play with your power to create, enjoy your dance with consciousness Image of sewing supplies, including a button drawer, on mint-green mesh fabric from Curated Lifestyle on Unsplash. GAME = FUN GAME = EASE GAME = LOW STAKES GAME = A WONDERFUL WAY TO LEARN & PRACTICE SOMETHING NEW GAME = GETTING OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY GAME = NOT TAKING IT TOO SERIOUSLY GAME = Since this is no big deal, I’m going to see how well I can do, have fun doing it, and not worry about results. (Aka, detachment from outcomes already in place.) I’m going to tell you here about a game I made up to play with clients that has served us all very well. Think of it as a manifestation game. Or think of it as a way to play with everyday magic. Or simply see it as an opportunity to feel more alive and generate more easy fun as you move through each new day. You may know I’m a proponent of grand experiments. This is a small one! It costs next to nothing (a simple intention & some awareness) and can yield high results. Kind of like buying a scratch-off lottery ticket and winning the jackpot—except it’s more fun than scraping gray gummy stuff off a card with the edge of a quarter. The button game allows you to gather bits of data every day that confirm your relationship with a responsive Universe—you’re in dialogue with Source energy and not the only one talking. Maybe you already cultivate and love being in a dance with consciousness. Or perhaps you want to increase your ongoing awareness of your connection to your Inner Being and ALL THAT IS (along with the delicious fun & sense of belonging that goes with that). If you have any interest whatsoever in knowing & harnessing your power to create your reality or living in conscious contact with all that is alive and sparkles, I highly encourage you to run this gentle experiment.  Image of castle in the mist from Tim Rebkavets on Unsplash. The basis of the button game is an intriguing quote from Abraham-Hicks: It’s as easy to manifest a castle as a button. Maybe you beg to differ. Buttons are a dime a dozen. You may be wearing several right now. So you have little or no resistance to buttons—no aversion, outrage, annoyance, or even much of an opinion! You’re not worried about not having enough buttons or being unworthy of buttons. You’re not concerned about anyone seeing you as an entitled jerk or a fraud if you have too many or insufficient buttons. You don’t think you need more resources than you have access to in order to fill up on all the buttons you could want. They’re just buttons! Conversely, you might have all kinds of resistance to castles. Just reverse everything above, and there it is: lots of reasons to keep castles way out of reach from the realm of possibility you typically reside in. So how do you play the button game? If you’re curious about this idea that it could be as easy to manifest a castle as a button, then at least show yourself that you’re a rock star at manifesting buttons. Establish with a playful daily practice—a GAME— that you can manifest a button just because you’re carrying that intention and constantly seeing it fulfilled. You’ll find your solid footing on the button end of the scale and, from there, you can scooch all the way to castles. Note that you’re not GENERATING buttons. You’re inviting life to send buttons your way, then your job is to notice that life is doing just that. Look, there’s a button! Damn, another button! Add to your job description to appreciate the button, admire the button, enjoy the button, and more than all of that, appreciate that you’ve set up a game to play with the Universe (the Force, Source energy, God, whatever you like) AND IT HAS JOINED YOU IN IT. Which can equally happen if you play a castle game. If you go for the things you want in life (the job, the relationship, the creative expression) and you actually believe that your intention plus noticing how life is playing with you can bring it on. … But start with buttons.  Image of person buttoning up a nicely crumpled linen golden shirt from Hrant Khachatryan on Unsplash.
To play the button game, declare a low-stakes (button-sized) thing you’d like to see every day that you have no resistance to and ultimately no need for. You’re going to manifest this thing daily just because you’re intending and inviting that. It will in no way affect your life, never mind your well-being, if you turn out to be a total loser at this game. (You won’t, though.) Clients I’ve played this game with (especially in my manifestation groups) have declared these sorts of things as buttons:
Note that button-sized is quite a subjective concept. If you have a big story about feeling disconnected and no one else ever reaching out to you first, then setting other people reaching out first or initiating things as your button won’t work at all. It’s got too much charge. Go for something easy that will rev up no resistance FOR YOU. When you’ve got buttons down, you can go for something bigger on your way to castles. Perhaps you’re already up for a heftier project. Find your just-right level of engagement, and tweak it if it’s not feeling fun and easy. This game works best when it activates your joy, delight, awe, wonder … A word about forms (and more of what the button game can teach you) Let your daily button surprise you. It can take many forms, and some may be so unexpected, you could miss them altogether. Some buttons already obviously leave room for unspecified form—for example, heart-shaped things could come as flowers, leaves, rocks, puddles, clouds; jewelry, dots on I’s, a mark on a dog’s fur; a dollop of mashed potatoes, a pile of laundry on the floor. But any button can come to you in various forms and venues. Here are just a few:
My client whose button was yellow birds had it delivered one day in audio form when someone else had the TV on. Their focus on their own task was interrupted by a classic cartoon voice—Tweetie Bird musing out loud about spotting a cat. (Does everyone know what color Tweetie Bird is?) When I was playing with unexpected bird sightings, I had so much fun with that. The red cardinal poking in and out of a bush in different spots. The sparrow in the coffee shop’s outdoor space taking a sip of water from the edge of the dog dish provided. The hawk suddenly twisting at the tree line as if deciding on the fly to perch here now (with a brilliant flash of sun on its fiery tail feathers). I recently launched a new round with TWEAKS as my button—that is, representations of little adjustments needed (as opposed to major revamps). I hadn’t thought of my new button once on day one, until my last client told me they were bringing a topic that just needed a tweak. I got a fun little jolt and felt a little secret smile form inside me. (I love that aspect of the button game.) In every realm of life, the Universe can always bring in what you want in any number of forms. Super-specific instructions about your desires are not needed (and indeed, could get in the way of forms coming in that you haven’t yet dreamed up—certainly not that specifically)! The button game will give you a visceral knowing of this truth as you engage with it daily, and better, feel surprised and delighted by the plenitude and sheer brilliance of the forms your intention takes when manifest. As in all of life, you don’t need, in the button game, to determine the how. You don’t need to figure out, declare, or orchestrate the specifics of what comes to you. Staying with the general essence of what you want and knowing that it’s on the way is the bulk of what’s needed. Watch for it, and fully enjoy and appreciate it when you notice it’s here. Trust your own capacity to recognize what you’re after, and maybe find a time daily to remember and savor your button—or look for it retroactively if you missed it in the moment. What you playfully train yourself to do in the button game, you can do with everything you want in life. And that could even be castles! Love & blessings, Jaya Did you notice this post has an audio version? See button just under the title.
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 Photo of a person sitting with cat and holding a mug from Andrej Lišakov on Unsplash. FINE HAS A BAD RAP. Twelve-step folks use FINE as an acronym for fucked-up, insecure, neurotic, and emotional. It’s common for anyone to plug in FINE for meh, or not much going on, nothing to say, business as usual. By and large, people believe they don’t want to feel FINE. They typically want to feel something more pronounced or more ideal. They want to feel something essential to how they love moving through life. Little SIDE TRIP FOR ENNEAGRAM LOVERS with how each type may want to feel (skip down to Who wants fine? above pic to skip it):
Note that he bullets above follow the essence qualities & preferences of 8, 9, 1 … and count sequentially from there to land at 7. As taught by Russ Hudson, I always begin with the three body types, hence 8 as the starting point.) So … who wants FINE?  Photo of a person raking a lawn with German Shepherd dog looking on from Kübra Arslaner on Unsplash. You do, I promise. Hear me out, if you will. I’ll make it worth your while. Consider FINE to be synonymous with content. Just a baseline contentment that asks nothing of life, for right now, beyond what’s actually happening. Equate FINE with satisfied. This works. It’s enough. It’s good enough. It’ll do for now. In FINE, you’re in acceptance of what is. You’re not finding fault, you’re not squirming in your seat, you’re not resisting what is. You’re letting things be without giving up on what else you might want. You’re certainly not getting out the microscope to magnify some kind of discontent or pointing out the what’s not-quite-right to others. Treat FINE like needs met. Okay. All right. And here’s a little trick I played: Embedded in how I wrote the above is an example right off the bat of what I most want to invite you to do with fine—because this is the latest invitation from Abraham-Hicks in their amazing teachings on aligned living. Did you notice the lingering, the repetition? Don’t just say it’s fine, you’re fine, things are fine. SUSTAIN IT. Remember finding the feeling place? Find the feeling place of FINE and stay with it. Get a solid, strong, embodied sense of FINE. Believe it. Hold it. Know it. Intend it. Look for it. Speak it. Think it. Review it. Bring it to that visceral knowing, right into your bones. For real: be FINE. When you sustain that, guess what happens??? What happens from FINE is a lingering sense of a baseline well-being that feels pretty damn good. It’s reliable and real. You’re really fine—no bullshit. As you SUSTAIN feeling FINE (loving me some repetition, as sustaining it is key), you can’t get stuck there! You truly cannot. You don’t sustain it forever, only long enough for it to take you to what you like even better. And hey—as long as it takes. Stay with it!  Photo of a person in a wheelchair paused in a courtyard with someone ahead they’re smiling at and someone behind them holding the chair, from Getty Images on Unsplash. Remember, everything in the Universe gains momentum. It works both ways: build momentum from everything that annoys, upsets, and distresses you, or build momentum from feeling pretty good. Whatever you focus on will take you to the next level, up or down. From FINE, or content, satisfied, and accepting, you could soon have easy access to optimistic, confident, sure. You could start feeling playful then bump into some (not so) serious fun, amusement, hilarity. You could shift into delight, head-shaking appreciation, pure awe. Those joy spikes could grab you anytime. You know that strong connection to what matters, to the magic, the flow? That sense of being guided and in purposeful motion? Suddenly you’re inspired and taking inspired actions without overthinking things or needing to be sure of any outcome. You’re just catching the wave or riding the current right toward what you most want! You know that feeling when life keeps taking you effortlessly round the next bend? I want you to know it and know that you know it. And let yourself get there from establishing a strong foundation of FINE. Wait, why not just start with feeling fantastic? Let’s just follow our bliss and rev up the passion, no? Um, no. For the simple reason that you don’t always have access to the highest and best. You may be nowhere in the vicinity, as Abraham says. You might fool yourself into thinking you should have access, and then get down on yourself, then plummet quickly from dissatisfaction to depression or even ongoing blah-malaise. So don’t even aspire to that. Aspire to fine. You may have no access to higher emotions because of a (habitual and culturally sanctioned) way of focusing on what’s wrong, what bothers you, what isn’t up to par, what you haven’t gotten done yet, how you’re not healthier, more fit, or further along in your career. It becomes NORMAL for all kinds of NOT FINE things to take up your field of vision, your time, your energy. It’s not just your FOCUS, but also your life force. Then you generate all kinds of unhappiness & unnecessary suffering from there, and you start to think that’s what life is, then all you see is more evidence of that. Momentum. (Aka, Law of Attraction.) YOU HAVE EASY ACCESS TO FINE. You can walk yourself to fine and hang out there. Seriously, it’s okay. Be okay. Just be fine. You won’t get stuck there. Fine is your gateway to all those larger feelings and ways of being that you live for. Call it in, give it your focus, and sustain it. I invite you to a grand experiment: collect the data of all that flows in from FINE. Love & blessings, Jaya Try SEGMENT INTENDING from Abraham-Hicks to point yourself toward FINE bit by bit all day long. Did you notice this post has an audio version? See button just under the title. FROM TWISTED FEAR TO FEELING THE VIBEStrange things to experiment with, here in the midwest. So it turns out even how you get through a violent storm is all about focus. And your power to focus is something you can consciously control, whether you use (develop, hone) that power or not. Click on button just above (below subtitle) to skip reading and hear the 11-min audio version.  Photo of a tornado and dark, ominous sky with a field in the foreground from Nikolas Noonan on Unsplash. I have always been afraid of tornadoes. You don’t need a big story for that to be true. Violent wind conglomerates that can twist a house off its foundation and give it a new address—that’ll do right there. My dad did have a childhood tale of trying to race a twister home and getting plucked off his bike and deposited unceremoniously (also unscathed) in the cotton field up the road a ways. So I was predictably feeling fear the other night when a tornado watch had been declared till midnight. Watch means the conditions are right, so pay attention for the screaming sirens that mean the actual demented winds have been sighted—then head for the basement post-haste. I’d made the trip downstairs the week before with my 89-year-old mother, so I could still access the felt sense of that particular warning system—uncomfortably weird, eerie, relentless. (I could use the same words to describe the song of coyote packs, which I also occasionally hear from my bedroom, but I consider that sound divine.) I decided it would feel better not to go to bed for real, but to lie fully clothed on my made-up bed. Solid plan, if based in fearful vigilance: just lie on the edge of trembling for a few hours, ready to walk my unsteady housemate downstairs if need be.  Photo of blurred figure near a window with a blurred nighttime storm visible through textured glass from Emanuel Haas on Unsplash. I’m practiced at and now predicated to think in terms of feeling better. I also treasure the concept and experience of presence, so I make it a point to get back to body awareness as quick as I notice I’ve left it. In fear, I left. In noticing, I wondered right away what else I might do to feel better. The breath is always a great first thing to tune in to and bring in as a felt sense, and doing that brought me back to my senses. I could see and hear the lightning storm exploding in the darkness behind my blinds. I could feel the power of the storm, something charged in the air even here inside the house. From that conscious contact with body and breath, a better-feeling thought came in on its own: There’s something I like about this. That singular thought shifted everything, as I then chose to make it my predominant thought—my focus. I decided to bring the storm closer and let it make its impressions on me. I opened the blinds, then felt inspired to crack the window, and that felt okay. So I lay back on my bed, not quite relaxed, but curious. I was going to allow myself a fuller, more sensory experience of the storm and just let my fear be in the room too. Beyond my uncovered window, the lightning was so striking (okay, no pun initially intended, for real), with traveling craggy patterns and gorgeous, intermittent sheets of light. The cloud shapes staggered in and out of luminescent relief against the darkness. Here I was in a light show! I could also smell the storm-drenched air. It smelled good. The sound, uninterpreted, was magnificent. The more I felt into the storm and engaged with it in a sensory way, the more (and more quickly) my experience shifted. The noise went from scary and bomblike to interesting, intense, insistently alive. Everything felt vibrant. This was the crux of the feeling state that ended up eclipsing the fear I’d begun with: vitality, wide-awakeness, aliveness. In this now-moment, the storm was my connection to life. Lying within that perspective, allowing that to take over my focus, I didn’t even care about tornado or no tornado anymore. (And it never manifested.)  Photo of lightning in the night sky from Ahmed on Unsplash.
Culturally and thus individually, we’re predicated to focus on thinking rational thoughts and taking appropriate actions. In fact we think of focus as meaning focused thought, focus on a task. You don’t need to throw all that out (there’s a baby somewhere in that murky bathwater), but what if you played with more focusing of EMOTION? What if you first paid attention to and worked with and mastered your feeling states? Then from a place of feeling how you want to feel (perhaps something more easy, relaxed, clear, confident), you could think and act accordingly. This has been my grand experiment thanks to the teachings of Abraham-Hicks. It was amazing and surprising to bring it to the storm. I’ve never done such a thing before—just tried with more or less success to soothe my fear and tell myself calming things. My predominant emotion at the beginning of the storm was fear. Lying on the bed consciously seeking to drop down tense muscles and find some flow in the breath, I tuned in to a new possibility of focus. Storms may be scary but they’re also beautiful and fascinating in their electrical fervor. Immersing myself in that didn’t exactly take me to a relaxed, peaceful vibe, but I don’t need peace as a constant emotional setpoint. Do you? I don’t want anything as the only thing I ever feel! And feeling (not thinking about, not taking an action against) the power of the storm took me to awe, wonder, vibrancy—states that emotionally feel way better than fear. This is the power of presence. I left the dream of danger on the horizon (which was rushing my way in a screaming crescendo), I shifted to feeling solid in my body and connected to the breath. Through my senses, I became connected to the storm, no longer separate. The story of being snatched in the night evaporated because it gave way to actual experience and a chosen focus that brought a wanted feeling state. I think if I can do it with tornadoes, I can do it with anything. I think you can do it with anything, whatever the particulars of your amazing life, whatever your senses may bring in as you bring yourself to presence in any moment, in whatever circumstances, and scooch toward your best possible focus here and now. I’ve written about the importance of just feeling better, of prioritizing feeling good. I invite you to a strong intention to keep catching yourself feeling bad for any reason (and it’s so easy to justify feeling bad because … life), and vow to walk yourself, PRACTICE walking yourself in one way or another toward better, better, better … good. This comes straight from the teachings of Abraham-Hicks. The more I play with, learn, practice, and support others in the concepts and processes offered from Abraham, the more I like myself and my life. The more I hone the power of my focus. The more things around me look like more of what makes me feel good. I want this for everyone on the planet. This stuff can freak people out a bit, as we’re taught to be suspicious of too much well-being or feeling good. We’re suspicious of feelings, period. With and without helpers of whatever kind, I invite you to risk feeling good too much of the time and play with meeting yourself and your life head-on, whatever the current conditions. For the record, I love to combine these teachings with coaching processes. I’m very skilled at helping you look into your thinking, notice what you’re prioritizing, find how to create worthwhile experiments to test these principles for yourself in the lab that is your life. I strongly believe that you (anyone!) can find the power of generating more of the feeling states you want, and from there more of everything that makes your life something beautiful and fulfilling that must then be a blessing to the beings of this planet and the Earth herself. Love & blessings, Jaya Did you notice this post has an audio version? See button just under the title. THEN DO AND GET MORE OF WHAT YOU LOVE  Photo from below of kids looking down together with awe & wonder from Getty Images on Unsplash. I was wondering what I wanted to do next in the group work I’ve been loving so much. It’s so deeply fulfilling to me on so many levels. So I sat down with pen & paper to find what Abraham-Hicks calls the feeling place. That’s it. That’s all I was seeking to locate. What does this thing I love feel like? (Below, I’ll flag for you what I did NOT begin with—things we typically begin with that keep us stuck.) As with everything I offer you, focus on what this calls up for you about you, even though I’m offering an illustration about me! I invite you to let it remind you of similar or even different things that stir for you when you know you’re right in there doing what you love in the most satisfying way. FEELS LIKE … Feels like I’m in great company—people opted in, dropped in, present, open, engaged Feels like all present are curious, fascinated, excited, eager Feels like recognition & connection Feels like fun, like being in the sandbox, like playing in the magic together Feels like being in love, happy to see every face and all the shifting expressions Feels like wonder, wow, delight Feels like goosebumps, no way, truth better than fiction Feels like I’m learning and teaching at the same time, evolving with my clients Feels like growth, expansion, evolution—mine, theirs, shared Feels like coaching in the dynamic now, responding in the moment to what arises in the moment Feels like being in my zone of genius, at ease, in flow Feels like surety, like knowing what to do or say next Feels like absorption, like there’s nowhere else I’d rather be Feels like wonderful storytelling from different voices Feels real, feels authentic, feels like come-as-you-are Feels like Abraham’s phrase tuned in, tapped in, turned on After I wrote all that out, I was fully connected to those feelings, that feeling place, and ready for the one next thing to do toward what I want to create. Next, I’ll put this process to finding or even appreciating your person for those focused in the dating & relationship sector.  Photo of two cats snuggling on couch from Sigmund on Unsplash. CLICK ON PIC FOR DATING RESOURCES. You know when it feels really right and just works with someone? Even for a while, at times, in the beginning, or the closest you’ve gotten to yet? Or can you imagine what you’re pretty sure it would feel like based on what you’ve learned about what is NOT IT, what you know you don’t want? Feels easy, feels natural, feels unforced Feels spontaneous, unrehearsed, experienced fresh in the moment Feels like recognition, feels like knowing & being known Feels like acceptance, feels spacious, feels welcoming Feels relaxed, feels calm, feels like comfort Feels like letting down, letting go, letting be Feels fun, feels like easy laughter, like hard laughter, like shared secret smiles Feels exciting, animating, activating Feels sparky, feels mutual, feels like a volley of good energy, banter, inspired ideas Feels chosen, feels wanted, feels right Feels like adoring, appreciating, cherishing Feels like being adored, appreciated, cherished Feels like good attention, good mirroring, being seen, being appreciated Feels like mutual admiration Feels like learning, growing, opting in to forays out of the comfort zone Feels like adventure, feels like delight, wonder, awe Feels simple, easy, intuitive, organic, obvious Feels satisfying, feels good, feels like OF COURSE Are you getting it? It’s so wonderfully easy and more helpful than you might think to get you moving in the direction you’d like to go—especially when a lot feels unclear and unformed. If you took in the above feeling statements at all, you probably started to touch into or even really got hold of the feeling place.  Photo of squirrel peaking around tree trunk from Hasse Lossius on Unsplash. This is not where most human beings are taught to begin, so it’s not where we habitually begin—or even get to at all. In fact, we can get stuck early on and shut down possibilities because we begin in all the wrong places:
Also, beware of old labels that represent things you make identity of (conditions, diagnoses, history, tendencies) that in no way represent WHO YOU ARE:
About that last one, do fill in your own Enneagram type, if you’re aware of that construct, and notice how you chalk certain behaviors and mindsets up to that (or any other construct you relate with). Instead, use what you know about your tendencies to recognize and pivot from that autopilot way of seeing & approaching things—which is not WHO YOU ARE and in no way limits what you’re capable of or what you get to experience next. Let’s give a quick nod to WHO DO I THINK I AM? Pointless question whose job is just self-attack. Either answer the question to actually locate who you think you are to alleviate a sense that you have wrong ideas about your journey, wants, preferences, skills, talents; or move away from that question entirely. It’s ridiculously unkind. Notice that nothing in the above bulleted list is an actual concrete, inexorable, intractable aspect of anyone’s identity or even reality, however much they accurately know about themselves, their experiences, or their current conditions. Anything you notice that’s in your way is something to respond to consciously: you can question it (as with The Work of Byron Katie or my short inquiry process); use it to pivot from unwanted to wanted; or respond to with some process to bring forth other and stronger truths that actually align with what you want and support you to head that way (and believe you can do it and you get to have it!). (See the marble game or a focus wheel, both from Abraham-Hicks.) Or book a session with Jaya! One truly effective and crazy-simple process is to FIND THE FEELING PLACE. And do it in witing. It’s more effective that way. Second-best is saying it out loud. Love & blessings, Jaya NO PENANCE, NO PUNISHMENT, NO PURGATORY  Photo of withdrawn person with protective palm facing outward from Andriyko Podilnyk on Unsplash. Your worthiness doesn’t fluctuate. That’s the main impression I’d love for this writing to make on you. How deserving you are of happiness & well-being right now doesn’t change from one moment to the next. Your worthiness is never contingent on what you have or haven’t done. Or how well you’ve done it. Or whether you’ve done enough. The Universe is not evaluating & grading you at all times, so if you’re still living as if that’s what’s happening, if you’re still doing that to yourself, I invite you to play with another possibility. I invite you to understand, fully embody, and live into your actual, inherent, unwavering worthiness. Why you might think your worthiness fluctuates You were raised by unhealed people who believed that worthiness varies based on all kinds of things. You grew up in a culture that still holds that as truth. You were subjected, often with the best of intentions, to constant evaluation, reward & punishment, and messages of what you should & shouldn’t do according to others (who didn’t even agree on all the particulars of right & wrong). It makes sense that you thus decided you had to earn your worthiness and that you were constantly at risk of losing it. You did whatever you needed to do in response to that—worked hard & harder, strove to be good, hid things, omitted information, lied outright, defended, rationalized, begged, charmed, fought, fawned, fled, froze. … What (routinely) makes you feel undeserving Whether you believe it a little or a lot, I’m inviting you to notice right now what makes you feel undeserving, what you think can strip you of your inherent deserving of all good things at all times—a worthiness that’s actually never in question and can neither be earned nor unearned. You might think you no longer deserve to feel good, succeed, be loved, or experience well-being of any kind under some of the following conditions:
So what happens when you (inaccurately) think your worthiness has notched down?  Photo of silhouetted person walking under sky at dusk or dawn from Ryunosuke Kikuno on Unsplash. What you do when you feel undeserving It can look a lot of different ways to believe that here & now, you’ve lost your worthiness badge, you’re unworthy, you don’t deserve … Here are some typical ones:
I don’t want you to live this way! Do you? Purgatory pause or self-imposed limbo In summary, you start believing in a punitive Universe again (Do you believe in a punitive Universe?), probably with yourself as the punisher-in-chief. You think you need to be in some sort of limbo for a while, as if you must undergo some purification before you deserve anything in life that rcould be heavenly (like ease, fun, money, fulfilling work; harmonious connections with other sentient beings; feeling healthy or at ease in your body, looking good, liking yourself; getting to work, play, love, and live with people you like and can be fully yourself with; and the list goes on). Wait—is it true that your worthiness doesn’t go up and down? I dunno, seems true to me. It’s a more empowering belief that I think brings out the best in us. And I can’t think of a graph where fluctuating worthiness actually gets charted except in our faulty unexamined belief systems where very old & inaccurate stuff prevails. More important & more relevant to you, I invite you to explore that for yourself. At the School for The Work of Byron Katie (which I attended seems-like-just-yesterday in 2006), Katie asked us, What if you could move without a trace from one moment to the next? She invited us to believe that we could. (And she has always invited folks to run their own experiments, saying, “Don’t just take my word for it.”) You might ask yourself:
Note that moving forward could certainly include a well-placed apology, making amends, paying something back or forward. I’m not saying you need to go into denial about having moments when you don’t prefer how you just felt, behaved, chose, spoke, whatever. We will have such moments as long as we’re alive! I’m definitely saying that you might look at how long you hold yourself as wrong & undeserving and how much this results in your walking around feeling wrong & undeserving a good chunk of your life. I’ve written about swift course-correction before (type it into the search bar on my website!). Given what you’ve observed about young humans:
Isn’t all of this a life’s work? Is there a time limit on trial-and-error? Can’t we keep experimenting and keep growing and keep bumping into something that hits us as off and keep course-correcting toward what feels more aligned as we go? What if you trusted your inner guidance system and your own strong internal moral compass more than a belief you should never get it wrong, followed by punishment & purgatory and staking yourself deeper into the camp of unworthiness? Another invitation to soothe yourself I invite you to a grand experiment of soothing yourself when you feel bad. Not judging, not punishing, not analyzing, not trying to figure out where you went wrong, not seeking to justify your position, not allowing yourself to keep simmering in bad-mood sauce till you (somehow) earn getting to feel good again. When you feel bad, even if you’re sure you’ve done something wrong, disappointed yourself, fallen short of your idealized self, just feel better. Soothe yourself. Give yourself kind messages. Make choices about where to put your attention that would feel good to you now, not make you a good person (by your currently warped estimation of what that means when you’re in that bad space). Course-correct toward the wanted, starting with managing your feeling state and just going easy on yourself and others. Then take actions when you’re ready to take the ones that actually serve you. You are inherently worthy! If you’re alive, you are worthy of a wonderful life. You are worthy of a good day, any number of good segments throughout the day, a good NOW. You are worthy of love, health, a body you feel great in, work that deeply fulfills you, wonderful relationships with other sentient beings and rocks and things, time in your happy places, laughter, wealth, freedom & mobility. I could go on. I invite you to go on. And move on quickly when you’re feeling bad about yourself. Refuse to live in a senseless illusion that’s robbing you of this moment and sometimes whole days, weeks, months, and years when you get stuck in false penitence. Love & blessings, Jaya As I was engaged in this writing, this daily message came in from Abraham-Hicks Publications: Many believe that Source is outside of them and that you are separate from Source and being tested in some way. But only you can cause the feeling of separation from Source. That is what all negative emotion is. Source is never withholding from you. Source is always focused upon you, surrounding you with appreciation and unspeakable love. You can sign up for daily inspiration & reminders from Abraham. My favorite thing is to receive the ongoing live transmissions through Abraham Now programs, one to four times monthly. |
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