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LET THE JOURNEY MATCH THE DESTINATION

7/18/2025

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METAPHOR #1 OF 3 FOR EASIER (hu)manifestation
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Photo of Trevi Fountain from Michele Bitetto on Unsplash.

I’ll be dropping 3 metaphors for you to fine-tune your power to create what you want on your own.

STORYTIME!
My 19-year-old trip to Rome


I got to do a year abroad in Strasbourg, France, during my second year of college, not the usual junior year, because I was already fluent in French. That was a later gift from having spent years of childhood in a small village in Normandy. So, like most American students there, I got the cheapest Euro-train pass then available and did some traveling during school breaks.

I got to have a super-satisfying trip to Florence (one reason A Room with a View is a film I keep watching) with a few Americans from my program, so I headed to the tip of Italy with one of them to fairy across to Greece. After a sweaty, crowded train ride that lasted too many hours, my companion got anxious about school and headed back to Strasbourg. Crossing into another country alone felt beyond my reach, so I ended up on a late-night train to Rome on my own. I was already in love with Italy, I had train and hostel systems down, so what could go wrong, right?

Hey, a bunch of my readers have bodies containing a uterus, and others know people who do, so I’m not holding back here. I started bleeding during the night with the usual copious flow and woke up—um, how do you say …?—a hot mess. I tied a sweater around my waist and hoped I didn’t smell like fresh road kill to other travelers. I was quietly mortified, huddled on the edge of a train car filled chiefly with men speaking other languages. In my mind, they were surely discussing the atrocity of me.

So here’s a summary of my abysmal trip to Rome for your metaphorical pleasure. I checked in at the hostel and right away happened upon someone I knew there, probably my least favorite American in our study-abroad group. She was an insecure chick with flyaway hair (let’s call her Fly) who talked too much and too nervously, lingering in eddies of details that invariably circled around to self-deprecation. But yay, someone familiar.

I got cleaned up and struck out alone to get a quick glimpse of the Trevi Fountain—an amazing sight, to be sure, but I hadn’t shaken off my journey. Cloaked in the shame I wore in, I felt unworthy of viewing this wonder so I gazed quietly from a safe distance, a party crasher hugging the wall by the exit. Then I met up with Fly to go out on the town, though not exactly in high spirits.

Somehow (I don’t remember how), we ended up going along with two charming Italian guys proposing in broken English to show us the Coliseum. I can still picture us standing on the Rome metro as I gripped some steadying bar and glimpsed suspiciously at the undeniably gorgeous guy I’d been paired with. The pairings happened instantly and wordlessly between the two men based on who’s-hotter rules that didn’t need speaking. I’ll mention I was the beautiful one because I now know that meant nothing but this: there I was giving some false impression of my value, the truth of which would surely soon expose me as a fraud. This unspoken sensation was more destabilizing than the jolts of the city train rushing me to what had to be the next humiliation. (Don’t worry, no trigger warning needed for what follows.)

Turns out the Coliseum, a stunning, still light show in the night, was and perhaps still is a popular make-out place. The guys weren’t proposing to be tour guides (I know you’re shocked). Though I had no sense of personal power at the time, it also turned out that these hormone-driven dudes meant no harm, so Fly and I took some easy exit stage left (details elude me here too) and went on our way without further escort.

The next day, I braved one more solo venture, putting myself on a train back to Strasbourg. Fly saw me off from the hostel breakfast room, mentioning to her coffee that she knew from the start I wouldn’t last. My trip to one of Europe’s most desirable cities was a conspicuous failure, and so was I.


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Image from back of train of view of train taking a curve through a country setting from Tushar Ranjan on Unsplash.

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And the point is?
Mind that the journeys you take match the destinations.

We human beings take harrowing journeys all the time on the way to the very places where we wish to have wonderful, fulfilling, satisfying experiences. Have you done this? I invite you to actually answer that question and find where you’ve innocently used this misguided tactic. Let me jog your brain a bit.

You looked (or are looking) for a romantic/primary partner (you know, the one you want to have a harmonious, fun, and connected relationship with) while
  • declaring how much you hate dating
  • reiterating that all the good ones are taken and all the [crazy, unavailable, narcissistic, boring] ones are drawn to you
  • going out on dates you’re already pretty sure won’t be fun
  • staying put in polite conversation, pasted-on smiles, or worse instead of making a quick, unapologetic exit
  • making a mess of interactions with someone within the first few months because, actually, you really like them, so you increasingly seek to control them and each situation as the exploration unfolds with normal things arising that aren’t instantly to your liking
  • …

You worked or are working at a decent job with the intention of getting a promotion into a position you really want (the one that will feel like a joy to walk into daily) while
  • being annoyed by the parts of the current job you don’t love
  • finding fault with the people around you (and I’m not saying your observations were incorrect, but that focus is disempowering at best!)
  • working too hard and too tirelessly (with increasing depletion and perhaps resentment) as you keep seeking to prove your worth
  • quietly or just mentally complaining about [how underappreciated you are] [how dysfunctional this work place is] [fill in your complaint of choice]
  • …

You wanted or want to get a more solid footing financially (to feel at ease, competent in your adulting, free to make some choices for a good life) and sought or seek to do that while
  • again (and again) anxiously checking your bank account that hasn’t changed
  • agonizing over numbers, especially the imbalance of money in, money out
  • worrying about the future and predicting discomfort and insecurity (if not a curbside view of life going by with your one bag sitting next to you)
  • depriving yourself of purchases that could feel good and improve your quality of life in a different mindset—then feeling deprived
  • feeling resentful of necessary bills for services and items you want
  • agonizing over past financial decisions
  • feeling stuck at your current level of power to produce more revenue
  • …

Like the other LOA principles I talk and write about, I got this from Abraham-Hicks: How can you expect to have a beautiful outcome to a horrendous journey?

It’s a good question that begs a few others:
  • How do you walk into a room with an aura of calm and solidity that inspires confidence when you fretted and moaned over traffic and time and the likelihood of a difficult meeting the whole way there?
  • How do you feel when you get to the place where you meant to feel fabulous and have fun if you felt god-awful all the way there?
  • How do you generate ease, connection, or even basic kindness toward and curiosity about others when your mind and mood and movements are fraught with worry and suspicion and fear?

My time in Rome was just as unpleasant as my journey there, and my view of myself and mental climate rode in on the train with me and didn’t let me go just because Rome is Rome. And the familiar person I found there wasn’t a fun and wonderful person I was thrilled to see, but the self-deprecating worm of a person who reflected what I was feeling myself to be. Fly was actually my perfect match, the just-right impromptu traveling companion for me in that moment. I did get the benefits of not being all alone on foreign ground while on my most wobbly footing, but the person who showed up only confirmed how I was viewing myself and my prospects for a positive experience then and there. This is LOA in action. It’s not life trying to be cruel or punitive. It’s just the law of like attracts like.

I invite you to stop trying to get to a high place with your focus, mood, thoughts, self-image, view of others, conversation (etc, etc) aimed low where it’s dingy and grimy! That just called to mind the old line from Elton John’s Goodbye Yellow Brick Road, remember? There’s plenty like me to be found—mongrels, who ain’t got a penny, sniffing for tidbits like you on the ground. LOA, folks. Mongrels find mongrels. Miserable journeys yield miserable ends.

Please don’t set yourself up to arrive in paradise with your hackles up and your blood pressure through the roof. It really doesn’t work that way. Interrupt and soothe any focus that feels unlike what you’re after. Get to where you’re going while reaching constantly for the same feeling and mindset you wish to have once you’re there. ENJOY THE JOURNEY. This isn’t that hard. It really helps if you’re committed to and keep practicing feeling good, then you’ll interrupt more quickly what doesn’t and you’ll head that way again swiftly, now and now and now.

I know I’m asking a lot: practice feeling better as you head toward what you think will feel better.

Love & blessings, Jaya

Manifestation metaphor #2 addresses the revolving door of the resistant mind.

Manifestation metaphor #3 points out the old warped mirrors held up for you.


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GET REAL ABOUT THIS MAGICAL REALITY

6/24/2025

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Photo of rainbow from car on highway from Husam Yaghi on Unsplash.

JUNE 22 WAS MY BIRTHDAY—my favorite day of the year. I stepped outside early in the morning then fetched a broom to sweep the messy walkway. I took my time so I could linger in one of the most delicious breezes I’ve ever felt on my skin. It was a strong one, too, and I knew I was doing thankless work that’s instantly nullified by the next mess. But … I wasn’t in it for the thanks, or even for the task.

WHICH IS THE MAIN EVENT?
Have you ever had the experience of going outside to work in the garden or do some fix-it project or wash your car—really because you just wanted to be outside? And bonus, a chore gets done while you’re out there.

Or have you ever gone out into the world rationally believing that what you’re up to is shopping or picking something up from your work place, and as you go about your business, you take in some beautiful or interesting sights and lovely sensations, or you hear a near-forgotten song you love on the radio, or you run into someone wonderful (and maybe something recent made you think about them, so now the magic has kicked in as well)? Which was in fact the main event—the errand or the joy-producing, soul-nourishing stuff along the way?

Or have you ever gone somewhere with a particular idea of what would unfold or a particular goal in mind, or entered a conversation thinking you were moving with this person in a certain direction, and then you discovered that something entirely different was underway? Whether you expected a proposal and got a break-up instead, or you expected a routine catch-up and instead got a tempting business proposal—truly, the good or the bad of it doesn’t matter. You could say it’s all good, and you might notice it all comes with challenges. More important, it’s all the stuff of life!

WAKING UP TO REALITY
So what’s more aligned with reality? The stuff we check off lists, or the stuff that grabs us and generates awe and other stirring emotion? The stuff that feels good because we’re properly adulting or the stuff that reminds us of what we’ve known since earliest childhood, that life is fun and fascinating and delicious and hilarious and profound? The stuff we sleep-walk through or the stuff that wakes us up?

Well, actually, in presence, we can be awake through both kinds of events. And, of course, both are reality. And both are happening concurrently ALL THE TIME.

OUR REALITY ON PLANET EARTH IS OUR DANCE WITH CONSCIOUSNESS.

The spiritual stuff that delivers goosebumps or quiet smiles or hard laughter is in no way opposed to or separate from the stuff that keeps us financially solvent or takes care of the physical well-being of our bodies or homes.

I have a friend spending this day cleaning up flooding in her basement. I learned this in a WhatsApp exchange in which I did NOT write that I’m so sorry she has to do this pain-in-the-bum stuff. I wrote, Wishing you any bit, glimpse, or, um, flood of sparkle and joy as you set your basement straight. She will not be offended that I didn’t treat her like some god-awful thing had gone wrong, because she’s right with me. She lives in a gorgeous flow with whatever life delivers and walks herself through it brilliantly & kindly and keeps learning and loving as she goes. She’s also hilarious and I love being around her.

LET LIFE SHOW YOU
Let life show you what you’re doing as a human being in a material world, and let life show you what is constantly shimmering under the surface. Let life show you whether the next event is to your liking or not, but go in no matter which you think it is, curious about what cool next experience or what gorgeous new understanding or what kind of fun you’ll get this time. Go swimming without knowing whether you’ll be in the shallows or the depths this time, and just LOVE the swim.

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Image of two dolphins leaping out of the water from A Chosen Soul on Unsplash.

As I keep celebrating my 63rd birthday, as I savor this amazing life I’m in, I invite you to the following.

Keep having fun and keep being curious and keep showing up IN CHOICE, as if you’re doing it all for you. Because ultimately, you are. This is YOUR DANCE WITH CONSCIOUSNESS, however you choose it, whether you hold a consciousness of choice or not. If you choose according to other people’s expectations, you’ll end up in resentment or deep dissatisfaction or at some level of disconnection from your authentic self.

FORGETTING & REMEMBERING
Later, if you find yourself telling someone (in your head or out loud) (we can be even more shrill in our heads, can’t we?) (I have a head, I know all about this) (I digress) … If you find yourself declaring how hard you worked or how much you sacrificed or alllllllllllll that you did (that they’re failing to appreciate), you’ll be inaccurate or at least beside the point in your take on the matter.

What’s truer is that you forgot why you’re really here. What’s truer is, you forgot  to have fun and love every moment of the journey—or at least appreciate its value and stay open to the capacity for anything lovely, interesting, wondrous—for anything life- or love-infused)—to show itself at any time; to enter into your lived visceral sensory experience of the dynamic now in the dynamic now, NO MATTER THE CONTENT OF THE MOMENT.

Don’t accept being in autopilot. It’s fine to catch yourself there (yay, you caught it!). Course-correct back to presence.

Don’t do things to check them off lists. Don’t miss the journey.

And don’t suffer to be good or do a good job or have others think you’re a good person. Nothing will be accomplished by that except more suffering for you to live through and walk yourself out of.

Live your beautiful life. The beauty is astonishing.

THIS, TOO, IS ABOUT MANIFESTATION
I’ve been sharing manifestation nuggets. I didn’t call this one that, but it really is. When you’re living in the mindset described here and the feeling state that goes with it, you’re much open, you’re in a state of allowing, and you generate the creative ideas & energy to move toward what you want with concrete actions in this physical world. Again, the spiritual and the earthly all married together, not separate, not at odds with each other.

Love & blessings, Jaya

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Appreciation as your greatest ally

6/14/2025

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third (hu)manifestation nugget

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Photo of two bees on a yellow flower from Mario Beducci on Unsplash.

This writing contains one manifestation principle plus: 1) some thoughts to support your deeper understanding; 2) some ways to play with it and practice.

Here’s nugget #3.

TREAT & USE APPRECIATION AS YOUR GREATEST ALLY IN MANIFESTATION.

WHAT THIS MEANS
When you’re …
  • struck
  • frustrated
  • struggling
  • trying to figure it out
  • having a hard time
  • fearing what isn’t happening or working
  • making yourself wrong (what am I doing wrong?)
  • seeing your life as an impossible puzzle to solve
  • agonizing over how you’ll find your way
  • [etc.]

… YOU’RE OUT OF ALIGNMENT WITH YOUR INNER BEING. Other ways to say that: You’re out of alignment with …
  • your Higher Self
  • your best Self
  • Source energy
  • your Higher Power
  • the truth of who you are
  • the fullness of all that you are
  • [soooo many ways to say this, so clearly locate what works best for you]

Hey, you can even just call it being out of alignment, period, and drop any name for the pure-essence-can-do-creative-energy you’re out of alignment with!

Is it already clear & obvious to you that you’re not going to step into your life at your most powerful level when you feel like it’s such a struggle and things are kind of stacked against you or you’re doing it all wrong or missing some crucial piece?

Is it equally clear & obvious that when you’re out of alignment, you’re not at ease or feeling your power to generate more of what you want?

What’s the quickest way to come into alignment?

We’ve already looked at feeling good and loving your life on an ongoing basis, or prioritizing feeling better when you can’t feel good. That will keep you aligned and coming back to alignment as you simply care about and manage or take care of how you feel. Really make a project of it. The P-word again: Prioritize it.

But is it also clear & obvious to you that APPRECIATION is the easiest access point to feeling good? To establishing an ongoing feel-good place inside you that you can keep coming back to as an easy touchstone or point of reference?

Let’s look at the practice, or the practical application of APPRECIATION AS YOUR PORTAL TO ALIGNMENT.

HOW TO WORK WITH THIS CONCEPT
Cultivate appreciating anything you can feel good about having and benefiting from in your world, life, home, relationship, work, family, location, etc, etc, all day every day.

Appreciate what you like about your bed and bedroom or sleeping space when you wake up.
Appreciate your access to drinking water and the supplies and utensils to make or buy the hot beverage of your choice.
Appreciate the weather, the yard, the street, the signs of nature all around, the breezes, the temperature, the green, the gray.
Appreciate the clothes you have to wear.
Appreciate each small thing your amazing body allows you to do.
Appreciate good sensations and flavors and smells and movement. Appreciate your five senses, or however many you have access to at whatever level!
Appreciate the food you’re eating. Choose it, take time to prepare it consciously, chew it, taste it, savor it.
Appreciate the faces around you.
Appreciate the energies around you.
Appreciate the silence, appreciate the sounds.
Appreciate your agency, all the minute and huge ways you have choice, your capacity to choose.
Appreciate how you show up.
Appreciate how others show up.
Appreciate time and how it supports you and quit saying there’s not enough of it; quit treating it like it’s working against you.
Appreciate your capacity to NOTICE that you’re functioning right now in a stressful, anxious, irritated, fretting [whatever] way, and your ability to reach for soothing tactics, movement, breathing, pausing, reframing, opting in, redirecting, delegating, asking for help …
Appreciate how you grow, how you’ve grown, how you’re teachable, how amazing teachers, guides, wisdom has come to you.
Appreciate that you do enough, you’ve done enough, this is all enough, for now. You are enough, always.

Is it clear and obvious that I could keep going and so could you?

All that we can appreciate in a life, an era, a season, a day, a moment, one single task, the one that’s ours to do right now—truly, it’s endless. Living in a bottomless pit—okay, maybe a well—okay, fountain, ocean … or how about infinite space of APPRECIATION! Living in ongoing boundless appreciation is not only possible but extremely advisable for feeling good and living in alignment. Bring that to your moment-to-moment everyday life! It can help to write it down, as in the Easy Existing Matches exercise.

The more you appreciate everything as it is here and now ... Wait, there are many ways to say that
  • The more you notice all that supports you ...
  • The more you notice and believe that things are working for you ...
  • The more you see life as supporting you in every way to get to where you’re going ...

With any of the above, it follows most naturally that
  • ... the more aligned you are
  • ... the better you feel
  • ... the more you like yourself, those around you, your life
  • ... the more you enjoy the journey
  • ... the better you bring into your life the next things you want or create an upgrade of what you’ve got to date

AN IMPORTANT WORD ON ENJOYING THE JOURNEY
That enjoy-the-journey bit is important, because each arrival, each manifestation, has a whole journey that goes with it and came before. Some are quick, some are long, some are harrowing, some involve lots of fun and adventure … in any case, there’s a journey. Enjoy the journey. Don't miss the journey. (That could be a whole nugget in itself, but we’ll let it piggy-back here onto APPRECIATION AS KEY.)

For those wondering why I’m not talking about GRATITUDE, it’s very deliberate. I was already not a fan when I learned from Abraham-Hicks the greater power of APPRECIATION over gratitude. If gratitude feels amazing to you, keep it! But for many of us, it has a tinge (sometimes unconscious) of you’d better be grateful, or you deserve nothing if you’re not grateful, or it’s all going to be snatched away from you if you’re not grateful. None of that is empowered or aligned.

I’ve written about appreciation vs. gratitude in this post with a recipe for the gratitude-intolerant.
I’ve written here about appreciation as an underappreciated tool for creating your life.

ENJOY CULTIVATING APPRECIATION. It naturally feels good, it easily brings you into and supports you to spend more time in alignment. It gives you easy access to coming back to alignment when you’ve slipped away (and slip we will). It’s truly your best ally in the manifestation game—and the game of life.

Love & blessings, Jaya

Find the second (hu)manifestation nugget here.
Find the first (hu)manifestation nuggets here.


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Look away from current conditions

6/13/2025

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second (hu)manifestation nugget

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This writing contains one manifestation principle plus: 1) some thoughts to support your deeper understanding; 2) some ways to play with it and practice.

Here’s nugget #2.

LOOK AWAY FROM CURRENT CONDITIONS.

WHAT THIS MEANS
Current conditions means just that: the things you perceive and can name that describe your reality at this moment in time. Most people love to gaze at and talk about current conditions—but especially focusing on the parts that aren’t wanted, that describe what’s wrong or what’s missing, or that fuel discontent! For example:
  • how much money you’ve got (um, or don’t have) in the bank or are currently earning
  • what’s problematic in your household, relationship, work place, …
  • where you feel stuck, powerless, out of control
  • what’s wrong (or could go wrong) with your physical health
  • what you object to about this body you’re in
  • what’s new & unwanted in this phase of life
  • what’s happening in the political sphere
  • …

A typical argument for paying close attention to current conditions is that they tell the truth! This is the REALITY. We must be rational adults and look at that head on.

Anyone who’s worked with or read me knows I’m a fan of reality. It’s great to be real about what is and not tell ourselves pretty or ugly little lies. HOWEVER, when we focus on what’s wrong, what’s missing, what’s not the way we want it, then that’s what we’re keeping in view & amplifying—and that’s what we become a match for.

Most people have heard the Law of Attraction 101 statement (it’s probably a poster you can buy at a box store by now) WHAT YOU FOCUS ON EXPANDS. (Too bad it’s not the seventies—would’ve been a velvety neon blue-light poster.)

What you carry around as your predominant focus creates your internal climate, then that’s what you see all around you and call forth. Anyone who’s been focused on what BOTHERS them about their mate has seen those things get bigger and bigger, or has been mirrored by their partner being equally BOTHERED by them—or both! Apply that to anything in life.

One way to see this differently is to think of what’s happening now, those current conditions, as the result of what you’ve been up to and what you’ve been thinking about and how you’ve been feeling. What’s here now really tells the story of what you’ve been focused on before. If you’ve felt stuck financially, you’ve been worried about money, you’ve given lots of attention to what you don’t have or what isn’t coming in … then you’re a match for the low number currently in your bank account.

But your power is here and now, and what you’re thinking, feeling, and focusing on NOW can create a very different set of current conditions, perhaps sooner than you think. Feeling good, prosperous, capable of generating funds and good ideas for how to get more; appreciating how well your needs are met right now in the less-than-ideal current reality—all of that will make you a match to a different number in your bank account.

So that’s why it’s (really & truly) okay, as a reasonable person doing your fair share of responsible adulting, to look away from current conditions. They describe what you’ve been up to before. They invite (maybe BEG) you to focus on what’s more to your liking NOW, so that you become a match to (and have inspired ideas that match) something much closer to your ideal vision.

HOW TO WORK WITH THIS CONCEPT
Once you opt in to the idea that you don’t want to focus on current conditions—or are willing to launch a grand experiment focusing on the wanted that’s already here in your life and keeping your gaze on the vision of what you want—then it’s really just a matter of INTERRUPTING thoughts that bring you back to fixating on what is, as you get increasingly disgruntled or disgusted or distressed.

Interrupting is an underrated tool. Interrupt early and often. Stop the thoughts that take you in the wrong direction. Quit talking about it. Interrupt it mid-sentence. If you can say it sweetly, just tell yourself, Oh, shut up, sweetheart.

Then REFOCUS as quickly, clearly, and deliberately as you can on what you want and what’s already here that you appreciate. Speak (and think) the vision, not the current conditions. Speak the wanted, not the unwanted that seems to pervade your reality. Reviewing and telling your current conditions AGAIN will get you focused some more on what’s lacking—and make you a match for lack, for stuck, for wondering when what you want will ever come your way.

If you can’t feel good or empowered about the problematic topic yet, just refocus anywhere, onto something-anything-whatever you can feel good about easily. Go play. Be in nature. Do a work task that’s easy or pleasurable, that makes you feel competent or kind of brilliant. Hang out with someone who wants to talk about something beautiful or inspiring or hilarious.

Current conditions tell the story of yesterday’s focus. Your power is in your focus here and now, and placing that on what you want and what’s already here and working well for you.

Love & blessings, Jaya

Find the first (hu)manifestation nugget here.
​Find the third (hu)manifestation nugget here.
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THE FEELING IS THE FIRST MANIFESTATION

6/12/2025

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FIRST (hu)manifestation nugget

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Photo of two bees on a yellow flower from Mario Beducci on Unsplash.
This writing contains one manifestation principle plus: 1) some thoughts to support your deeper understanding; 2) some ways to play with it, as no concept will do you any good unless you know how to put it into practice. Practice, by the way, is a great word. Keep playing with anything that seems promising to you until you get better and better at using it effectively and with ease.

I want to begin with a pair of principles that really go hand-in-hand and work together as one.

THE FEELING IS THE FIRST MANIFESTATION.
A FEELING IS THE EASIEST THING TO MANIFEST.

WHAT THIS MEANS
Well, if you’ve ever fallen in love, you remember that before you ever know the details of what you and this other beautiful human being are going to do together; and before you know the details of all you later came to know about them (a body of knowledge you may still be adding to)--first of all, you felt all kinds of feelings. You felt feelings you wanted more of. You felt a pull, a curiosity, something that wouldn’t let you go. In short, you felt the love.

Um, you may have experienced this with non-human sentient ones (wonders!) as well—the animal we take one look at while visiting the shelter, and we’re done for. I’m not going home without you.

From another angle, think specifically of when you got an idea to look for a certain kind of job or explore a certain course of study or learn how to become an X [fill it in and get specific here, so that you’re learning from your own lived experience]. You might remember the first jolt of Whoa, what about this? Or the curiosity that stirred and kept growing as you looked into different possibilities. Or the excitement that grew as you talked about it with others or read things written about it.

(Side note: You know that some kinds of talking to certain people dashes the dream while it’s unformed, so take care with that!)

You know when you started wondering about buying a car or a house or a taking a trip, and as you looked into things and dreamed into different possibilities, you felt a momentum build to carry you in that direction. That momentum came from feelings. You could feel what it might feel like to live there or drive that or vacation there, and perhaps as this grew inside you, it seemed more and more DOABLE until perhaps it felt inevitable.

The feeling comes before the manifestation. The feeling is in fact the first manifestation. Once you get the feeling going related to the thing you want, that fuels the going after it, the grabbing of ideas and opportunities that come to you to explore it. You know they come and you miss them, or ignore them, or talk yourself out of them; OR, they come and you go with them and grow the thing. The feeling make the difference. It allows you to take a risk when a part of you (or someone in your world) objects. The feeling is the magnet that brings it in.

And the feeling is easier to get in place than the lover or the car or the advanced-degree program or whatever. Way easier. But most of us don’t give a lot of attention to cultivating that feeling—except when we’re falling in love, which is why I began there. The love buzz is so compelling that we let the feeling take us and we go with it. It’s possible to do that (in different ways, at different levels) with other things in life, with anything in life, as well.

It’s not only possible--it’s a necessary component of manifestation. The feeling will fuel the journey from wanting to having, from dreaming to creating.

HOW TO WORK WITH THIS CONCEPT
You may trip yourself up (many people do) by mentally jumping too soon to the finish line. You don’t need to know now what it (whatever you’re after) will look like or how you’ll go about getting the right information or making the choices involved or how you’ll finance it or how long it’ll take you to get it nailed down. Don’t jump ahead. Stay out of not only the outcome but also the details of the journey. Do show up for the journey as it unfolds, now and now and now, with each thought, each bit of research, each conversation, each little or large trip to explore the site, etc, etc, etc.

Most important: ENJOY THE JOURNEY. FEEL GOOD WHILE YOU’RE ON IT. HAVE FUN DOING IT. START FEELING NOW HOW YOU WANT TO FEEL WHEN YOU GET THERE. CULTIVATE NOW THE FEELING that goes with whatever you’re after.

The easiest way to work with this is by going very general with the feeling you’re after. At the least-specific level, you want this thing because it will feel good to have it. You’ll feel better in some way. It will improve your life, your sense of purpose and fulfillment, the amount of fun you’re having, the joy of having an experience, developing a talent, offering a service, relating with a certain someone or population in a certain way. All of that feels good. Feels like you being you. Feels like life is good and worth living.

So … the work is first and foremost to feel good now. Feel good in any realm of life. Feel good getting up, feel good first thing in the day, feel good going to work or wherever you’re going. Feel good with people, feel good with tasks, feel good in the world, feel good noticing what you notice, feel good moving in your body. Feel good, now, living where you live, doing what you do, relating with whoever’s around you, moving in your body as it looks and feels now, experiencing the nature in your vicinity. Notice that these things aren’t necessarily related to the thing you want or even in the same realm of life--you may even think you’re off-course or at least off-topic giving this your PRIMARY attention, but you’re not. (I’ve written before about how the universe doesn’t care about categories, and your feeling good here and now will spill into the good feeling of what you want to bring in.)

As you carry on and live life and go about your business, yes, you’ll need to move toward the thing you want by exploring a possibility here and another there, taking one simple next step at a time to flesh out the dream, learn more about the various forms it could take, check out what seems most promising. But don’t just take steps to check steps off a list. Take steps to keep cultivating and growing the feeling. Take steps while paying attention to how you feel!

Last way to apply this: In your process of exploration, when it feels good to explore, and you feel it as expansive (fun, interesting, exciting), KEEP GOING. When it feels bad (stressful, confusing, overwhelming, deflating, frustrating), MOVE AWAY FROM THE TOPIC.

You’ll kill it for no good reason by staying fixated on the how when where and getting preoccupied and confused by what you don’t yet see. The not-yet-visible is probably something you couldn’t possibly see right now and won’t ever bring into view by keeping your blurry, squinty gaze on it as you feel worse and worse.

Whatever you’re after, get the feeling in place first, and feel good in whatever step you take in that direction. Feel the feeling grow. Consciously expand it. Feel good in general all the time in all that you do (or in resting, playing, NOT doing). Manifest the feeling first. That’s the easiest way, and it really is a manifestation in itself.

Love & blessings, Jaya

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