Process #3 of 5 for quick & easy focus & alignment Up-close photo of part of an owl’s face from Sandra Seitamaa on Unsplash. Feeling bad? Stop. What are you thinking about? You’re probably zoomed in on details that, simply put, stir up suffering. Unnecessary suffering. Seriously, just let any kind of feeling bad be cause to stop and check out what you’re thinking. Pause if you’re
If anything feels bad, INTERRUPT YOUR THOUGHTS AT ONCE AND CHECK THEM OUT. Let feeling good matter enough to you that you’re jolted to a halt when you notice you feel bad! Abraham-Hicks (whose processes I’m sharing with you here in this series of 5) often reminds us: CARE MORE ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL. So when you notice you feel bad, pause. And ask yourself … What are you focused on? Are you in the thorny details? In other words, are you ZOOMED IN to what feels bad? You’re getting lost in specific concerns you can’t fix or questions you can’t possibly have the answers to right now:
In all such lines of thought, you’re zoomed in on all manner of detail that can only make you feel some kind of bad. (Mostly because they’re not in your realm of control. Not your business, to use Byron Katie’s 3 kinds of business. They all belong to others or to the Universe—any timing, outcome, how-what-when-who.) And isn’t it easy to get entranced by the details? There’s nothing to judge when you catch yourself there, so catch yourself sweetly. And GET OUT. It will never serve you to hang out there. Please take in how simple this is:
And what do you do when you find yourself feeling bad & zoomed in on details?  Photo of owl in tree taken from afar from Shirish Suwal on Unsplash. Easy: ZOOM OUT. IS IT EVER USEFUL TO ZOOM IN? Yes! Zoom in to anything that feels good. If you notice you’re delighted by a child or a flower or a sky or a hilarious comment, zoom in! Stay with it. Do hang out in these details! Bask in the particulars of that joy-producing, awe-inspiring, heart-melting thing! Stay with it for a while if you’re feeling expansive, loving & trusting life, getting soothing or relief. Stay with what reminds you all is well and life is about love. HOW THIS APPLIES TO GETTING SHIT DONE Things we’re up to and fully choose to do may have thorny, problematic components and problems or how-to’s not yet solved. That applies to most every dream or vision we have, every work or home task we wish to complete & do well, every relationship event or issue that we want to show up for. So yes, show up to do the work. But when you’re feeling bad, zoom out! Later come back and zoom back in. Do that once you’ve moved away from thorny details that had your brow all furrowed. You properly responded to the signals of feeling bad, zoomed out, and now you feel good & relaxed again. Maybe you’ve even zoomed in on something totally different that got you back to where you like to be. You’re in love again (with life, with yourself, with other sentient beings). You’re back to can-do. NOW go back. Now, you’re ready to move the thing forward again, to face that challenging task, to consider what step you might actually be ready to take.  Photo of trees in woods from Lukasz Szmigiel on Unsplash.
EASY AS 1-2-3
You’ve got this. ZOOM IN OR ZOOM OUT This is a very recent thing Abraham’s been talking about. They used to simply emphasize the idea to GO GENERAL. This is a tweak to that. It emphasizes instead that sometimes it feels good to zoom in. So that. And sometimes, in order to feel good, you need to zoom out. Just let feeling good be your guide! THAT’S ALL FOLKS. Zoom in or zoom out. Notice that this process doesn’t even require writing anything down. (Though you can always use writing to focus.) What follows are some afterthoughts you may not even want. Skim or skip as drawn. WHAT MIGHT GET LOST when you permit yourself to stay zoomed in on details that make you feel bad. You may lose track of
In short, you lose track of your own belief system, whatever it is, and choosing to follow fearful thinking that’s falsely predicated on the wrong idea you need to keep thinking it through, figuring it out, redundantly reviewing details. It’s based on the false premise that you’re the doer and the one who needs to keep a vigilant watch on everything for things to be okay. Um, how bout not? You can find Abraham-Hicks process #1, Easy Existing Matches, right here. Find Abraham-Hicks process #2, Segment intending, right here. Find Abraham-Hicks process #3, Step Outside, right here. Love & blessings, Jaya
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Process #2 of 5 for quick & easy focus & alignment Photo of a person sitting on a wood floor string a long thread of beads. From Natalia Blauth on Unsplash. You are aligned when you feel connected, serene, optimistic, excited, clear. In short, you’re aligned when you feel good. When you don’t feel good, you may want to reach for a tool that could make you feel better. This is how you mind your alignment. When you get up in the morning, you might reach for a tool that allows you to choose your own focus. How do you want to feel? These quick & easy processes I’m offering in a series of 5 come from Abraham-Hicks, where I’m getting most of my dynamic learning & input for feeling great about my evolving life these days! SEGMENT INTENDING This process has two steps, and the first is optional.
Multitasking version: If you can’t write your intentions down—maybe you’re driving or putting lunch together—speak your intentions out loud. Pen on paper is ideal, but segment intending is super helpful whether written or spoken. LET’S DEFINE SEGMENT Think of your day as a beaded necklace that you’re constructing or creating bead by bead as you move through the hours. Each bead represents the next activity. So a string of segments could look like this:
You can even treat sleep as a segment. Read the next paragraph if you could use a reminder about good ways to put yourself to bed. Segment-intend to declare how you want to drop in for sleep and how you’d like to feel waking up. Consider how this could change the tone of how you rest compared with what else you might carry into sleep. As you go to bed, do you evaluate yourself, your day, your success, your relationship? Or do you go over what’s not yet done and look anxiously ahead? How about clear, kind, restful intentions instead? Intend feeling satisfied, letting go, feeling held & supported (by the bed, by all of life, by what feels complete & lovely & good enough for this day)?  Photo of notebook, pen, and lit candle. From Mushaboom Studio on Unsplash. WHY INTEND FOR JUST ONE SEGMENT? This tool brings intentional living down to brass tacks (um, or necklace beads). All you’re doing is isolating one manageable next bit and defining how you want to feel in it. Then you can consciously aim for that. Intentions for just the next segment are powerful because they’re simple, their focus is narrow, they feel entirely doable. You’re gazing at and polishing the one next beautiful bead you’re about to string onto the necklace that is this wonderful day in progress. It’s unlikely you’ll want or need to set intentions for every single segment of a day. Use segment intending especially if you’re already noticing a wobble. Examples of wobbles you may feel acutely or get even a whiff of:
Note that you don’t have to feel even a little bit bad about what’s coming up to segment-intend. I zoom-met with a friend I adore the other day, and I used segment intending to imbibe up front how much I love being in their presence. That’s what I carried in with me, heart full and eyes already reflecting their brightness. Have you ever entered a meeting flustered or scattered or just barely catching up to yourself and this moment? I have. And when I segment-intend, I don’t do that. I come in clear, conscious, grounded. Ready or not, I am ready, and I’m willing. I’m present. Don’t you love getting more conscious in your dance with consciousness? More to the point—in this one next dance? Want to show up with sass, ease, attitude? You decide.  Photo of young person with dark skin, locs, and torn jeans dancing in the street pointing at the viewer. From Blake Cheek on Unsplash.
MAKE YOUR INTENTIONS ABOUT YOU AND, PRECISELY, HOW YOU WANT TO FEEL. It doesn’t really work to intend that things will happen a certain way, or that you’ll get a certain outcome. (Universe’s business.) It’s pointless to intend how others will show up, because you have no agency there. (Their business.) Just make intentions about how you want to feel. You can’t even control what you’ll do or how you’ll do it. So focus on calling in feeling states. Side note: when you’re minding your own alignment, you may find—may have already found!—that you call forth more of the good stuff that others have to bring. But just let that happen. Your work (your business) is to tend to your own clear focus and the feeling state that focus brings. You can leave the rest to life, to others, to Source, to Law of Attraction (to whatever you want to call it). EXAMPLES OF INTENTIONS FOR A SEGMENT Let’s say you’re about to write something up for work that you’ve been thinking about. So your list of intentions could look like this:
That’s it, folks. Then go on through the door into your next segment, and what’s there to meet you will be colored by all that you just set up, all that you’re consciously bringing with you. And as you string each segment of the day onto the whole, you end up with a thing of beauty and a sense of satisfaction. You can find process #1, Easy Existing Matches, right here. Process #3, on the Abraham-Hicks concept of zoom in, zoom out, is the next post on this blog. Reminder that no process you know about does any good unless you use it. I dare you to use one or more of these daily. (But really I want you to follow your curiosity about what’s possible to keep you aligned and feeling good as much as possible for your total well-being and fulfillment.) Love & blessings, Jaya Process #1 of 5 for quick & easy focus & alignment  Photo of red-and-white door on stone building with #1 on address placard. From Ante Hamersmit on Unsplash. Here, you’ll find the first of 5 FOCUSING & ALIGNMENT PROCESSES I want to offer you precisely because
All of these processes come from Abraham-Hicks, where I’m getting most of my dynamic learning & input for feeling great about my evolving life these days! These tools are especially wonderful to use first thing in the morning, so you establish for yourself how you want to feel. Don’t let others, your inbox, the news, the commute—DON’T LET ANYTHING ESTABLISH YOUR FEELING STATE FOR YOU. Don’t let something external tell you what to focus on. Don’t even let your habitual thoughts or feelings co-opt what’s possible for this brand-new day. EASY EXISTING MATCHES (You might write EEM at the top of your page) This process has 3 easy steps, and the first 2 could take 30 seconds. Step #3 takes as long as you want to give it. Really drop in with it, whether you do that for 1 minute, 5, or until you have your own sense of completion. Most important, notice, when you’re ready to stop, that you feel different—you’ve shifted your feeling state. You’ve established yourself in feeling and believing you can feel HOW YOU WANT TO FEEL. Step 1. Simply notice how you feel. Let’s say you’re not so sure you feel fantastic today, or some dissatisfaction or hard feelings have already started to form. Perhaps they even grabbed you right when you woke up. You can feel the force of how they’re starting to call in other upsets & complaints. You can feel it in your body. Your mind has taken off without your go-ahead, and you can already feel the MOMENTUM of a line of thinking that’s self-defeating or just makes you feel bad. You know you could end up evaluating your whole life, right? And you’ll find it faulty or meh. (Funny how that works.) Step 2. Identify and write down how you want to feel. This could be about a particular topic or an upcoming event today; or, in general, just how you’d like to feel right now and on this day. Let’s say you establish that you want to feel like you love your life. You want to feel great.  Image of numbers 1-2-3 cropped from a photo by ISO10 on Unsplash. Step 3. List Easy Existing Matches
All you’re doing here is writing down things already fully present in your life that match the feeling you’re after. This allows you to call it up, know it’s already yours, remember it’s alive for you. This isn’t something you need to strain or strive for. It’s not out of reach or unknown. It’s already yours! Just list what’s right in reach that already fills the bill: easy existing matches. On a very recent gray & frigid morning, I created an EEM list for feeling great. It included things like this:
Note that I did NOT feel great when I began, and I did when I stopped. I also didn’t feel horrible when I began (though I would have used this process just the same if I had). I like to catch things early, before they build momentum. I love to sit down first thing in the day and do some processes to head right away toward how I want to feel. Bee tee dubs, one of my morning processes is free games on the New York Tiimes app. Which Abraham has never suggested, but they constantly remind us to judge nothing. Do what works. Follow what delights you. Mind your feeling state, because that’s minding your alignment. When you feel aligned, inspired thought comes in, right action grabs you, the thing to look up or reach for or attend to comes clearly into view. Try it, you’ll like it. And, hey, you know this already. You’re doing it already on some level. So try it more. Early and often. Abraham taught me: Care about how you feel. And when you feel bad, reach for what will make you feel better. Process #2, on Segment Intending from Abraham Hicks, is the next blog post! Love & blessings, Jaya |
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