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GET REAL ABOUT THIS MAGICAL REALITY

6/24/2025

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Photo of rainbow from car on highway from Husam Yaghi on Unsplash.

JUNE 22 WAS MY BIRTHDAY—my favorite day of the year. I stepped outside early in the morning then fetched a broom to sweep the messy walkway. I took my time so I could linger in one of the most delicious breezes I’ve ever felt on my skin. It was a strong one, too, and I knew I was doing thankless work that’s instantly nullified by the next mess. But … I wasn’t in it for the thanks, or even for the task.

WHICH IS THE MAIN EVENT?
Have you ever had the experience of going outside to work in the garden or do some fix-it project or wash your car—really because you just wanted to be outside? And bonus, a chore gets done while you’re out there.


Or have you ever gone out into the world rationally believing that what you’re up to is shopping or picking something up from your work place, and as you go about your business, you take in some beautiful or interesting sights and lovely sensations, or you hear a near-forgotten song you love on the radio, or you run into someone wonderful (and maybe something recent made you think about them, so now the magic has kicked in as well)? Which was in fact the main event—the errand or the joy-producing, soul-nourishing stuff along the way?

Or have you ever gone somewhere with a particular idea of what would unfold or a particular goal in mind, or entered a conversation thinking you were moving with this person in a certain direction, and then you discovered that something entirely different was underway? Whether you expected a proposal and got a break-up instead, or you expected a routine catch-up and instead got a tempting business proposal—truly, the good or the bad of it doesn’t matter. You could say it’s all good, and you might notice it all comes with challenges. More important, it’s all the stuff of life!

WAKING UP TO REALITY
So what’s more aligned with reality? The stuff we check off lists, or the stuff that grabs us and generates awe and other stirring emotion? The stuff that feels good because we’re properly adulting or the stuff that reminds us of what we’ve known since earliest childhood, that life is fun and fascinating and delicious and hilarious and profound? The stuff we sleep-walk through or the stuff that wakes us up?

Well, actually, in presence, we can be awake through both kinds of events. And, of course, both are reality. And both are happening concurrently ALL THE TIME.

OUR REALITY ON PLANET EARTH IS OUR DANCE WITH CONSCIOUSNESS.

The spiritual stuff that delivers goosebumps or quiet smiles or hard laughter is in no way opposed to or separate from the stuff that keeps us financially solvent or takes care of the physical well-being of our bodies or homes.

I have a friend spending this day cleaning up flooding in her basement. I learned this in a WhatsApp exchange in which I did NOT write that I’m so sorry she has to do this pain-in-the-bum stuff. I wrote, Wishing you any bit, glimpse, or, um, flood of sparkle and joy as you set your basement straight. She will not be offended that I didn’t treat her like some god-awful thing had gone wrong, because she’s right with me. She lives in a gorgeous flow with whatever life delivers and walks herself through it brilliantly & kindly and keeps learning and loving as she goes. She’s also hilarious and I love being around her.

LET LIFE SHOW YOU
Let life show you what you’re doing as a human being in a material world, and let life show you what is constantly shimmering under the surface. Let life show you whether the next event is to your liking or not, but go in no matter which you think it is, curious about what cool next experience or what gorgeous new understanding or what kind of fun you’ll get this time. Go swimming without knowing whether you’ll be in the shallows or the depths this time, and just LOVE the swim.


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Image of two dolphins leaping out of the water from A Chosen Soul on Unsplash.

As I keep celebrating my 63rd birthday, as I savor this amazing life I’m in, I invite you to the following.

Keep having fun and keep being curious and keep showing up IN CHOICE, as if you’re doing it all for you. Because ultimately, you are. This is YOUR DANCE WITH CONSCIOUSNESS, however you choose it, whether you hold a consciousness of choice or not. If you choose according to other people’s expectations, you’ll end up in resentment or deep dissatisfaction or at some level of disconnection from your authentic self.

FORGETTING & REMEMBERING
Later, if you find yourself telling someone (in your head or out loud) (we can be even more shrill in our heads, can’t we?) (I have a head, I know all about this) (I digress) … If you find yourself declaring how hard you worked or how much you sacrificed or alllllllllllll that you did (that they’re failing to appreciate), you’ll be inaccurate or at least beside the point in your take on the matter.

What’s truer is that you forgot why you’re really here. What’s truer is, you forgot  to have fun and love every moment of the journey—or at least appreciate its value and stay open to the capacity for anything lovely, interesting, wondrous—for anything life- or love-infused)—to show itself at any time; to enter into your lived visceral sensory experience of the dynamic now in the dynamic now, NO MATTER THE CONTENT OF THE MOMENT.

Don’t accept being in autopilot. It’s fine to catch yourself there (yay, you caught it!). Course-correct back to presence.

Don’t do things to check them off lists. Don’t miss the journey.

And don’t suffer to be good or do a good job or have others think you’re a good person. Nothing will be accomplished by that except more suffering for you to live through and walk yourself out of.

Live your beautiful life. The beauty is astonishing.


THIS, TOO, IS ABOUT MANIFESTATION
I’ve been sharing manifestation nuggets. I didn’t call this one that, but it really is. When you’re living in the mindset described here and the feeling state that goes with it, you’re much open, you’re in a state of allowing, and you generate the creative ideas & energy to move toward what you want with concrete actions in this physical world. Again, the spiritual and the earthly all married together, not separate, not at odds with each other.


Love & blessings, Jaya
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Two more posts that touch on your dance with consciousness:
1. Follow the whispers & impulses that call you to feel alive
2. Trees & Coral put to proper use (or, Are you a Clown fish or a Mockingbird?)
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How to prevent or allow living in everyday magic

5/20/2017

 
We are all deeply connected, and living in alignment can mean connecting to the symbolic aspects of this Universe, and its playful, responsive nature. A way I like to say it for myself is, I'm in dialogue with the Universe, and I'm not the only one talking. In brief, the stuff of the magic includes signs and symbols, gorgeous timing, unplanned rendez-vous, fun with words and numbers, recognition, echos, repetition--all manner of synchronicity--and more. If we choose, we have access to this magic every day.


You cannot live in everyday magic if
  • you hate mundane tasks and think and talk about what  a pain they are
  • you practice the fundamentalist religion of efficiency
  • you allow yourself to be thrown off by things like poor customer service or pathetic world affairs—or you find yourself thrown off by such things and get stuck there, either by cultivating the feelings, reviewing the gory details, or judging yourself for feeling stuck or thrown off
  • you live by a script written out as to-do lists
  • you're always focused on what's undone or what wasn't done well enough
  • you go to bed reviewing what's wrong, bad, scary, troublesome, undone, not done well enough (then wake up reviewing ...)
  • you're making your personal-growth process a fix-it project, especially one with little kindness or gentleness (please read my book Scooch! if this is you!)
  • you're constantly evaluating and assessing and predicting
  • you're letting fear make your small and large decisions for you
  • you make little of crazy-amazing things that happen (even small samples of such) and feel a bit weird or foolish for noticing them at all

You get to live in and cultivate everyday magic when
  • you allow yourself to be struck with awe and wonder by the smallest things (bubble, flower, freckle)
  • you allow yourself to feel and think anything without judging it (and you still don't have to believe your own thoughts)
  • you dabble even intermittently with beginner's mind ("This is all brand new," "I've never seen you before, Familiar One," "I don't fully know all the things I think I know")
  • you play with new ways to love and test what unconditional love might mean as an ongoing project (what does it mean right now to drop conditions for loving you?)
  • you have great boundaries and don't fear, worry, or believe that your boundaries harm others (or keep walking yourself out of such fears)
  • you're willing to go against tendency
  • you cultivate a great relationship with your guidance system, prioritizing what comes up from inside over directives and opinions that come from the outside (and adopt outer suggestions only when and because they resonate with that inner thing that knows the difference between words that come in like a purifying gong sound or a lovely breeze versus those that hit like a sharp slap or an alarming siren)
  • you NOTICE and enjoy and appreciate magical things like synchronicity; crazy-amazing timing; repeating numbers, titles, images, words, people; signs and symbols that permeate your world, including in dreams, things watched or heard or overheard, encountered out and about, or online, or anywhere; and so on
  • you go to bed thinking about things you love, reviewing good moments in the day, considering what's done and done well enough, appreciating all that supports your beautiful life
  • you admire and adore the people you live with and encounter
  • you love yourself
  • you love yourself
  • you fucking love yourself, even now, even at your worst, even weak, even covered in snot, even when you hear yourself use that tone you most hate, even when you catch yourself in self-loathing; you just keep learning how to come back to self-love, a place from which, I swear to goddess, ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE

You're beautiful, and the magic abounds.
Love & blessings, Jaya

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