 Photo of a person sitting with cat and holding a mug from Andrej Lišakov on Unsplash. FINE HAS A BAD RAP. Twelve-step folks use FINE as an acronym for fucked-up, insecure, neurotic, and emotional. It’s common for anyone to plug in FINE for meh, or not much going on, nothing to say, business as usual. By and large, people believe they don’t want to feel FINE. They typically want to feel something more pronounced or more ideal. They want to feel something essential to how they love moving through life. Little SIDE TRIP FOR ENNEAGRAM LOVERS with how each type may want to feel (skip down to Who wants fine? above pic to skip it):
Note that he bullets above follow the essence qualities & preferences of 8, 9, 1 … and count sequentially from there to land at 7. As taught by Russ Hudson, I always begin with the three body types, hence 8 as the starting point.) So … who wants FINE?  Photo of a person raking a lawn with German Shepherd dog looking on from Kübra Arslaner on Unsplash. You do, I promise. Hear me out, if you will. I’ll make it worth your while. Consider FINE to be synonymous with content. Just a baseline contentment that asks nothing of life, for right now, beyond what’s actually happening. Equate FINE with satisfied. This works. It’s enough. It’s good enough. It’ll do for now. In FINE, you’re in acceptance of what is. You’re not finding fault, you’re not squirming in your seat, you’re not resisting what is. You’re letting things be without giving up on what else you might want. You’re certainly not getting out the microscope to magnify some kind of discontent or pointing out the what’s not-quite-right to others. Treat FINE like needs met. Okay. All right. And here’s a little trick I played: Embedded in how I wrote the above is an example right off the bat of what I most want to invite you to do with fine—because this is the latest invitation from Abraham-Hicks in their amazing teachings on aligned living. Did you notice the lingering, the repetition? Don’t just say it’s fine, you’re fine, things are fine. SUSTAIN IT. Remember finding the feeling place? Find the feeling place of FINE and stay with it. Get a solid, strong, embodied sense of FINE. Believe it. Hold it. Know it. Intend it. Look for it. Speak it. Think it. Review it. Bring it to that visceral knowing, right into your bones. For real: be FINE. When you sustain that, guess what happens??? What happens from FINE is a lingering sense of a baseline well-being that feels pretty damn good. It’s reliable and real. You’re really fine—no bullshit. As you SUSTAIN feeling FINE (loving me some repetition, as sustaining it is key), you can’t get stuck there! You truly cannot. You don’t sustain it forever, only long enough for it to take you to what you like even better. And hey—as long as it takes. Stay with it!  Photo of a person in a wheelchair paused in a courtyard with someone ahead they’re smiling at and someone behind them holding the chair, from Getty Images on Unsplash. Remember, everything in the Universe gains momentum. It works both ways: build momentum from everything that annoys, upsets, and distresses you, or build momentum from feeling pretty good. Whatever you focus on will take you to the next level, up or down. From FINE, or content, satisfied, and accepting, you could soon have easy access to optimistic, confident, sure. You could start feeling playful then bump into some (not so) serious fun, amusement, hilarity. You could shift into delight, head-shaking appreciation, pure awe. Those joy spikes could grab you anytime. You know that strong connection to what matters, to the magic, the flow? That sense of being guided and in purposeful motion? Suddenly you’re inspired and taking inspired actions without overthinking things or needing to be sure of any outcome. You’re just catching the wave or riding the current right toward what you most want! You know that feeling when life keeps taking you effortlessly round the next bend? I want you to know it and know that you know it. And let yourself get there from establishing a strong foundation of FINE. Wait, why not just start with feeling fantastic? Let’s just follow our bliss and rev up the passion, no? Um, no. For the simple reason that you don’t always have access to the highest and best. You may be nowhere in the vicinity, as Abraham says. You might fool yourself into thinking you should have access, and then get down on yourself, then plummet quickly from dissatisfaction to depression or even ongoing blah-malaise. So don’t even aspire to that. Aspire to fine. You may have no access to higher emotions because of a (habitual and culturally sanctioned) way of focusing on what’s wrong, what bothers you, what isn’t up to par, what you haven’t gotten done yet, how you’re not healthier, more fit, or further along in your career. It becomes NORMAL for all kinds of NOT FINE things to take up your field of vision, your time, your energy. It’s not just your FOCUS, but also your life force. Then you generate all kinds of unhappiness & unnecessary suffering from there, and you start to think that’s what life is, then all you see is more evidence of that. Momentum. (Aka, Law of Attraction.) YOU HAVE EASY ACCESS TO FINE. You can walk yourself to fine and hang out there. Seriously, it’s okay. Be okay. Just be fine. You won’t get stuck there. Fine is your gateway to all those larger feelings and ways of being that you live for. Call it in, give it your focus, and sustain it. I invite you to a grand experiment: collect the data of all that flows in from FINE. Love & blessings, Jaya Try SEGMENT INTENDING from Abraham-Hicks to point yourself toward FINE bit by bit all day long. Did you notice this post has an audio version? See button just under the title.
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