LIVE LIKE YOU'RE DOING ENOUGH

Because You Are!

Pic of a person bending to carry a large clock on their back from Getty Images on Unsplash.

My aim in this writing is to support you to shake free of the (just plain wrong) mindset that you’re not doing enough and to anchor you instead in the orchestration—which means you’re not alone, something bigger than you is holding the whole picture, and you actually need to let go more, not figure out how to do more.

The Orchestration
There’s something bigger than you orchestrating things, holding the whole, and constantly bringing component parts together.

Do you believe that? The rest of this writing presumes that you do—or that you’re curious about or open to experimenting with that way of seeing things.

One of my favorite ramifications of the orchestration is this: It’s not all on you. It’s not all up to you.

When I started my experiments in consciousness at a whole new level two decades ago, I was only just open to considering such a thing. I could only consider this if framed as an experiment. I’ve long since believed it every day and still see constant evidence of it.

One of my least-favorite ramifications of the mindset that leaves out the orchestration is this: you perpetually feel like you should be doing more, there’s so much more to do, you’re not doing enough. It’s so … unrestful (for starters). It’s fully acceptable culturally to spout off a bunch of lies about time—not enough hours in the day, more to do than there is time to do it in. (If you think about it, that’s all insane.) No one looks baffled or even blinks when someone declares that they’re running around like a chicken with their head cut off (?!!). No shock or dismay goes round the table when someone having a lovely meal with friends says they just can’t get ahead.

I invite you to stop accepting this as normal. It’s not.

You do not have to do more than you can actually do. You don’t need to have your antennae out all the time checking for, checking out, checking in with the whole and the parts. You don’t have to precisely because that larger force or intelligence is orchestrating things. It is, in fact, NOT all on you.

Be Here Now (don’t yawn, please)
It was cute & popular in the eighties in spiritual circles and just-trending yoga classes and a burgeoning literature of consciousness to say thing like Be here now. There’s nowhere else you need to be. There’s nothing else you need to be doing. Well, that was just the beginning, folks. Shall we move along in our evolution? Let’s get past the words (or get more subtle with what they mean!) and bring them into a felt sense, a lived experience, an everyday reality, something to reach for again in any now-moment. Be here now still has power, if you live it.

You really can be here now with each task, with each CHOICE, and leave the rest to the orchestration. Leave the whole picture alone. Let the parts you’re not working with now marinate, percolate, or move forward without you. They will, especially if you hold that in your awareness then watch for proof of it. (My current Manifestation & Magic group members are keeping records of things that happen without their DOING to have the evidence clearly in view!)

Under most any circumstances, you get to have a clear & relaxed [fill in your favorite adjective for how you want to feel—fun, fulfilling, invigorating] experience with this one thing that’s yours to mind here & now.

Your focus on what you’re not tending (in the moments you’re doing something else, resting & playing included) robs you of presence and of a satisfying way of life. It leaves out the orchestration, and in so doing kind of turns you into an incompetent god. (Like you’re supposed to be omniscient & omnipotent and look at how you fall short!) Then you think & speak in terms of a daily grind, and others around you falsely & foolishly concur.

Some now-moments are good moments for eagle view. Wonderful. Take eagle view when it’s time for that, and enjoy the soaring. Benefit from the broader perspective. Consider the whole picture looking ahead & behind. Otherwise, leave eagle view to the eagles (and the orchestration!). Be in mouse view with this one small thing before you and eat up every little crumb of it. Savor what this now-moment contains. If it’s not your favorite task, at least do it relaxed, with full opt-in, and maybe a side of hot frothy beverage or music in the background.

Blurry photo of people on a whirlwind amusement park ride from Lorenzo Fustaino on Unsplash.

It’s Not a Problem That It’s Never Done
Things are never done. Period. You know the old adage A woman’s work is never done—another reason to blow up the binary! No one’s work is ever done. Of course your work is never done! Stop treating this like a problem—or worse, a failure on your part.

Likewise, your play is never done, your pleasure is never done, your learning is never done, your creative impulses & ideas are never done, your adventures are never done. Not until you die. And then … something else. So if you’re alive in this form, there it is: everything is in flux and more is always lining up. Seriously, what if you saw that with zero pressure or stress—or with the capacity & commitment to soothe that and give yourself new messages when the old hold sway or reassert themselves?

You get to enjoy and be at ease with the thing you’re doing right now. More important, and more empowering: You can decide to enjoy & be at ease with each thing you’re doing NOW. Or not. What do you decide?

Unlearning & Retraining
On a day-to-day basis, noticing what’s NOT done (really, truly) does NOT need to be felt as pressure. If it registers as guilt or failure or any kind of problem that jars your system, PAUSE. Break the spell. Crack through the illusion. Breathe consciously for a few beats, and give yourself a reality check: actually, you ARE doing enough.

Going slower with lower energy today? That, too, is a human reality: you’re still doing enough. Breathe through it. Embody & appreciate each thing you do. Align with the energy of the day as the orchestration takes care of what’s obviously not yours to do, or won’t look the way it does on high-energy days.

Are you inefficient today? Still doing enough. Shift your energy, stretch, hydrate, take a break, take a walk, then see what you most want to give yourself to as best you can and as much as you want to here & now.

Have others shown up or failed to show up in ways that maximize flow & easy movement through necessary tasks (for whatever you’re up to together)? Um, that’s normal too. Unavoidable, in fact. Just do what’s yours to do (which may or may not include communicating with them), and you’re doing enough. (But if you’re spending a bunch of mental time on what’s wrong with them, you’re doing too much—of what won’t serve you at all to connect to higher intelligence, which never goes along with some assessment that you’re the victim of others’ character flaws or work ethics or whatever.)

Imagine a New Reality
What if you lived with an abiding sense of enough-ness (even fullness, wholeness) in the now? What if you kept FEELING into that and returning to that feeling and reaching for it again each time it slipped away? (And slip it will—no problem.) What if you ended each day with a sense of satisfied completeness?

Imagine savoring what’s happening now and gazing ahead with joyful anticipation (not frowning trepidation) for what’s coming next?

I’m always running on empty. I can’t get ahead. I’m working nonstop and it’s never enough. Beyond not accepting such statements as normal, how about being struck by their sheer absurdity? Speak again if you catch yourself thinking or saying such things. Do not concur when others do.

No doubt, life can feel intense, and in some realities that’s the status quo for some time (in certain jobs, parenting circumstances, health challenges; um, during certain waves of socio-political clusterfucks). Even if you’re on a roller coaster, you’re still existing in this one moment of the ride, right here, right now, and there’s nothing to be done (not by you) for or about the other moments. When life feels like a crazy carnival ride in perpetual motion, there’s still only now, now, now, now, now. And there’s still the orchestration holding what’s beyond this moment with an incredible & incredibly intelligent force. Your trouble and graceless navigating begin when you leave this moment mentally to worry, fret, tally, review, analyze, complain, predict—which means you’ve forgotten about or aren’t playing with the orchestration. Interrupt the mental departures and call yourself back to now. Release the stuff that doesn’t belong to now to that greater force.

Back to the (amazing) Orchestration
To bring it full circle in this writing and to cement it as a way of life:

• NOTICE & appreciate the orchestration.
• When you see that something moved forward without your doing, smile, laugh, play an invisible, internal kazoo or high-five your nearest person, cat, or dawg .
• Have a mini-awe-fest when the necessary resource drops in your lap or the right person just shows up as you round the bend. (Who or what called in this being to cocreate with, hire, date, adopt, start the book club with, meet at the gym—whatever it is? Yessssss, it’s the orchestration!)
• Wave a cheerful goodbye to the email you didn’t have to write because someone wrote you first with that next step in progress or in place.
• Do a little dance in the echoes of repeating book titles or supportive apps or programs or podcasts or whatever comes into your field to bring you greater ease & more fluid functionality.

I especially invite you to notice the moments you can simply act on a thought or an impulse NOW. I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again: Guidance comes in now for now. Don’t talk back. Don’t wait for some greater readiness or further instructions or surety about right timing. Trust those impulses. That’s part of the orchestration. YOU’RE part of that vast intelligence. So flow with it now and now and now.

Love & blessings, Jaya

The Placemat Process from Abraham-Hicks is a great way to anchor yourself in an ongoing sense that it’s not all up to you. (Try it for a number days for it to bring more than relief for the day, though it’s good for that too. Used repeatedly, it’s a consciousness shifter.)

If you’d like more on doership (the idea that you’re NOT the doer), read here.​