JAYA the TRUST COACH
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trust coaching, demystified

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Let me speak to you as if you were going to coach with me.

As a coach, my aim is to support you to identify and achieve more of what you most want, come closer to operating in a way that feels healthy and good to you, and gain above all a stronger sense of these three things: 1) that life is only supporting your healing and evolution; 2) that you’re becoming who you want to be by way of a valid and beautiful journey, even if that journey has included trauma and pain, even when it feels like you’re stuck or going backward; and 3) that you have your own guidance system that you can come closer to and respond to in more subtle and consistent ways in order to function optimally.
 
In this process, we will meet your  personality tendencies that serve you as well as those that don’t. We'll connect to the 3 centers of body, heart, and mind, bringing awareness to and tapping into  your connection to: your body and breath and the information and guidance coming in that way; your emotions, all of which are meant to bring in information and fuel, and some of which you may not be allowing to do that (often because you judge them or fail to give sufficient import to what they’re seeking to illuminate); your thoughts and beliefs that take you where you want to go as well as those that pull you in wrong directions. We'll meet both your alignment and resistance; we'll use inquiry and various processes to address where you keep yourself stuck or small or limit yourself to what you've known to date. We'll empower you from a place of pure potentiality: old patterns and fears are not who you are. We'll call forth your deep desires for living in alignment with what fulfills you and contributes to the good of all concerned—and how to connect to, hold, and live into the pure impulse there; and more (determined by your coaching intentions and what life brings up while we co-collaborate in this work).

I consider it a privilege to be invited into your process. I offer clear witnessing and mirroring to support your self-awareness and clarity. I connect authentically and truthfully with my clients and will seek to consistently communicate with you with genuine respect. I intend not only to hold you in the highest regard, but also to hold myself that way in order to meet you in a high playing field—which also contains a good bit of humility and humor.
 
I provide concepts, tools, and processes to help you move with the greatest possible ease toward your intentions (inquiry, the Enneagram, focus wheels, and EFT are four examples). I make no claim to enlightenment or perfection or even being close to such things; indeed, I aspire to neither. I do live in clear and healthy ways and continue to do my own personal-growth/spiritual work in order to be as clear and available as possible to support your work. I make a project of presence and of being a well-oiled machine in sync with my guidance system. There is nothing I will ask you to look at in yourself that I haven’t looked at in myself, no process I will invite you to experiment with that I haven’t done for myself.
 
My coaching is deeply informed by intuition. I have a strong sense of being guided as I work and of channeling ideas that may or may not have already come to me or through me. I follow what you bring in and ask for; pay close attention to the language you use to describe yourself, others, and the realities you’re in or are seeking to create; and go with whatever impulses come up about what might support you, both during and between sessions. As with everything in life, I simply proceed along the best path I see and course-correct along the way as more reveals itself. I welcome your thoughts at any time during our journey together about how I might be more on-point in serving you.
 
I love my work and come to it with all my heart and presence. Both in sessions and out, I have profound moments of insight or illumination as I serve my clients, as well as huge heart openings. I can be moved to tears by the poignancy of the human experience and the profound reality of transformation and healing in individuals (which can only affect the whole of humanity), the amazing becoming that each person is capable of and can fully step into. I feel great love, compassion, and appreciation for the specific beings I get to watch and assist in all of this.
 
Trust figures in all of my work with any client coming to me with any intention. I will support you to trust yourself and your own guidance system, including your intuition and body, your emotional feedback system, your thoughts that alert you to being on-course or off. On that note, I will support you to trust the positive aspects of your thought processes and to learn to better notice when you’re interpreting, to better see which thoughts to question and reframe or release. I will invite and support you to find greater clarity without believing you need to figure it all out, and trusting your capacity to course-correct.
 
In short, I will support you to trust all of life, to show up for what’s actually happening, and to play with the possibility that setbacks and disappointments and even so-called failures can all be used to move forward on a path of healing and evolution, ever proceeding toward your highest good and the good of all concerned.
 
I will support you to trust others in a wholehearted, nonjudgmental, boundaried way, which never means investing trust where someone has proven to be untrustworthy or trusting another at the expense of self—or through any form of self-abandonment or of abdicating responsibility for your own well-being.

On that note, I will support you to ferret out and clear away any victim mentality you still hold, to locate where you have choice, and to keep choosing what you’ve chosen. If you can't get 100% behind your choices, I invite you to get supports in place so you can, or to choose again. You’re trusting neither life nor yourself when you feel like a victim. I'll invite you to live in inspired receptivity or a creative opening to new visions or solutions so that you can be and express your most beautiful, powerful self.
 
I invite you to communicate clearly about whatever comes up for you during our work together, especially if something throws you off or creates stress of any kind. Let’s bring all of it to the process so that whatever passes between us contributes to our successful collaboration and your own growth process. It’s my strong belief and ongoing experience that anything that happens to you while we’re coaching together (anywhere in your life, including between us) serves our work by illuminating important aspects of your belief system and how you operate, thus allowing you to see yourself clearly and choose beliefs and directions that better align with your intentions. Life seems to stir up obviously relevant or ostensibly unrelated events during the coaching process that are best not to treat as pesky digressions. I’ve found that the stuff of the moment never fails to bring to light just what we need to see in order to facilitate your movement toward fulfilling your intentions.

The last round of coaching we did really changed my life for the better. Thank you again for always being a joy to work with.

My big "aha" moment came several months later while, when working for the first time in an environment where people were really witnessing me and being responsive to my needs (and one in which I actively speak up for them), I was still feeling persistently unsafe and on edge.

I realized my "pain baby" had a lot of trauma riding along with him. The COVID19 pandemic made me reflect on this even more through the isolation.

So in the past few weeks, I actually started doing therapy with someone who focuses on trauma and somatic work. It might sound silly to say so given everything you know about my story, but I wouldn't even have had the awareness that this therapy would be so helpful to me ... were it not for some of the work we did on somatic presence, reframing thoughts, EFT, and more.

— CA client, 2020


Jaya, I've done quite a bit of reflection over the last couple of days, on my year past, and wanted to share some things with you:
  • I would not be starting this new job without having begun working with you—within our first session I realized how much I was getting in my own way. 
  • I would not have asked a relative for a loan to help with housing. But I stopped telling myself things that got in the way, and instead saw my options as resources and doors to knock on. I got a yes! We found a place and are moving in the spring.
  • I went on a 48-hour retreat with my partner that I called because I wanted a space to have uninterrupted conversations about all the broken parts of our relationship. But after listening to the Abraham audio you sent (multiple times) and rereading my reflections on my work with you, I no longer felt that we have much "broken" but rather just things I wanted to talk about with my partner. I was able to phrase things in terms of my own feelings, instead of asking another human being to do or be something different. I think, if I hadn't been working with you, I could have been verbally violent in this interaction and I would have come out feeling sad and exhausted (and probably with no outcomes I thought I wanted). 

All of this feels huge. Thank you for what you've brought to my life in 2018, and I look forward to more in 2019.
— US East-Coast client
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A brilliant client testimonial
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The above testimonial (button "A brilliant client testimonial") and the one below are both from 2020. My work with each one was effective and fulfilling for all concerned precisely because they showed up in such a clear shared coaching collaboration. Each of these clients was
  • not looking for me to fix her
  • so willing to connect to and follow her own guidance as I walked her through some processes to do just that
  • learning to witness herself nonjudgmentally and report herself with great clarity
  • practicing in daily life what we talked about in session to see what else was possible than the autopilot doings of her Enneagram type's programming
  • noticing, questioning, and countering her habitual assessments of herself and others and her responses to life.
​I include all of this because my coaching alone cannot yield the beautiful experiences and results my clients get. With each individual, it's a unique joint creation that we both show up for. And I love nothing more than showing up for this!
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Thank you. Thank you for helping me learn to trust myself again. Thank you for your kindness during my process. Thank you for listening to your inner guidance system and providing those kernels of wisdom when I needed to hear them. Thank you for letting me speak freely knowing there's no judgment. Thank you for reminding me of grace and that I'm the one in charge of this journey.

It's exciting to feel empowered and strange doing it on my own for the first time. I'm used to blindly listening and following someone I look up to and that hasn't lead me very far, at least not in the right direction. I appreciate you and all the time you've given me. Your guidance has changed my life. Yes, it's my journey.

​Yes, I know I've done the work. However, your timely words, suggestions, and grace have allowed me to see things differently and apply them in life-changing ways. So, again, thank you.
  

— Rachel Rice, mississippi

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JAYA, ONE OF THE REASONS YOUR COACHING PRACTICE DRAWS ME IN IS THAT I CAN DO IT WITHOUT NEEDING TO DEVELOP SOME ESOTERIC SKILL OR DIG BACK INTO UNCONSCIOUS OR PAINFUL MEMORIES. I LOVE THAT IT INSTEAD FUNCTIONS IN THE PRESENT. I FEEL THAT THIS LAST MONTH AND A HALF OF WORKING WITH YOU HAS BEEN AN INCREDIBLE TIME FOR ME TO CONTROL MY THOUGHTS AND THINK DIFFERENTLY ABOUT MY EMOTIONS. I CAN TRULY SAY THAT I HAVE HAD BREAKTHROUGHS THAT HAVE MADE ME MORE JOYOUS, TRUSTING, UNDERSTANDING, AND VIBRANT.
— 2019, US WEST-COAST CLIENT (WHO FIRST CONNECTED TO MY WORK THROUGH A WORKSHOP)

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​“If, right now, you step into your healing; if, in this moment, you're consciously course-correcting out of what you caught yourself in 
and toward what better matches your intention—then, right now … the transformation is underway. … And that's what scooching is all about.”

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​​Curious about coaching?
For the curious & hopeful, I offer a free
30-min consultation by zoom, though you may sometimes have to wait a few weeks for get in. Please note that because of an intensive yearlong Enneagram training program I'm currently immersed in (into 2022), I'm taking few clients and offering no discounts. I do offer a group coaching option for a lesser financial commitment.
Write jaya@jayathetrustcoach.com to inquire about this consultation or to get more info on group coaching.


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Testimonial from an intimidating client!
(Counterphobic Six on Enneagram, East-Coast U.S. on planet)
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Rumor has it, I'm accidentally intimidating. I don't abide by a lot of "female" social conventions, tend to say what I think without a lot of filters, am pretty thoughtful and relatively well-educated, and apparently carry myself with a sense of authority. That has made it difficult to find people to give me real, honest, direct feedback
—to find folks who aren't taken aback by the strength of my emotion or my initial resistance to an idea.

Jaya is here for all of it. She holds such stable space, and is willing to sit with whatever comes up. She isn't at all intimidated by me.
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I was able to get so much more out of our sessions than I did from several different therapists over the years. Neither of us had to walk on eggshells. She could just rise to whatever I brought in the door. It was a breath of fresh air, and allowed me to really trust her and sink more deeply into the work we did together.


Client learning to trust life
(Four on Enneagram, West-Coast U.S. on planet)

This idea of just being with indecision—no longer believing without question that everything should be figured out—is revolutionary to me. I do, for the first time in my life, truly feel like I am mostly okay with not knowing what's coming next. I am trusting that it may be difficult at times but I will be okay. My most hopeless, bleak worries about the future seem especially silly to me now, ever since you pointed out that my life has taken lots of twists & turns and I'm still here & fine. I swear this work has opened up so much for me—I took so many bad thoughts about myself for granted. I am questioning everything now: obligation, expectation. Yesterday I was buzzing around doing stuff and I was like, "What's different?" And then I realized, "Holy shit, I'm happy."

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