EASY EXISTING MATCHES

Process #1 of 5 for quick & easy focus & alignment

Photo of red-and-white door on stone building with #1 on address placard. From Ante Hamersmit on Unsplash.

(Have you ever noticed you can follow the bold print in these writings to get the gist of it for a quick read and to find where you may want to go in more deeply? Yup.)

Here, you’ll find the first of 5 FOCUSING & ALIGNMENT PROCESSES I want to offer you precisely because

1. they’re easy
2. they can be done quickly
3. they’re super effective for getting you feeling how you want to feel about yourself, your day, a relationship, a particular task (whatever!)

All of these processes come from Abraham-Hicks, where I’m getting most of my dynamic learning & input for feeling great about my evolving life these days!

These tools are especially wonderful to use first thing in the morning, so you establish for yourself how you want to feel. Don’t let others, your inbox, the news, the commute—DON’T LET ANYTHING ESTABLISH YOUR FEELING STATE FOR YOU. Don’t let something external tell you what to focus on. Don’t even let your habitual thoughts or feelings co-opt what’s possible for this brand-new day.

EASY EXISTING MATCHES
(You might write EEM at the top of your page)
This process has 3 easy steps, and the first 2 could take 30 seconds. Step #3 takes as long as you want to give it. Really drop in with it, whether you do that for 1 minute, 5, or until you have your own sense of completion. Most important, notice, when you’re ready to stop, that you feel different—you’ve shifted your feeling state. You’ve established yourself in feeling and believing you can feel HOW YOU WANT TO FEEL.

Step 1. Simply notice how you feel.
Let’s say you’re not so sure you feel fantastic today, or some dissatisfaction or hard feelings have already started to form. Perhaps they even grabbed you right when you woke up. You can feel the force of how they’re starting to call in other upsets & complaints. You can feel it in your body. Your mind has taken off without your go-ahead, and you can already feel the MOMENTUM of a line of thinking that’s self-defeating or just makes you feel bad. You know you could end up evaluating your whole life, right? And you’ll find it faulty or meh. (Funny how that works.)

Step 2. Identify and write down how you want to feel. This could be about a particular topic or an upcoming event today; or, in general, just how you’d like to feel right now and on this day.

Let’s say you establish that you want to feel like you love your life. You want to feel great.

Image of numbers 1-2-3 cropped from a photo by ISO10 on Unsplash.

Step 3. List Easy Existing Matches
All you’re doing here is writing down things already fully present in your life that match the feeling you’re after. This allows you to call it up, know it’s already yours, remember it’s alive for you. This isn’t something you need to strain or strive for. It’s not out of reach or unknown. It’s already yours!

Just list what’s right in reach that already fills the bill: easy existing matches.

On a very recent gray & frigid morning, I created an EEM list for feeling great. It included things like this:

• The flash sessions I did recently were so fun & fulfilling
• I’m so happy with my simple daily qigong practice that makes my body feel good and makes me feel good about tending it
• I keep loving that I stand up daily from a low squat without using my hands
• I’ve been eating good food and my digestion is amazing
• I’m warm & cozy inside with the gas fire in the chimney all lit up like the real thing
• I’m so excited about my qigong mentorship coming up with Mimi K-D
• I get to go back to the wildlife center next week and see Charlie, my favorite crow (this made me flash to our last meeting, when I handed him a silvery spoon and he took it from me and drifted over to his water bowl to wash it off)
• I love that I’ve been in low-key winter mode, more dreamy & less active, and I appreciate even more that, if even a whiff of should-be-doing-more comes in, I’m releasing it and finding that I feel aligned with this moment, this season
• The potential for getting a bunch of 3C meditations on my YouTube channel just makes me happy
• I feel great about feeling great that I live in KC KS with my mother, and every day there’s evidence I’m improving her life
• I have so many tools and so many ways to reach for feeling great when I don’t, and I’m using one right now
• …

Note that I did NOT feel great when I began, and I did when I stopped. I also didn’t feel horrible when I began (though I would have used this process just the same if I had). I like to catch things early, before they build momentum. I love to sit down first thing in the day and do some processes to head right away toward how I want to feel.

Bee tee dubs, one of my morning processes is free games on the New York Tiimes app. Which Abraham has never suggested, but they constantly remind us to judge nothing. Do what works. Follow what delights you. Mind your feeling state, because that’s minding your alignment. When you feel aligned, inspired thought comes in, right action grabs you, the thing to look up or reach for or attend to comes clearly into view. Try it, you’ll like it.

And, hey, you know this already. You’re doing it already on some level. So try it more. Early and often.

Abraham taught me: Care about how you feel. And when you feel bad, reach for what will make you feel better.

Process #2, on Segment Intending from Abraham Hicks, is the next blog post!

Love & blessings, Jaya