FEELING OVER DOING

Or Rather, Feeling and THEN Doing

Image of back of human being facing gentle ocean with arms open wide. From Imdadul Hussain on Unsplash.

WHY I’M STILL TALKING ABOUT HOW TO FEEL INSTEAD OF WHAT TO DO
First, you’ll find good preludes to this new idea in these 3 topics I’ve already covered:

1. the power of fully accepting where you are now
2. the importance of looking away from current conditions you don’t like (this is crucial, and requires ongoing PRACTICE)
3. the idea of putting your primary focus on feeling good (or just feeling better) with practical 3-centered how-to

DO NOT BE DISMAYED: I do know my focus hasn’t been on what we can do and even must do—appropriate & necessary action steps needed to create the change we want, to get to where we’d like to be.

I’m absolutely not denying that there are such actions to take. I even agree that they’re important. But DON’T START THERE. Don’t keep teaching yourself that it all hinges on what you do. (This is based on doership, a lovely illusion to dispel.)


THE OLD WAY YOU WERE TAUGHT & THE NEW WAY I’M PROPOSING
You were taught to focus there, weren’t you? They put on their most serious, even scolding faces, and said: Start in the realm of ACTION, and stay there, buckle down there, bite the bullet there, prioritize being there, finish what you start there, work very hard there, collect & demonstrate evidence of all you’re doing & all you’ve done ...

I invite you to open to the possibility that ACTION is actually not your best point of departure. I learned this from Abraham-Hicks (and from practicing their teachings). Action FIRST is not best for the most ease, most efficiency, most flow, most satisfaction, most fun & well-being along the way, most success, or most anything else that you may want. It’s really only best for proving YOU ARE ON IT to those looking on (and maybe giving you money or taking you on guilt trips for what they gave you before or telling you what’s what because they always have known and still do know better than you). They strongly believe that your doing is the key. Leave them to it, and consider another way even for a moment.

What if it’s truer that the key to your best life and the ideal point of departure is in minding your feeling state? In cultivating good feelings? Then when action comes out of that habitual way of being, it’s inspired action, it’s wanted action, it’s doable action, it’s satisfying action. (I’ll be writing more on that down the line.)


GETTING SPECIFIC WITH THE FEELINGS YOU GENERATE
Beyond the idea of feeling good in general as a way of being (see link #3 above for some goods on that), you can also cultivate super-specific feelings that match what you’re after by finding where you have them in your reality now and putting focus there. I know some of you have played with the Easy Existing Matches process I’ve written up from the teachings of Abraham-Hicks. This is truly a fabulous DAILY & super-simple process for keeping in view and living into this principle of finding where what you want, and especially how you want to feel, is available to you before you figure out how to create—or rather, LET IN, respond to, flow into—the change you want.

So … what makes you feel loved that’s already in your world?

Photo of person with arms around two German Shepherds from Piermario Eva on Unsplash.

Focus first on that—not on the ways the love you want is missing, and not on what to DO to go after the love you want!


What makes you feel that abundant sense of finding treasures now, before your purchasing power changes?

Photo of someone rummaging through a vinyl records bin from Kevin Turcios on Unsplash.

Focus on that, and play at finding within-reach treasures here & now before you focus on going after the wealth that eludes you.


What makes you feel attractive that’s within easy reach already?

Photo of beautifully manicured nails from Bryony Elena on Unsplash.

Yes, focus there. Let new actions come later, with ease, once you’ve got that feeling nicely established. You won’t truly embody it if you keep focusing on what’s missing and work hard to nail it in place with dense or frenetic energy. That will not put the swagger in your walk!


What makes you feel at peace that’s accessible to you now?

Silhouetted photo of someone walking in woods with a small dog from Michael Kucharski on Unsplash.

That’s where the real peace is, right here, already in place. You can only get now-peace now—not future peace. Note that your peace is certainly not in the stuff of your current reality that disrupts your sense of harmony & well-being [justice, goodness, unity, etc]. So don’t put your focus there! (Maybe less news-watching for some of you?)


The peace disrupters are easy enough to find, aren’t they? Don’t even add something like in the current era or in the current political climate. In truth, it’s always been easy to find what’s not wanted in the current reality; it’s the easiest thing to focus on what’s missing. (You’ve experienced this to different degrees, and at different scales, but you’ve experienced it all your life!) And you will always find the unwanted when you’re focused on it.


For a very long time, it’s probably been your default to TAKE ACTION to shape things up—or even to feel bad about yourself and accuse yourself of laziness, procrastination, or failure if you’re not motivated to act. Well … how about this instead? Get your feeling state lined up. Feel good way more often. Interrupt what feels bad to head for feeling good again. Live this way. Make it a grand experiment. (The biggest fool this can make of you is to turn you into the fool who feels good more often.) Once feeling good becomes a normal way of life, inspired action will too. (That’s the way of it. You can’t NOT act when you feel great and ideas are flowing in.)


Much love & many blessings, Jaya