​Shortest read: Scroll down past the first photo and skim through the end for the things you’re likely to say to yourself in the headings. Drop in with those to see how else you might approach it and what other words might serve you better.

Less of this:

• This can’t be happening.
• This is bad.
• This is not okay.
• What is wrong with me?
• How could I have done (thought, said) that?
• This is so hard.
• I feel so guilty.
• I have to figure this out.
• I can’t
• I don’t know what to do.
• I don’t know how.
• I’ll mess it up.
• I messed it up.
• I missed my chance.
• Everything’s ruined.
• It’s not gonna happen.

INTERRUPT that shit. Stop talking, get off the topic, hit the pause button, redirect your focus, move away from this, get out of head and into body, do anything but keep following those trains of thought or bits of dialogue. You’ll just built momentum in the wrong direction if you keep going with something that was not a useful direction to go in the first place—a direction that leads to all that you don’t want.

Next I’m going to offer better things to say to yourself for each of the above. Essentially, all we're doing here is what Abraham-Hicks calls reaching for better-feeling thoughts.

Replace each heading below with something like the suggestions that follow. Feel better? More of that. Each sentence under each original statement could represent one next thought to reach for that feels even a little bit better than the first thing that popped into your head or out of your mouth.

This can’t be happening.
This is reality, so it must be normal human stuff that I don’t need to get all riled up about. I’d like to accept what’s happening here, which doesn’t require me to like it or approve of it. I’d like to get real. From that place, I think I can see more clearly and peacefully where I’d prefer for things to go.

This is bad.
This is just life unfolding. I don’t need to label it good or bad, just soothe myself where it feels bad and reach for thoughts, words, ideas, a vision, one action to take that feels better.

This is not okay.
It’s okay. It’s really okay. I’m okay. (Hey, younger me, I’ve got you. You’re okay. This isn’t the old thing you were stuck in. We’re not stuck here.)

What is wrong with me?
There’s nothing wrong with me. I’m on a human journey and sometimes I’m in touch with loving that journey. I’ve come a long way. All is well. I’m willing to keep showing up, learning, growing, healing, being a better version of myself.

How could I have done (thought, said) that?
There’s nothing I ever do that isn’t normal human stuff. When it feels off to me, I can love that my guidance system is working. When I feel bad about it, I can make myself feel better and take actions that feel aligned to me. I can simply course-correct. I don’t have to make identity out of anything I do, think, or say. I can simply keep feeling into what I prefer and head that way.

This is so hard.
This is just unpracticed. It’s probably not that hard. I could build these muscles. I could get used to this. I really just need to try the new way here and now and not jump ahead mentally beyond this moment.

I feel so guilty.
Most guilt is false and based on old concepts I no longer believe or someone else’s concepts I don’t need to subscribe to. If I feel guilty, instead of carrying around a guilty feeling and talking (to myself or others) about how guilty I feel, I can check it out. If I’m really guilty, there’s stuff to do (make amends, clean it up, do something else now or later). But if I’m not, then I simply need to soothe the part of me that’s uncomfortable about something here. (I don’t like being seen by them in this way; I hate not giving someone what they seem to need and want from me; I don’t like disappointing them; …

I have to figure this out.
I don’t need to figure this out right now. I need to soothe myself and get into a better space and then watch for inspiration—maybe just for one next step to take toward what feels aligned with what I’m after.

I’ll never figure this out.
I’ve learned so much in my lifetime, corrected so many wrong understandings, expanded my viewpoint, stretched my perspective … I’m open to perception shifts and new information and awareness. I don’t have to have everything clearly in view right now. In fact, that’s not how it works. What I see and don’t see now is all good enough.

​I can’t.
I’ve surprised myself with things I’ve gotten to that I didn’t know I could get to. I will again. I may or may not achieve this specific thing. I’m still going to keep aiming for things I want to create and experience and be/do/have and who knows how life will surprise me next, and how I may yet surprise myself.

I don’t know what to do.
I don’t need to know what to do. I can just soothe myself and get realigned and then I’m more likely to see one way to aim roughly in the right direction.

I don’t know how.
I’ve done so many things I didn’t start out knowing how to do. I don’t need to know how. I need to keep in view what I’m after, what matters to me, and follow what comes to me to do.

I’ll mess it up.
I’d like to be done predicting my own failures or graceless processes. I’d like to be willing to fail or bumble through something without making identity of it—or start making identity out of my badass risk-taking self.

I messed it up.
This didn’t give me the outcome I wanted. That’s okay. That’s a normal human experience and part of the human journey. In fact, I’ve gotten so much better at releasing outcome, which sometimes enables me to move forward when I’m not sure how things will go. So … Now what?

I missed my chance.
Life is full of opportunities. The field of pure potentiality is always before me. Life brings things around again & again & again. As Abraham-Hicks says, You can’t miss the boat because there’s always another boat coming.

Everything’s ruined.
I love catching myself in all-or-nothing thinking and knowing it can’t be true. Everything can’t be ruined. I’m still alive. There’s more to love, enjoy, savor, learn, create, play with …

It’s not gonna happen.
I don’t know what’s next or what will or won’t come to be. I know I have a few things I’d like to head toward. I love the journey. I love remembering it’s a journey, not a struggle toward a series of outcomes. What will be will be, and in the meantime, here I am. I so appreciate getting to be here.

Got it? The simple concept is, less of what makes you feel bad, more of what is soothing and encouraging and makes you feel better-good-great. Walk yourself through kindly. Speak to yourself in ways that are actually helpful. Do not ALLOW yourself to carry around thoughts that defeat you and make you feel like you’re not living your life well, you’re not enough, you’re not equipped for reality. You’re doing great. You’re equipped. You’re amazing.

Love & blessings, Jaya

PS. I also have a post on a simple way to recognize thoughts as working for or against you! Upstream or Downstream?

Also relevant, is Talk yourself through. How do you want to talk to yourself as you kindly walk yourself through things acting like your own best ally?

​For the quick version, scan the 11 points and drop in with the one or ones that calls to you. This stuff has the potential to make your life feel way better.)

As I move along in my journey, I become an ever greater fan of whatever gets you (and me!) down the road most effortlessly. I’m all about rewriting the old scripts about how hard you have to work to get to where you want to go, how nothing worth having doesn’t entail blood, sweat, and tears to get there, blah-blah-blabetty-hard-work-blah.

So here, I offer you 11 CRAZY-EASY WAYS to make a quick shift right here & now as you go along your way. Super-simple things to keep you moving with the greatest ease (and kindness!). Tiny ways to adjust or course-correct that cost you little—beyond keeping them in view and simply reaching for them as a practice.

If this idea of microshifts is hard to keep in view (which will only mean you need practice to recalibrate to a more you-friendly way of being), why not print out the 11 tactics that follow?

1. Simply notice that what you’re doing (thinking, speaking) right now doesn’t feel good! Take note. LET IN that information instead of plowing through it. Breathe a moment as you notice. This feels bad. This is worth my noticing. (Note that you were taught to plow through, not value feeling bad as part of what’s meant to guide you toward what feels better.)
2. Interrupt what feels bad. (This can mean, stop talking, put it down, take a break, leave …) Abraham-Hicks says that you have to VALUE feeling good—value it enough to keep interrupting feeling bad. That just makes simple, solid sense to me. Does it to you? How much do you value feeling good? How much do you expect to feel good? How much do you intend to feel good? How often do you interrupt what feels bad? I invite you to increase that. (It would make a valid & worthwhile experiment!)
3. Reach for what feels better: something to ease, nourish, or hydrate the body; new thoughts or some activity that would soothe or elevate emotion; better-feeling thoughts.
4. Notice when you’re talking about what you DON’T want. Switch to talking about what you DO want. (That’s so simple—and maybe the most important & powerful thing on this list in terms of creating the life you want.)
5. Notice & interrupt your fixation on what isn’t to your liking. Even if you’re really really right about how things should be. Shift your focus to (write down in list form, list to yourself out loud or mentally, say to other sentient beings around you) what’s going right. What’s good or good enough. What’s working, what’s here to support you & get you through the moment. That shift in fixation (as an ongoing practice, and just RIGHT NOW) supports living in appreciation and fosters a greater sense of well-being.
6. Laugh more. Be amused by life and the characters in it. Shift annoyance at someone to enjoying how well they play this caricature of themselves. Say funny things. Find people to play with you in fun repartee. If you need to, watch or listen to things that make you laugh. Ask a child to tell you a joke (their mirth could make you laugh even if the joke’s not that funny!) Find the humorous spin on what’s happening now. (Who is it you want to have around when things get hard and absurd? Those complaining & pointing out all that’s wrong? Or those making light of it and finding fun in the delay, the rerouting, the absurdly piss-poor customer service?)
7. Let go of what you’re insisting on if insisting feels bad. This is where you may get sucked into the illusion that you’ll feel better if … someone else acknowledges something, gets it, offers validation, apologizes, tells you you’re right—all the things you may well deserve and just may not get. So … let go, just for now. It’s ultimately an illusion that you must have these things to feel good. That puts you at someone else’s mercy, or at the mercy of events & circumstances beyond your control. You control how you feel, so let go of the thing you want to hold on to & insist upon that’s making you feel bad. (THAT’S what’s making you feel bad, not the outer stuff people & life are & aren’t doing.) For now, just let it be okay to let go. If some greater thing is needed later for a relationship or system to function better, you can have the conversations or take the actions toward change—later. Right now, just let go. Trust it’s okay. For now, it’s really okay, it’s really better, to let go.
8. Notice harsh or unkind self-talk—including subtle, mental, even pre-verbal instances of that--and speak again. Immediately. If you ask yourself, for example, what the fuck is wrong with you, pause. Let that feel jarring, not normal. Maybe say, Whoa, what’s this? Then speak again: There’s nothing wrong with you, sweetheart. You’re fine. You’re doing great enough. What is it that this moment is asking for? You don’t need to evaluate what’s wrong with you. You just need to head toward what feels good [better, kind, aligned, ethical, loving, wise]. Always give yourself WAY MORE positive messages to counter the negative. Overwhelm the habitual old messages with a torrent of kinder, truer, more positive, soothing, empowering messages.
9. When something tugs at you, respond at once—even to just take a look if you don’t feel ready to act. What’s asking for your attention? What is your guidance system inviting you to move away from, step into, sit down with? What’s feeling bad now that felt good before (the show viewing, the game, even the cleaning or ordering or working)? Respond to those tugs because they’ll get you where you need to go. They’ll support you to notice & shift faster when things feel bad.
10. Right now, reach for your point of least resistance, especially when you’re stuck, stubbornly not budging, feeling contracted, calling yourself lazy, pushing against something (etc, etc). Just find an easy point of entry to just do one thing, to just begin it or move it forward a bit, the one next bit. What’s the easiest thing you can do toward the dreaded task? You can show up better if you shift in the moment out of contemplating (and resisting) the whole task and into considering just the one easiest next thing. Place your foot in the most reachable spot that points roughly in the right direction.
11. Feeling discouraged or bad about yourself or how you’re doing? Go back and look at how far you’ve come. Catalogue your accomplishments and refuse to dilute them by comparing them to those of others or by adding limiting qualifiers (e.g., For such a late bloomer, I did finally do this). Celebrate your small & any-sized triumphs more along the way. Gauge the evolution. You’re growing & evolving, so it’s unfair to yourself and to your ongoing growth trajectory to focus on what you haven’t done or aren’t seemingly nailing right this moment.

​Bring these things to the day-to-day—these and whatever comes to you in the now-moment you need something. What could help you respond in the moment with some small shift to make things feel better & easier? What you want is within reach!
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With this mentality of easy microadjustments in place, you can play with & master shifting quickly in any number of ways toward what feels & works better. What if you committed to making this journey you’re on feel better much more often (right now, and now, and now again)? Whatever is or isn’t happening, whatever you can or can’t do in the ideal here & now, you can keep yourself moving along in kinder, more relaxed, easier ways.

Love & blessings, Jaya

​​Why would it be helpful to imagine you’re in a disaster zone?

Honestly, the mind and nervous system often act like we are when we’re not. Maybe you’ve noticed?

So play with me a moment here, but only because it could benefit you tremendously to feel at (greater) ease as you move through your most challenging situations, moments, and eras.

Let me quickly set the scene. When disaster strikes, all hell breaks loose. Buildings crumble to the ground or fill with water; roads get blocked; people don’t (and don’t even expect to) follow their usual routines; survivors may suddenly have new needs around first-aid care, food & water, shelter. All the usual ways of operating are tossed away—they’ve just become irrelevant, at least for the time being. The usual expectations of others are dropped, too—we’re not going to get mad at someone if they don’t show up on time for a schedule that’s been blown to pieces or if they don’t behave how we prefer for people to behave. We don’t expect things to be in their right places, as the house itself might be off its foundation and on top of the car. No one is shocked or launching into entitled complaining if there’s no available phone, or technology isn’t working, or help isn’t quickly forthcoming. No one expects to be comfortable or to have anyone else make them comfortable.

Application to follow.

Now imagine you’re attending the kind of social event that shakes up all your stuff; going on a blind date—or maybe any kind of date; gearing up for an interview for a job you really want; meeting family-of-origin characters at a gathering that has historically made you a little crazy; spending hours or days at the hospital as patient or support person, with a bunch of things up in the air—any number of possible outcomes and snags and edgy moments to meet along the way. Or just imagine (or notice, if this is current for you) that you’re in a tricky time because you’re healing something or learning new things that will be tested or moving through a situation that overwhelms you even though you chose it (a move, a break-up, a teaching gig). How could the disaster metaphor serve you?
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​Seeing your current reality as if it were a disaster zone, try telling yourself some of these things:

• Of course I’ll have some discomfort. It’s okay.
• I’ll just aim for where I think I want to go at any given moment and head that way with no expectation of getting it right.
• I will prioritize calming myself and, when I can, be a calming presence for others.
• I’ll do my best to function well and serenely for myself.
• I’ll consider it a beautiful bonus if I can provide some support to others along the way.
• I will expect nothing of others: no niceties; no kindness; no ways of treating me or one another; no awareness of anything I’m going through; no certain volume or ways of speaking or setting up ambiance; no politeness codes; no doing what I like, the way I like it; no agreeing with me about priorities or anything else; no food that works just right for me; nothing to honor my preferences.
• I will remember I have choice and make my best choices now & now & now.
• I will keep releasing the many things I cannot control.
• I will remind myself often that there may be very little I can control right now, so I’ll seek to control myself in whatever ways I can.
• I will remember there’s nothing I have to do for anyone, and at times there may be nothing I can do, so that when I choose to do something for someone else I can feel good about the choice and give myself to it fully and willingly.
• I will treat nothing as shocking: people will do whatever they will do.
• I will keep moving toward what makes sense to me to move toward, and away from what it makes sense to me to move away from.
• I will follow my guidance system, not others’ ideas of what I should do. I will release them to theirs, whether I think they’re tuned in to that or not.
• I will prioritize tuning in to my own guidance system.
• I will remind myself that I’m guided, and keep responding to what feels aligned and what feels off, trusting my capacity to course-correct as I go.
• I will release how the journey goes, what happens next, how long things take to right themselves.
• If I do anything that makes sense and involves carrying on toward what seems right, and help anyone else along the way, I will declare success.
• I won’t be hard on myself; I won’t expect myself to be a superstar; I’ll cut others a lot of slack too.
• I will remind myself again that I am guided; I will do my version of praying; I will remember that if I’m alive, I’m here to live and love.

See how that could help you out when life pushes you to your walls?

​And then maybe you’ll appreciate any comfort. Maybe any kind of food will seem amazing to have. Maybe any way your body functions will seem like a perfect miracle. Maybe you’ll be all tapped in to all that supports you. Maybe you’ll notice and be moved by any decency from anyone. Maybe you’ll slow down and just let things be as they are, and notice that it’s good enough for now and getting better. Maybe any modicum of fun or laughter will seem like more than you could’ve hoped for--again, a perfect miracle.

A client’s challenging situation recently reminded me of this, and I realized from a search on my website (did you know there’s a lovely search bar on my site?) that I hadn’t properly written about it. I mentioned the disaster-zone metaphor briefly in a bit about getting through holidays well. And now I’ve officially written about it and we can all play with it to keep making easier and more manageable anything that we might believe is hard.

Love & blessings, Jaya

​I want to invite you out of that furrowed-brow, overthinking thing and point you to what could feel & work better. You’ll need a willingness to trust yourself more, and also to trust life.

What if you began by committing to EASE around any decision you need to make? Ease in body, heart, and head—your three centers of intelligence. Each lets you know whether you’re on- or off-track for good decision making, and so … whether to LEAVE IT ALONE right now or jump in & run with it—or even dreamily push the pieces around.

Let’s walk together through all three centers.

Body: LOOK AWAY FROM THE TOPIC when you’re …

• tense
• moving with jerky, annoyed gestures,
• feeling heavy & ponderous
• noticing anything scrunched up in your face
• having that deflated feeling, the wind knocked out of you
• experiencing any of those physical sensations you have when you don’t like yourself or people or life

In those moments, don’t think about it at all, never mind try to move the decision forward. Seriously. Literally walk away if you need to, and go make your body feel better. Start with a drink of clean water.

It’s a great time to come back to the topic when you’re …

• relaxed
• feeling good & at ease inside your own body
• moving consciously & fluidly
• breathing well
• noticing lovely information your 5 senses (or however many you’ve got) are bringing in
• experiencing spacious, open, lightness of being

Now go! Go ahead & come close to this thing you’re considering. See what wants to be dreamed up, learned, discovered, invented, and maybe fully decided!

Heart: DON’T EVEN GO NEAR THE TOPIC, never mind try to make the decision, when you’re …

• frustrated
• worried, anxious
• feeling bad about yourself
• sad about your past
• grabbed by fear about what you think you’ve decided badly before
• scared or preemptively sorry about your future
• hurting about what’s painful in life

In your bad feeling states, shift your physical & mental gaze toward what makes you feel better. In fact, just go take care of your heart. Don’t analyze or think about your feelings. Breathe them, soften them, soothe them, carry them around kindly. Take your feelings with you as you go back to the body and do something that will move your limbs & energies and get the blood & breath flowing again.

When do you go back into the stuff of your decision? When you feel

• at peace
• happy, joyful
• satisfied, content
• hopeful, expansive, optimistic
• warm toward self, others, life
• downright pleased with yourself
• worthy, lovable, gazed upon by love
• fully in love

All or any of this means you’re ready to dream into your vision again or dive back into the specifics & details of what needs to be known so that the decision can come to you without strain & forcing, never mind agonizing.

Head: Screech decision making to a halt when you’re

• ruminating
• repeating yourself, with the negative thoughts echoing menacingly
• reviewing all the reasons you probably have to scale something down, settle, give up, etc.
• going into some version of what you don’t deserve or don’t get to have
• comparing yourself to what others have or get to do
• reviewing the past to find evidence about what’s wrong with you
• fixating on whatever’s going on in your life that isn’t to your liking (current conditions that tell you lies about your prospects for the future, but you fool yourself into thinking you’re being level-headed & realistic by giving those your increasingly unclear attention)

I mean it. INTERRUPT ALL THOUGHT when that’s the vibe in your headspace. The sooner, the better—before it builds momentum. Get out of your head, please. Back to the body, back to the heart. Take note, in fact, that your body & heart are feeling bad as they sync with those thoughts. Now, go after what makes them feel better. Abandon thinking altogether until you can reach for thoughts that go with a relaxed body and soothed heart.

You’ll know you’re ready to bring focus back to the topic when

• the mind is clear of old ideas or beliefs
• you can look up at the sky and feel that large, beautiful expanse inside yourself
• you’re having thoughts about what’s possible, what works, what supports you
• the limiting & mean things you say to yourself are distant & harmless or nowhere in the vicinity
• you feel pretty good about where you’ve been & where you are
• you aim to go where you actually want to be (will & intention harnessed!)
• you can bring it to now and just find the next step that feels right—with no idea of having to figure or map the whole thing out
• you’re out of right-wrong and know that there is no perfect, right way to do it, just the next gorgeous experiment to run

Now, let your imagination run, do the research, make the phone calls & visits, have the conversations, and make little or large choices that move you toward that readiness to decide—or plunk you right in a decision that you notice kind of made itself. (Byron Katie taught me that decisions make themselves, and I keep finding that when I’m tending my state through my 3 centers, they do just that.)

Hey, when you’re in a good place in body-heart-head, I invite you to notice the magic. Are you …

• bumping into people who light you up
• noticing new things that inspire you as they drop into your field or lap
• coming upon the new, unexpected related idea
• feeling the flow of uncanny right timing???

Notice the magic. It will get you where you’re going. (And, um, it’s not magic at all. It’s the way things work when you’re clear & open. You know.)

Love & blessings, Jaya

​Want a quicker read? You can simply learn or review the placemat process by starting below the first pic. Scroll down, baby …

I was thinking about how hard it is for people to LET GO of trying to control all the parts and believing I’M THE ONE who makes it happen. Doership! We even stir up more confusion by accusing ourselves of being irresponsible or not properly showing up when we’re not doing our utmost (as we tense up & exhaust ourselves) to think of everything and manage all the parts.

That’s a problem because

• you can’t see all the parts
• you can’t know all the possible ways this dream or vision or desire could look (by desire I mean things like: I want a fulfilling job, I want my finances in order, I want a healthy & beautiful relationship, I want a body I feel good in)
• you don’t know the fastest, most efficient way to get to where you’re going; there are fun shortcuts you haven’t yet dreamed of (but you might benefit from going back and finding where life got you somewhere much faster & more easily than you could have with all your wits)
• you don’t know all the amazing detours & pauses & strange happenings along the way that are going to give you exactly what you need, whether you knew you needed it or not (but you could go back and consider the wise workings of that in your past)
• when you think you have to orchestrate what you can’t possibly, then you try to via worry, rumination, tiresome repetition & reviews … and that creates all kinds of dissatisfaction & destabilization (familiar?)
• you have no clue of (here comes some Abraham-Hicks language) all the cooperative components lining up to bring all the parts together into some beautiful whole you get to live out & play in—that next unfolding where you get to grow yourself & create & dance with consciousness & just be in love with this amazing human journey & the wondrous settings & characters in it

Those who use the G-word sometimes say, Let go and let God. Um, sure, that can be used to go complacent or excuse not stepping up. It can also be used to let go of what you can’t control, and let the greater intelligence do its thing. It will always include you in the doing (some of us think you are God and God is you), but won’t put you in charge of what you just don’t have the capacity to do, manage, or control (since you’re also in this limited ego-reality as an individual human being).

When I first heard the term the organizing intelligence of the Universe, it just sang to me. I was already aware of the love force and fully down for that. I hadn’t thought about or even begun to take in (and that will be an ongoing process till I die) the unfathomable intricacies & crazy brilliance of what I now call the orchestration.

So how do you come to know that, work with it better, FLOW with it, give yourself to that current? Play your part and put down what’s not yours?

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The PLACEMAT PROCESS from Abraham-Hicks is my favorite way to put stuff down and get crystal clear about what I’m doing and what I’m not doing. And bee-tee-dubs, it’s called that because Esther (yeah, the nice white lady from Texas who channels Abraham, which or who is actually a group of entities, I know, I know, but stay with me, please, because it’s brilliant)—Esther got this process while she was at a restaurant and used a paper placemat to try it out.

For those who like Byron Katie’s 3 kinds of business, note that this allow you to clearly and on paper (where you won’t get sidetracked by all the slippery seaweed in the mind) write down in one area what belongs to the Universe and even to other people, and separately note what’s yours.

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​The act of writing it down is also a literal and symbolic putting it down. Placing it in those larger hands, or into that great holding net where everything’s being gorgeously woven together in a way that works for the good of all concerned.

So in your area on the paper, you write down only what you’ll do today. Abraham says, Mean it. Whatever you put there, you know for sure you’ll get to it. Cool if you get this wrong, folks. Use it to take in how confused you still are about how much you’re supposed to and can get into a day. We’re actually not meant to CRAM OUR DAYS full with productive activity. Ay, that’s the great cultural lie of doership and what it means to be good little worker bees. (I imagine real bees are relaxed & having a good time as they bop around collecting pretty powdered nectar & turning it into exquisite golden honey.)

But it’s not just that I’m NOT DOING the things I put down in the Universal Manager area. The organizing intelligence, or what A-H calls the Universal Manager, is all over it. Bringing things together with that uncanny right-place right-time precision, flowing things your way, getting people queued up to enter stage left or bump into you as you round the corner, in short—orchestrating. Or … lining up cooperative components that will support you to get to where you’re going.

Do watch if you choose to experiment with this. Notice how things moved forward that you didn’t touch because you gave them, for real, to the UM who knows how to effortlessly make it all happen & come together gorgeously.

So ANYTHING you’re thinking about, worried about, wishing you could get to, thinking you should already have gotten to (but truth is, you won’t get to it or can’t do anything about it today), PUT IT DOWN. You’ll know as you write (and after) you really are putting it and did put it down when you feel some RELIEF. When you relax. When you feel light instead of heavy. When you feel you’re doing enough, it’s good enough, all is well. (Notice the trust in this?)

Put down all that you don’t need to carry today because it’s really not what’s up for YOU to manage, hold, do, or orchestrate. Examples:

• What’s happening with your kid who’s struggling
• Getting taxes in on time
• Working out your social issues
• Planning your vacation
• Moving that other project forward
• Getting back to So-and-So
• Helping more turtle hatchlings get to the water
• …

When you can look at your little (way littler) list and feel good about THAT being the stuff of your activity today, you’re on the right track. Maybe you’ll even remember that the ACTUAL stuff of your day is not just what you check off the to-do list but …

• love, peace, joy
• dancing with consciousness
• laughing
• being a body breathing, grounding, connecting to the senses
• living in presence
• playing with random acts of kindness
• letting the beauty and wonder of life make its impressions on you
• …

Hey, I’ve heard Abraham gently & playfully scold people for acting like they’re delegating things to the Universal Manager, and then they have the right to be upset if something didn’t move something forward the way they’d hoped. You’re getting the benefits of the process when you feel RELIEF. Intend relief. Note relief means less resistance. It means you’re entering or you’re in the flow. It means you’ll give yourself a much easier time of it. There’s more going on too but … that’s enough, isn’t it?

Love & blessings, Jaya