be tempted to laugh in its tiny face. But here goes. We’ll start with the bullet-point version:
From there, rinse & repeat, and live your life feeling good, or at least feeling better. I could stop right there. I’ve made my point. To be fair, it’s a point that Abraham-Hicks keeps making, and I’ve taken it in and made it mine. I want to pass it on to you because it’s important. It’s bigger than it appears to be. Look, I can see for myself that JUST FEEL BETTER sounds simplistic, but it packs a powerful punch when you actually apply it. When you care enough about feeling good; when you’re sufficiently committed to feeling good that you reach for feeling a little bit better ANYTIME you feel a little bit worse, then ... I daresay it’s the key to ongoing well-being. So let me add a few things to help you take it in, keep it in view, and get a few ideas in place on how to apply it. (You’ll think of more as you keep playing with it. And if you’re going to play with this at all, this is key: KEEP PLAYING WITH IT.) What do you reach for to feel a little bit better? Let’s break it down into categories of thought and action. In my coaching work (and life as a whole), I’m always aware of and working & playing with all three centers of intelligence—body, heart, and head. The heart center is what we’re working with as a whole here, so in this writing, I’ll offer ways to engage both head and heart center toward feeling better, thus putting them in service to the heart center. HEAD CENTER: REACH FOR BETTER-FEELING THOUGHTS Here’s a simple questioning tactic. Let’s say you notice you’re not feeling great and you remember that you only have one job right now: to feel a little bit better. Formulate a question to give yourself two alternatives: one that goes along with what you’re telling yourself that makes you feel bad, and one that counters it. So you’ll give yourself a sort of 2-part multiple choice question. Examples follow. Example #1 Imagine that you caught yourself thinking or saying I’m no good at this. Here are some two-part questions you might use to help you reach for feeling better:
If you answer yourself truthfully, you’ll almost certainly reach for the choice that counters what feels bad. (Because you’re not in truth when you’re telling yourself things that feel awful.) If you reach for the mean & rotten option, offer yourself new questions with different choices! And then notice whether that feels better or worse, to find a few truer, better-feeling things than what you were telling yourself as you started to sink. If it feels better (even a little bit better), keep going. Buoy yourself up. Fully establish yourself in a different mindset. Keep heading toward feeling better, feeling better, feeling better till you actually feel good. Keep going with the same tactic for a while, or follow the next inspired thing that comes to you. Example #2 Imagine that you caught yourself going into the future with bleak predictions. Maybe you just heard yourself threaten yourself with being unpartnered, alone, and lonely for the rest of your days. You might shift that by asking:
That idea of self-soothing takes us into the realm of action (the body center), so let’s go there next.  Image of cat with one open eye lying in cat hammock from Amy Chen on Unsplash. BODY-CENTER: REACH FOR BETTER-FEELING ACTIONS Noticing what feels bad, reach for a simple action that would make you feel better. Note that this can be on- or off-topic. So if you’re feeling bad about your cluttered home, you could go through one little stack of mail sitting on the countertop (on-topic and feels better) or you could go outside to do some yard work (off-topic and still works to make you feel better). Whatever you do, keep it SIMPLE. Do the easiest thing. The most effortless thing. The thing that isn’t prescribed by your inner taskmaster or church lady but by the compassionate good parent in you who wants only to support you to feel better. (If you’d like more on conscious reparenting, check out Your Not-Enough Messaging.) If you feel immobilized, for example, what would be a simple movement? WAIT. First, note that finding one simple feel-better action requires getting out of your head about all you SHOULD be doing. It requires dropping evaluation. It requires bringing it to now, so you’re not preoccupied with your whole work day, your future, your entire life. What you’re not doing right now is fixing your whole life. You’re not taking care of all that you’re aware of, all that you think is building up with a wordless accusation that you’re not doing enough or with a menace of failure and an untimely tragic death. You’re just coming up with ONE SIMPLE THING TO DO THAT FEELS BETTER:
(Sidenote. Step Outside was #4 in my series of 5 quick & easy processes for focus & alignment, also derived from the teachings of Abraham-Hicks.) REACH FOR FEELING BETTER USING ALL 3 CENTERS AT ONCE Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), also called tapping, is a great soothing modality that hits all three centers. Here’s an EFT session whose thrust is to get you out of your head and into just feeling better. I’ll be back with more on how to work with this modest-seeming principle of feeling better. Yup. I went from not being sure I could write about this at all to aiming for a little series. May it serve us all to feel better way more often, and even as a way of life. Love & blessings, Jaya P,S. Here’s another blog post on how to reach for a question to get out of rumination and reset the mind. And here’s one more with 11 quick & easy microadjustments for feeling better that you can make in the moment, as needed. |
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