that will carry you toward thriving ![]() For the quick version, scan the 11 points and drop in with the one or ones that calls to you. This stuff has the potential to make your life feel way better.) As I move along in my journey, I become an ever greater fan of whatever gets you (and me!) down the road most effortlessly. I’m all about rewriting the old scripts about how hard you have to work to get to where you want to go, how nothing worth having doesn’t entail blood, sweat, and tears to get there, blah-blah-blabetty-hard-work-blah. So here, I offer you 11 CRAZY-EASY WAYS to make a quick shift right here & now as you go along your way. Super-simple things to keep you moving with the greatest ease (and kindness!). Tiny ways to adjust or course-correct that cost you little—beyond keeping them in view and simply reaching for them as a practice. If this idea of microshifts is hard to keep in view (which will only mean you need practice to recalibrate to a more you-friendly way of being), why not print out the 11 tactics that follow?
Bring these things to the day-to-day—these and whatever comes to you in the now-moment you need something. What could help you respond in the moment with some small shift to make things feel better & easier? What you want is within reach! With this mentality of easy microadjustments in place, you can play with & master shifting quickly in any number of ways toward what feels & works better. What if you committed to making this journey you’re on feel better much more often (right now, and now, and now again)? Whatever is or isn’t happening, whatever you can or can’t do in the ideal here & now, you can keep yourself moving along in kinder, more relaxed, easier ways. Love & blessings, Jaya
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a simple tool for quick course-correction Want an even quicker read? Go through and just read the bold. That tells the whole story. Pivoting is both a simple concept and a simple tool. It’s not even a process. It’s a quick mental adjustment you make and keep making to go from the unwanted to the wanted. Use it while in motion or being still. Use it while working, walking, cooking--whenever you’re capable of having a thought and being aware of that thought. Use it while waking or dropping off to sleep. Anytime, just for a moment. Yep, this is also from Abraham-Hicks. Pivoting has 3 steps. 1) You notice something that’s not to your liking. 2) You consider what WANTED thing corresponds to this UNWANTED thing. 3) You shift your focus to the WANTED. Examples: 1) You notice you’ve been getting sloppy with punctuality again. 2) You make a mental note that you prefer being a little early to be ready on time. 3) You feel great about that decision (instead of bad about the lapse) and you head out (or to the computer) early for the next appointment. 1) You notice you’re having an irritation response. 2) You pivot toward soothing what bothers you and toward accepting what is, as it is, here and now. 3) Right now, you breathe, relax the muscles that tensed up, tell yourself it’s really okay. 1) You notice you’ve been doing too much and things feel glutted. 2) You pivot toward doing less, finding pauses, making spaces. 3) You tell the story of increasing spaciousness and do every little thing you see to promote that—tidy up this corner of the cabinet, say no just to something between you & you (that shopping trip can actually wait, and today I stay home); say no to an invitation even if it has appeal—because it’s more appealing to do less right now. Notice from the above examples that what brings the UNWANTED into focus, and thus the call to PIVOT, is simply that SOMETHING FEELS BAD. When you become quickly responsive to the signals that something feels bad (these signals come from your own system—body, heart, head), then you pause with what you’re noticing and … PIVOT. What’s so radical—or more to the point, HELPFUL--about this? I recently heard this gem (during an Abraham Now program): “You can’t get around how you feel when you’re amplifying how you feel with sentences.” Ever notice you put A LOT of language—even just words in thought, not necessarily spoken—to what you feel? Noticing you’re exhausted, you declare exhausted. You review what’s been exhausting in your life. You give lots of weight to what you can’t control that exhausts you (so now you’re a victim of and stuck in exhausting circumstances). You put much focus on how bad it feels in your body. In short, you tell the story of EXHAUSTED. So when you have this PIVOT concept in view, noticing exhaustion, you pivot. You tell the story of rest and rejuvenation instead. And then it’s not so hard to get around how you feel. Your (chosen) focus is now on rest and rejuvenation, you choose your inner and outer narratives accordingly, and you also make choices accordingly. And that’s how you apply it as you go. So let’s go over those 3 ways to apply the pivot one more time: 1) You focus on whatever you’re pivoting toward (e.g., rest & rejuvenation). 2) You choose your inner and outer narratives accordingly. 3) You make ongoing choices to keep heading that way. As always, it helps to BRING IT TO NOW. Just right now, I can let go of something and go to bed earlier. Now, I can slow down a bit and do an easier version of the task. Right now, I can pause for 15 minutes and meditate or lie down and rest. You could make pivoting a way of life! You could swiftly learn to shift …
Have you ever had some of the most satisfying change come from some simply concept you simply applied? I invite you to try that out with PIVOTING. Love & blessings, Jaya open the door, receive the delivery, then send it on its way I invite you to give this a moment of attention even if you don’t feel much resentment. Let’s get super subtle here and be free free free. If nothing else, check out the bullets below the pic and find one thing to keep in the fore to enhance your well-being (which includes aligned, not exhausting, service). Resentment has such a bad rap. It has its unfortunate place over with anger, where people relegate unwanted emotions—over in the bad zone. Who wants to be resentful? Yeah, please don’t sit around resenting. But resentment might show up briefly anytime, kind of like the delivery person, and when it does, there’s something to receive with a thank you. Beyond the scope of this writing are all the reasons you don’t want to shove resentment down into the cells of your being to accrue & fester there. That happens with denial and vilification, so instead, let’s just make resentment the nice delivery person, who’s in a hurry anyway to get on with the next delivery. Just open the door to briefly, get the goods, and get on with your day. Resentment as delivery person may put a wrinkle in something you’re doing right now, but you WANT the thing being delivered. That thing’s going to make your life easier or more pleasant somehow. Here are some typical message-deliveries resentment brings. And bee-tee-dubs, you might just consider whether one of these might be for you to keep cleaning up even if you’re not tuning in to any resentment:
I love to think in terms of the first whiff. If you get just the tiniest whiff of resentment, pause with it a moment. It’s got something for you. Don’t ignore it. Ask it nicely what it’s got for you. Ask what it’s pointing you to that’s going to support you to be
Love & blessings, Jaya All the operating instructions you need for functioning simply & well as a human being on planet Earth Today I wrote some simple love-drenched words to someone I adore who was upset with themself about … something. A life thing. That’s all we ever get upset with ourselves about. Normal life things on planet Earth that we act are just terrible things from Goddess knows where in this confounding Universe. After sending the message, the thought occurred to me this was my message to everyone. Everyone on the planet, but I’ll just start with my mailing list. Please err on the side of NO [NO, ZERO, ABSOLUTELY NOT ONE IOTA OF] FEELING BAD ABOUT YOURSELF. Do a pendulum swing away from any idea that you’re doing it wrong, away from any reason to be disappointed in yourself. Follow your knowing, not other people's expectations or desires or beliefs. And you don't have to get it right. You can course-correct as you go. That’s the message. Can you feel it? Those are whole-life instructions right there. Can you imagine WASTING NO TIME ON BEATING YOURSELF UP or worrying about what others think or feel about YOU (YOUR LIFE, YOUR CHOICES, YOUR EXPERIMENTS, YOUR MISTAKES)? Then what? You’d be available to notice you feel bad when something’s off and you could care about not feeling bad and head toward feeling good. You might actually just come close to your heart, soothe yourself, take care of your body and nervous system, then open your mind to what other perspective or action is possible. You might notice INSTANTLY that the opposite of beating yourself up is called for. So life could look like this: You could just make your best choice in the moment without overthinking it and you could have access to quick access to course-correction. And course-correction wouldn’t be about righting a wrong. It would just be about tweaking your direction. Here you are, a human being in motion, giving it your best shot here & now to move toward the next thing that feels likely to be your right next thing, and then … you notice something feels off. So then you head roughly in the right direction—whatever feels a bit more right. That’s it. Nothing to find fault with. No need to bury your head in your hands (or under the covers or in the sand). No need to go over what on earth you were thinking when you pointed yourself to where you find yourself now. YOU’RE JUST A HUMAN BEING on planet Earth. Will you please let yourself just be a human being? Here are 4 simple facts that could help with that.
This bit is important: You were never even meant to sit around hating on yourself because you’re noticing now that you missed some cues and maybe are way farther down the path (or rabbit hole) that feels off that you would ever hope to be. There’s one thing to do when you find yourself in the above scenario. And, craziest thing (put it to crow music): It’s the same thing to do if you hadn’t found yourself in that sorry place! Just be a human being in motion here & now heading roughly in the right direction. That’s what people do at rock-bottom. It’s what they do when things are a bit messy. It’s what they do when things are just kind of normal. It’s what they do when things are humming along. Move. ROUGHLY in the right direction. Not even trying to get anything right. You’ll keep getting operating instructions as you go. You’ll course-correct as you go. And would you please have fun while you’re doing that? THAT, my friends, is very possible and desirable here in a human life on planet Earth. You’re supposed to have fun and feel the joy and notice the magic and laugh your fool head off. You can even scream like a crow. And this sense of fun and connection to joy makes you better company for the other journeyers here. And for yourself. And for other animals and sentient beings of all kinds (like trees and … I include rocks). Please have fun. Love & blessings, Jaya Where did I even learn the term set point? I looked it up for this writing and this is what I found (from Merriam-Webster): the level or point at which a variable physiological state (such as body temperature or weight) tends to stabilize. So that’s the level or point where things will naturally head back to when something interrupts homeostasis. Of course—you already know this—I’m interested in the psychological or personality application. Storytime (and what got me thinking about set points) I’m on crutches right now, so basic navigation—moving from point A to point B—has changed. This has called forth other changes to make daily life work, including rearranging of physical space. The layout of my mom’s home, where I’m currently staying, includes quite a large single-room space that contains living room, dining room, and kitchen. At the end of a table that takes up most of the designated eating area, there’s a place where my mom habitually sits to do stuff, on and off all day, for many hours of the day. Behind that spot is the kitchen area—you know, food, water, appliances. Her place isn’t large, but I’m thin and usually agile, so walking around her chair into the kitchen area was never a problem before. But now I’m on crutches. Not only do I take up more space, but now the word agile wouldn’t remotely apply to how I move my body. To make this whole current reality work, we angled the table differently, putting Mom’s usual chair over closer to wall and fridge—still at the same end of the table (no DRASTIC difference), but oriented differently. Her chair (therefore, she) sits in a different spot on her floor, but still at the same end of the table. Got the picture? This very simply makes a larger opening beside her, where I can easily get through on crutches as I go back and forth. That’s the new thing we established that we both like better given current reality. That is, I get through easily WHEN SHE STAYS OVER THERE. In that new space we created, just a few inches over, where it actually now works better for all involved. But the habitual set point seeks to reassert itself. Constantly. She’s sat in that chair doing stuff FOR YEARS. At a certain specific place. So while she’s 100% willing to have the table pointing differently and have her chair over a bit … she keeps scooching back unconsciously to where she’s always sat. It’s like a force field that sucks her back over, an incredible magnet charged with the power of HABIT. So I just point it out when I can’t get through again, and she scoots back over, and all is well. Until she gets sucked over to the habitual place again—to the set point. Which is fine. One of us notices again, and she scoots back over. It seems to be happening less often. Okay, personal-growth wonders, do you even need me to draw out this metaphor for you? My fondest wish (okay, just one of them) would be that, everybody, stop getting upset and horrified and aghast and baffled and [fill in your favorite reactive adjective] when you find yourself doing that old thing you said you weren’t going to do: maybe you’ve talked about it in therapy, you’ve got crystal-clear self-awareness around it (or it’s getting ever clearer), you really really don’t want to do it the old way (it feels AWFUL when you do). … So why the fuck do you keep doing it? Why I’d love for you not to get upset (yes, I do want you to find where YOU do that to YOURself), is because that’s just actually how it works. It happens. It’s okay. That’s really the way of it. There’s some set point you’ve habituated to, and it WILL pull you back to the place you know so well, even if you hate it. Even if you thought you’d done so much work on it that you could never get sucked over there again. Sometimes people claim that they’re comfortable in some awful feeling or behavior or way of being they disapprove of, and I challenge them. They usually end up agreeing with me that it’s actually not comfortable—it’s habitual. It acts as a set point that’s so well-reinforced, it just sucks you back to its established place. So, to offer 9 examples, perhaps you recognize some set point in yourself around:
Hey, if (and only if) you want to play an Enneagram game, I’ll put a key below, at the end of this writing, for you to check whether you correlated these tendencies to the right core type. Reminder that more than one may apply to you, as more than one type neatly describes the whole of how any of us operates (though we all have a core type that is our core type for life). … Do any of those 9 examples seem comfortable? They’re not. They’re totally habitual (some or predominantly one of them for each of you). They act as a set point. They will reassert themselves. How do you undo it? It’s all already written in the above, but I’ll lay it out simply below.
That’s right. Keep cycling through. Don’t make it a problem (it’s not). Accuse yourself of nothing. THIS IS HOW IT WORKS, so just follow the directions with no dismay or self-castigation. If you’d like to consider or watch for some other set points you may want to unwire and rewire, here are some ideas:
We really can and do create new set points. You might consider some old ones you’ve extinguished (or considerably softened) and new ones already established. You can do this till you die. I plan to, and I know a number of good souls who live that way—so you’ll be in good company. Love & blessings, Jaya ENNEAGRAM KEY FOR 9 TENDENCIES ABOVE
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