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2 buckets for the faces of God

12/1/2018

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I'm about to do a whole audio program on difficult personalities, to serve you during the holidays and always. Here, in this post, I offer a crazy-helpful and super-simple way to determine your base-level response to anyone.

I've been inviting people for years now to meet every face as the face of God.


It's gotten me in trouble before when people think I mean,
Say yes to anything anyone says to you! Open the door to anyone who knocks! Oh, no no no. Sometimes the face of God shows up for you to learn to say no or practice unapologetic door-shutting, even shutting it in someone's face. In other words, some faces of God invite you to hold a boundary.

Recently, out of the blue, I happened on a crazy simple way to think of this concept and parse out what any particular face has got for you when it shows up here and now.


Think of two available buckets that you can drop any face of God in.

   
Bucket #1 is the face of God that makes you go, Oh, YES.
Variations:
  • Yeah, that sounds right.
  • This hits me right.
  • Perfect!
  • This confirms what I was thinking and leaves me trusting myself more.
  • This brings clarity [relief, expansiveness, a sense of hope, a reminder I can trust myself, another burst of energy where I was faltering].
  • That makes crystal-clear something that was fuzzy.
  • This brings to the surface what was still kind of buried.
  • This feels like the missing piece.
  • I think I just got my next operating instructions.
Hey, it could also be a partial yes (so focus on the yes part), as in, Ooh, that little bit! That one part is spot-on.

And bucket #2, of course, is the one that makes you go, NO. Variations:
  • That hits me wrong.
  • I don't know why, and don't need to know why: this just doesn't feel right.
  • This makes me feel bad [heavy, confused, scared, required to let go of what matters to me].
  • This makes me second-guess myself and lose self-trust.
  • This inspires me to declare opposites day.
  • That strengthens my resolve to do it my way.
  • I hear the wisdom [clarity, sound thinking, logic] in that, and it's still not right for me right now.
  • I need to move away from this voice.
 
There. This basic parsing system alone can make a world of difference. You're free when you can leave people alone to do what they do and simply mind what you do. When you're crystal-clear that you don't have to react to people words (just hear them and parse away, bucket #1 or bucket #2), then you just get to mind your peace, and leave off any painful engaging with (mental or spoken)
  • defenses
  • responses
  • explanations
  • anger
  • frustration
  • teeth-grinding judgments

... and whatever else you do that disrupts your own state while they're just doing what they do. I repeat: Leave them to their ideas, opinions, criticism, advice. They get to have them. You get to have your peace.
Love & blessings, Jaya
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