Aren't HOLIDAYS meant to be fun, sacred, rejuvenating, love-filled, peace-producing?
Are you making choices toward that?

Not just big choices, like about where you go and who you'll be with, but moment-to-moment choices about how you eat, how you take breaks & use reset buttons, how you mind your thoughts, how you respond to
  • what happens
  • how things hit you
  • what people, words, or events call forth from the past
  • etc, etc. ...

Do you see yourself as a victim of what others do, how they see you, how they behave?
You're not, actually. You are ONLY if you feel yourself to be and put the focus there.

Do you have supports in place to function at your best during holiday events and encounters? By which I mean
  • boundaries
  • self-care tactics
  • mindsets that keep you clear and sane​


​If people are driving you crazy, there's a boundaries issue:
you're letting them under your skin.
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Don't let strong or hard-for-you personalities determine how any experience feels to you, whatever your history with them.

Don't treat any event as inherently stressful, as something to just get through, as something that you predetermine will bring up all your worst stuff. (You'll effectively set it up to be just that.)

This program invites you (and shows you how) to take responsibility for how you think of and meet others: this is your life. Your own cultivation of peace, sanity, clarity, kindness (not their lack of those or their manipulative ways or bullying tactics or annoying cluelessness or anything else)—you yourself determine how things go for you.

This program walks you through taking total responsibility for your feeling states and keeping your own peace regardless of the situation, who's present, and how anyone behaves. It's structured to give you super-practical and solid support for dealing with difficult people. We look at mindset, tools, tactics—even games. I answer questions sent to me by real human beings struggling with family of origin, partners, partners' families, the difficult boss, and so on.

Even in situations most everyone agrees to be stressful, anywhere, with anyone, anytime, it's entirely up to you whether people drive you crazy or not. They can't disrupt your peace unless you let them. 

You're right in there with the rest of the human race if certain people keep you in a constant or predictably recurring state of internal (and perhaps external) reactivity. But you're not stuck with that. You can be free if you take in more deeply this fact that you may well already think you believe: others have only as much power over your state as you give them.

For that to have any bearing on your experience, for it to yield actual peace and the ability to manage your feeling states while others do what they (predictably) do, you must take total responsibility for your well-being: yep, in any setting with any human beings present; nope, you don't get to put it on how truly annoying or inappropriate they are, however annoying or inappropriate they may be. Your level of peace is really-truly-entirely up to you.

In this program, I offer numerous ways to turn this good idea into applicable, manageable practices. I have a lot to share on this topic!

The audio program (delivered with written and audio supports), will include:
  • Mindset tricks to go in with & keep in view (discussed in audio and laid out in a pdf)
  • A clarifying call to boundaries
  • Presence: practices & demystification (we'll oust magical thinking so you can't say your practice isn't working or accuse yourself of doing it wrong)
  • A way to make a game of being with challenging personalities (and a clear success story that will help you apply it yourself)
  • How to monitor and maintain your emotional state (with no self-judgment)
  • The power of picking up different lenses to look through in real time as things unfold
  • Numerous ways to be in self-care, self-awareness of thoughts, and CHOICE to bring it back to you, back to now, back to sanity

Part of this program includes a powerful, simple 2-part method for having difficult conversations with difficult people & holding firm against manipulation tactics. You can get that information outside of this program as a free 3-page pdf that offers a simple formula, with scripted example, for holding your own in any hard conversation with any strong personality.

​See my post on 2 buckets for the faces of God for the most base-level two-part sorting to do with whoever comes at you with anything. From there, there are lots of places to go to take it deeper, get more subtle, and bolster yourself to live in your power, able to soothe yourself, scooching toward mastering the mind, activating ongoing self-care, all with solid boundaries in place. Phew.

​$22
Let me know if the email address you want me to use to send you information is not the one linked to your PayPal account!

Would you like deeper, ongoing support with boundaries?

Click on pic below to learn about a powerful online self-study course from consciousness coach Kelli Younglove, and see what I wrote about it below. I love this offering. (And nope, this is not an advertisement, and I get nothing for promoting it. I'm a die-hard fan of Kelli's work and love to point you to this deeply supportive growth processes.)

We still have a LONG way to go culturally in understanding personal boundaries & applying them, valuing & honoring them (with no feeling bad!), holding ourselves responsible to hold our own, etc, etc, etc. My friend & admired colleague Kelli Younglove has just released a profound & powerful boundaries course (self-study at your own pace). Wanna get crystal-clear about where you want to open & close, say yes or no, be you & let them be them? She'll get you to stuff you haven't thought about, never mind applied as a matter of unapologetic course. Kelli is badass, in the most gentle & heartful way, with a deep spiritual process of her own & integrity that won't quit. I HIGHLY recommended this. Go for it, or gift it to someone who actually wants to learn to draw their right lines in the sand. Click on pic above to explore Kelli's class. If you need a discount, please write me to let me know (jaya@jayathetrustcoach.com).

Use the holidays to get more conscious.

Whatever you're practicing already, practice it during the Holidays.
This should include ease and fun. If you're not practicing those already, the Holidays are a great time to start.
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Don't give your power to another by declaring them to be a difficult personality. You and you alone are responsible for your well-being.

Get your myths out of PRESENCE.

Presence won't
  • make you feel good
  • ensure all goes well
  • tun you into a perfect person
  • keep your stuff from coming up
Presence is about being here for whatever's here—and some of it isn't pretty and doesn't feel good.  Presence supports awareness and non-judgmental witnessing. Presence allows you to locate choice.


Before they drive you crazy,
TAKE THE WHEEL

​Scroll down below pic for PayPal link: $22

$22
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You're free if you stop requiring others to make you comfortable and stop being angry (distressed, victimized, irritated) when they don't. You get to be your most powerful and peaceful self if you can give your focus in tricky company to how YOU show up and how you maintain your internal state. If, instead, your focus is on how to control, manage, or sit around cultivating inner and outer commentary about anything someone else is up to and the negative impact it has on you—you'll likely feel bad and disconnected from love.

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Take the wheel BEFORE you're driven crazy ... or feel victimized by other personalities.
Want more super-concrete help for free right now?
Grab a free 3-page pdf (that I love and) that beautifully lays out a simple formula for holding firm with ease in any difficult conversation with a convincer (aka, manipulator, strong personality, applier of pressure, skilled pusher of your buttons).

It includes a sample script to make the application crystal-clear. Click on button below, type in your email, and I'll send you the pdf; you'll also have instant access to a web page with entire write-up and the pdf as a file you can download yourself.
You can have any conversation with ease.
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Seriously, take the wheel BEFORE things get wacky in more ways than you feel equipped to sanely manage.

$22
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A mindset trick from this program:
I’m not here to have fun or be treated well or be comfortable or anything else,
though I open to any of those and I’ll notice and appreciate them when they happen.
I’m definitely here to practice certain things and grow certain muscles,
​and I’ll treat everything as an invitation to do that.
Others are playing their roles perfectly to support my practice.
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